Great wise men often seek common ground while reserving differences. In other words, on the issue of principle, everyone makes their views clear, and after discussion or argument, they can always reach an agreement and are not so stubborn. They are good at learning from others and making up for their own shortcomings. Such people make rapid progress and are easy to get along with.
Mediocre people will soon be reconciled in feelings and loyalty, so as to be kind to everyone. In such a group, hurting people's feelings is a taboo, alienating them from morality, and it is difficult to get rid of big disasters because of small things. Such a group is short-lived.
To be a gentleman is to have a mind and a spirit of adhering to principles.
If you are open-minded, you will be good at communicating with people. Can listen to all kinds of opinions; Other people's opinions can sober you up and let you see your own shortcomings. Correcting shortcomings is progress.
Generally speaking, mediocrity is self-righteous and ambitious; Hard to say, untouchable; Don't listen to other people's opinions, look down on others for no reason, and can't see other people's advantages and their own shortcomings. When you encounter big difficulties, you either walk away or you can't bear it. You are not good at solving problems according to the situation. Everyone else is in a daze. There has never been a big right and wrong, but they like to covet small profits. Such people basically like each other and can't last long.
A gentleman should know how to stick to principles in everything, which is commonly known as "playing by the rules of the game". This is a very important level, and it is the accumulation of certain life experience, which can't be really achieved by an armchair strategist.
Because adhering to principles and communication is a contradiction, which is necessary for doing business. Adhering to the principle itself is a disgusting thing, and it is endless to seriously remove the obstacles that hinder the development of the cause; Communication is to let participants understand the truth of playing by the rules of the game. Adhering to principles is not a rude rejection of dissidents, and communication is not unprincipled accommodation. Dialectically and harmoniously unify the two. Without a broad mind and an ignorance of right and wrong, a gentleman can't do it at all and can't do it well. Therefore, gentlemen together, although opinions and viewpoints are often different, can always achieve * * * knowledge through communication and struggle, and can get along for a long time.
Gentleman and villain are not absolute, but relative. The so-called "reading a book together, each receiving its own olympiad." Doing a topic together has its own beauty. "It's all about people, and it's always uneven. Therefore, gentlemen and villains are not born or eternal, but can be transformed into each other. The villain has a heart in his heart. He can realize the truth of being a man in social practice, absorb the strengths of others, make up for his own shortcomings, constantly correct his own shortcomings and make continuous progress, and he will become a gentleman.
Those who think they are old, know more, have enough experience, and have a good grasp of their past lives, are self-righteous, start telling others what to do, stop listening to other people's criticisms, and become rigid. It should be said that such people are actually transforming into villains.
There is an old saying in China that "Tao changes at any time".
Everything in the world is relative and dialectical. Whether it is war, administration or management, we can't stick to the rules, because everything is developing and changing, otherwise there is no choice but to go backwards.