Successful cases of parents educating their children 1. The children's grades were so poor that their father went on a hunger strike.
Jia Taorong has a daughter Jia Lei and a son Jia Yi, whose eldest son is two years old. Jia invested a lot of money and time in the study of a pair of children, but the result was very disappointing. After only 70 points in an exam, Jia was so sad that he lay in bed and sighed. He didn't eat or drink for two days and nights and said to his daughter, "You need 30 points to get 100 points. I have to fast for at least three days. " Jia Yi complained that his father "only recognized scores, but not his daughter. What kind of father is it? " It's no different from just recognizing money and not recognizing people. Hearing this, Jia was sad and wronged, and shouted, "Who am I?" ? Isn't it for you? "He jumped out of bed, grabbed something and threw it. Of course, he robbed the soy sauce bottle and took it out on worthless things.
The daughter's grades are not good, and the son is disappointing. One is playing games online, and the other is fighting with classmates. I almost got expelled from school after repeated education.
Second, looking back, raising children is not raising pigs.
1999, when Jia visited his cousin on a business trip in Zhengzhou, he found that his home used to be warm and tidy. Now the kitchen is very cold, there is dust on the table and cobwebs hanging in the corner. My cousin was lying in bed alone, with muddy tears streaming silently on his sallow face, and said, what a good boy Longlong used to be. Later, I clearly saw that he paid attention to food and clothing. I hurt him and ruined this family! It turned out that my cousin's son, Longlong, was boarding at school, out of the control of his parents, and made some irresponsible friends like a runaway wild horse. Later, he was addicted to drugs, which led him to be sentenced to four years in prison for robbery. His wife was mad, stripped naked and ran around the street, and was sent to a mental hospital.
After returning home, Jia remembered his cousin's tears and couldn't sleep all night: no success can make up for the failure of educating children! Thinking that if Jia Yi, the son who has committed the crime of "playing games", slips down, he will become like a dragon one day ... Thinking about it, cold sweat will drip down his back.
Third, to educate children, we need to be educated first.
Jia thought, it is better to ask for help than to ask for help. Instead of pushing children to schools and others, it is better to turn yourself into an education expert. To this end, he resolutely implemented the three commandments-quitting smoking, drinking and playing mahjong, subscribed to several magazines and newspapers, bought a lot of biographies of celebrities and educational monographs, and spent all his spare time reading. In the past, when Jia talked to children, he always repeated the sentence "study hard" for thousands of times. Now he says, "When Lee Jong-do was a child, Lincoln was a child ...".
When Jia first asked his son if he was in a good mood, Jia Yi was surprised: I didn't fight with others recently, and I didn't take an exam! He looked at his father carefully and said, "What's the matter? Just say it! " Jia was choked by his son and said wryly, "I didn't know my son was not a pig before. No, I mean adopting a son, not a pig. If you can't support yourself, everything will be fine. You should care about your son's joys and sorrows. In the future, I will be happy if you are happy, and I will be happy if you are happy, just as the lyrics say. " Jia Yi was silent for a while, then blushed and said, "Dad, thank you for understanding that your son is not a pig. I really need spiritual care than food and clothing. I hope I can discuss with my father when I have difficulties, and I can tell my father when I have troubles. " Jia's eyes are also moist: for so many years, my son is talking to himself for the first time!
In the final exam, Lainka only got more than 60 points in mathematics. When she got home, she asked her mother to cook some good dishes first, and then kept picking up dishes for her father at the dinner table, saying, "Dad, I'm full. I've eaten all my meals for four days." After 60 o'clock, according to the usual practice, Jia will fast for four days. Unexpectedly, his father always smiles, while Lainka looks pale and thinks: This is the calm before the storm! Jia was not angry because he had just finished reading the works of educator Wei Shusheng. Teacher Wei said: it is the most painful and sad time for children to fail the exam. Parents should beat and scold again and put pressure on them. Isn't that just putting salt on your child's wound? Parents who have the ability should help their children come up with specific measures and methods to improve their grades, while parents who have no ability should at least encourage their children.
Jia put away the math test paper and said to her daughter loyally, it is common for a military strategist to win or lose. How smart you were in junior high school. You even got full marks in math. With your cleverness, you will do well in the exam next time as long as you put your heart into it. Lainka couldn't believe his ears. He looked at his father suspiciously: You don't want to go on a hunger strike? Jia solemnly said that you failed the exam. Why should I starve? Lainka cried with a loud "wow": Dad, as long as you believe me, I will have confidence! A confident child is sure to succeed. In the college entrance examination, Lainka scored 138 (full mark 150) in mathematics and was successfully admitted to the key university-Shanghai University of Finance and Economics.
Successful methods for parents to educate their children. Never let their children make promiscuous friends.
Let children only communicate with children who know each other well among friends. They have never been friends, and they are rarely seen in calling friends. Parents have strict restrictions on their children making friends. Never let children associate with children who have bad hobbies and love to fight and play. They let their children associate with the children of colleagues or friends who know each other well. Both parents are familiar with each other, and the children are naturally not bad.
Second, never contact with complaining parents.
They are independent, seldom complain, and can understand others. There is little or no close contact with the parents of children's classmates, so that children can always maintain a state of "friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" with their classmates in class. Always put learning first, and never dilute the main task because of other things. Never contact complaining parents, and always keep a healthy and upward attitude.
Third, be strict with children.
Strictly speaking, it's not about beating and cursing, but about controlling children's behaviors and habits and paying attention to her little by little. If there are any deficiencies, correct them in time. For example, strictly control children's play time, and "hard work and leisure" is the unchanging creed of educating children.
Fourth, understand the children and don't ask too much of them.
Evaluate your children objectively, don't give too high expectations and don't be pessimistic. Instead, set goals according to children's actual abilities. A successful father said, I don't expect my children to be the first in the exam. I just want her to strive for the best result through her own efforts. If she can't get into Tsinghua, she will get into a big school. If she can't get into a university, it's not bad to get into a local college. All she has to do is work hard. In fact, the father is trying to pay attention to the process, not the result.
Fifth, make friends with children and listen to their voices.
Successful parents respect their children very much, and they will listen to their voices. Whenever children talk to them, they will put down their housework and listen carefully. Even if what children say is trivial, it is an important part of their lives.
The famous saying that parents educate their children is 1. Children's rationality is constantly growing. Don't feed them, guide them.
2. Make an experimental plan in detail to help children learn more.
3. Teaching is to not teach; Tube is useless.
4. Parents should be good at observing children carefully and discover their curiosity from their every move, words and deeds. -Keiichi Kimura
5. Let the child do what he can.
6. Give play to children's ability to actively understand their talents.
7. Let the child independently complete the basic part of the work he is engaged in, even if there will be no positive results.
8. Parents should develop reasonable behavior habits and pay attention to let their children learn to do it.
9. Children's academic performance is important, but the quality training of children is more important. Children's strong self-motivation first comes from their persistent pursuit of lofty goals. Therefore, parents should help their children set lofty goals from an early age, and encourage them to persevere and motivate themselves for realistic goals. -Dawn
10, people who can learn will get twice the result with half the effort if they study properly; Anyone who disobeys the law will get twice the result with half the effort. -Era
It is true that our children are making progress every day. But their progress and progress speed are different.
12, it is not terrible for children to have physical defects. What is terrible is that parents, as the leaders of their children's lives, lack correct family education concepts and teaching methods. Jenny alimu
13. Teach children to communicate freely with adults of all ages.
14, the task of family education, first of all, is the education of parents and their learning.
15, good character is better than excellent intelligence.
16, encourage children not to rely on adults as much as possible.
17. Encourage children to find problems and then solve them.
18, don't praise your child insincerely.
19, children from poor families should be taken care of early, but we should be wary of "people are in trouble."
20. Frustration education is not only to let children live a hard life and do some hard work. The focus of frustration education is to cultivate children's strong quality in the face of setbacks. -Liu Dawei