This is a very bad habit. Being easily controlled by others means that you can't control your own destiny, be controlled by others and have no position. It is also easy to be used by others in life, so you must stand firm. It's ok to listen to other people's opinions properly, but I think it's foolish to blindly listen to other people's arrangements.

First of all, we should cultivate our self-confidence. We should do everything ourselves in our daily life. Make your own decisions. Don't always ask others' opinions. Do what you want. No matter whether you succeed or fail, you will bear all the consequences. And when you finish one thing by yourself, you will feel that many things are not as difficult as we thought, and learn to think independently. When there is a problem, calm down and think about it by yourself, and how to do it. Try to be alone, because when you are alone, your mind is the clearest.

If others put forward their opinions, you can listen to them properly, but don't take everything the people around you say seriously, learn the good side by yourself, learn to automatically block out the bad ones, copy the good ones completely, and have your own personal opinions when you actually act. If people around you always deliberately interfere with you and influence your thinking, you can also speak your own thoughts properly or refuse others. Learning to refuse is also an important step of self-independence.

It is inevitable that some people will be around you in your life, giving you such and such advice. You should pay attention to yourself and give yourself affirmation and confidence. If you are given advice by people with ulterior motives, it will probably make you worse and worse.