What? Since there is no divorce, there must be a reason. If both parties have no intention of divorce, as an intervening person, can you wait ten years? Twenty years? Then maybe we will wait until someone repairs the rift in their marriage and reconciles as before. What are they trying to do?

Let me tell you, there are basically three possible endings to an extramarital relationship like yours.

The first is "He lied to you":

This is the most common ending of this kind of relationship in my consultation. This kind of married man is a "professional betrayal". The validity period of his feelings for you is 3 months.

After this period, he will lose the freshness towards you, spread his hands and say:

I find that I don’t love you that much, and you are not as good as I imagined. Beautiful woman, I found that I love my wife more.

He has used this trick on countless women. You are just a member of his "passionate assembly line".

The second type is "He lied to himself":

This kind of man is best described by the famous saying of Hong Shixian, the most powerful scumbag in history:

Love is the most unreliable thing. The most ridiculous thing is to get carried away by love, then get divorced, get married, get married and divorce again, and there will never be peace. If I choose you for love today, then one day I will definitely abandon you for love.

The scary thing about this kind of man is that he lied to himself and was still in the fun.

He really thinks that he can go through fire and water for you without any hesitation, and he can even force his wife to leave her and truly fulfill his promise.

But you have to remember that a man abandons his wife of many years, all the assets and reputation he has worked hard for, all in vain, and has to bear the infamy for an underground love. At these prices, he really Are you prepared to bear it?

He left home and his quality of life declined. What was he trying to do?

The picture is of temporary passion, but passion is like a wave, coming and going quickly, because its essence is a bubble. Psychology calls this phenomenon "idealization", and it treats you as Goddess, but you are nothing but a mortal flesh fetus.

When he really wakes up from the passion, he will feel that the "emotion without makeup" is so ugly, and he will go back to find his original wife on the grounds of "not feeling it".

But the greater possibility is that when it came time to actually talk about divorce, his motivation became less and less, and the divorce negotiations entered a protracted war, and he discovered the real cruelty of divorce;

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He will feel guilty, sorry for his wife, sorry for his children, feel pain in his heart, reluctant to let his years of struggle go to waste, unable to face his parents and friends around him

As for you, you are also starting to You are becoming increasingly suspicious of him, feeling that he is just trying to deceive you.

Once there is a crack in the "sense of trust", you can only rely on the other party to divorce quickly to "reunite", otherwise the crack of distrust will become bigger and bigger, and you will have more and more quarrels. , and finally he became increasingly "rogue":

That's it for me, what can you do to me.

So, bloody love is another common outcome of extramarital relationships.

The third option is that this is true love:

But this possibility is about the same as winning the lottery.

Why?

Because there is a saying that goes well: "If the name is not correct, the words will not be smooth, and if the words are not smooth, the things will not be accomplished."

The first essence of extramarital relationships lies in "irresponsibility":

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But once a relationship develops into a "down-to-earth relationship", it violates the "hidden rules of extramarital affairs". A relationship that "does not require responsibility" now requires "responsibility", then its core The appeal is lost.

The second essence of extramarital affairs lies in "low emotional intelligence":

If a man has enough emotional intelligence, he can do two things:

* First, he can have a good relationship with his wife;

* Second, if the relationship is not good, he can divorce.

But he can neither have a good relationship with his wife nor end a relationship with no future. Instead, he first has a family and then wants to divorce. So have you ever asked him:

What is the problem between you and your wife that cannot be solved? Will this happen again between us?

If he cannot answer these two questions, then he is now making decisions entirely on impulse.

If feelings are only impulsive and devoid of rationality, then this relationship is just a "100-meter sprint" and cannot last long enough to become a "marathon".

So I would like to advise all women who are in love with married men:

Ask yourself, what scarcity do you have that makes this man willing to abandon his home for you? Industry, abandoning wives and children, betraying relatives and leaving relatives?

If it’s just your beauty and your scheming, then I advise you not to be too naive.

Finally, I would like to advise those women outside marriage: the game with a married man is destined to be a trap, and you cannot afford it.