There used to be a man in our office who was arrogant all day, and there were people in the society, as if white gangsters were under his command and command. Some colleagues are afraid of him, and the leaders are in awe of him. He is even more arrogant, as if he really became the boss of the office.

Once, he took the opportunity of drinking a little wine and asked me something in front of others in the office. I decided to give him some color to see see As soon as I struck the table, I jumped up from my seat and hit him. Fortunately, it was caught by leading colleagues, and this plane is not working. However, I said a few harsh words in front of leading colleagues, saying that if you talk to me in this tone again, I will see you again.

One day, a tattooed young man came to our office to make trouble, and his colleagues hid aside without saying a word. I just went up and asked something, and the young man almost pointed his finger at my nose to provoke me. I can't stand it. I rushed up and scratched him twice in the face, then a shoulder fall threw him to the ground, and he was subdued with a backhand buckle and handed over to the police station for handling. Although the unit compensated the young people for thousands of dollars in medical expenses and lost time, that colleague has been trembling in front of me ever since.

Maybe that colleague wanted to save face and invited me to dinner one day. I went to the hotel lobby with him, and a group of young people stood up and called him big brother. In fact, the leaders of those young people know me very well. Before eating, he called me respectfully and said that his colleagues invited them to eat and sing, plus a pack of cigarettes, each of which cost 100 yuan. My colleagues spend money to buy face, which really makes me drunk.

Later, I was transferred from the office. That colleague was sent to work in a remote place because he made some safety mistakes. Listening to other people's feedback, that colleague still hasn't got rid of the habit of pretending to be forced.

The rivers and mountains may change, but not one's essential nature

I am @ Workplace Learning Hall. Looking back on my career experience, I think being pushy is the performance of smart people in the workplace. As long as you don't cross the line, you can definitely get a promotion and a raise.

In the workplace, especially in public institutions, what I am most afraid of is those complacent players. The outstanding performance of complacent people is: working hard, working overtime every day, or on the way to working overtime, thinking that their work is a regret of their career.

But the reality taught me a lesson. This kind of pushy colleague is often the fastest growing person. When we were still struggling in the clerical position, people had already entered the minor course in advance.

With the accumulation of experience in the workplace, I later understood that being competitive is actually a good way to show my ability and report my work performance. The reason for this is the following：

First of all, enterprising people usually have absolute confidence in their work. No matter how stupid a person is, he won't show off his problematic job as his own capital, and accidentally put himself on the black spot. This kind of person is considered before showing off. This kind of consideration is the so-called workplace thinking ability.

Second, people who love to show off are more likely to be concerned by leaders. To put it bluntly, a lot of the work we do overtime every day belongs to routine work, which is completely out of favor in the eyes of leaders. Colleagues who love to show off have solved this problem well, and feedback their work to the leaders through the limelight, so that the leaders feel their efforts and achievements.

Third, people who love to show off are born with leadership skills. Coordination is very important in leadership, and it is difficult for introverts to do a good job of coordination. Most pushy people are extroverted and have a natural foundation for coordination, which is rare and valuable.

In a word, I understand publicity as a kind of reporting behavior in the workplace, which is worth promoting. Of course, being pushy must be controlled within a certain range.

After finding that it is easier to get a promotion and a raise by being competitive, I tried to study. As a result, I found that showing off is really a technical job, and people with stupid mouths can't learn it at all.

Through my study and observation, I summed up the following specific forms of expression that should be advocated and promoted:

First, vigorously publicize outstanding achievements. If you have made achievements in your work, you must show your achievements. Don't think that it is enough for leaders to know. How to show your achievements, you should not only publicize your achievements, but also publicize your efforts, which will make leaders and colleagues more sure of your ability.

The second is to publicize transactional work in a timely manner. Transactional work involves a lot of energy, but in the eyes of leaders, this kind of work is only a responsibility and can't contribute. People who love to show off find another way, and transactional work is also publicized by everyone. At least in the eyes of the leader, you have been working.

Third, the things arranged by the leaders are the first. When arranging work, leaders predict the results of work and possible problems. Therefore, the work arranged by the leaders, regardless of the outcome, must be invited first. This is a question of attitude. No matter what the result is, you have left a deep impression on the leader.

In short, in the workplace, we must learn to show off, hard work is absolutely impossible, and we can't highlight ourselves when we are exhausted.

Everything has a bottom line. Why people hate people who love to show off may be the following taboos:

One is to show off the achievements of others. This behavior must not be done. This kind of limelight will come out one day. Not only will the leader think that you are two-faced, but you are also more likely to attract the exclusion of your colleagues.

The second is to show off at inappropriate times. The main purpose of showing off is to show merit. Therefore, timing is very important. Never show merit when the leader is angry or criticizes others. Not only add fuel to the fire, but also easily arouse the resentment of criticized colleagues.

The third is false days. We allow you to exaggerate appropriately when showing kindness, which is also a cash withdrawal. However, don't be too pretentious, blow it up and hit your face backhand, which will easily make the leaders feel that you are useless.

The fourth is where the limelight is. Remember that the object of our limelight is the leader, and I hope that the leader will see and pay attention. There is no need to show off when there are only colleagues, because the effort is not flattering, but annoying colleagues.

The point is, newcomers in the workplace should never show off, even if you really do the work alone. Because you have just entered the workplace and have no foundation of your own, the leaders always keep a skeptical and wait-and-see attitude towards your ability. When verifying one's own achievements, it is easy for leaders not to let others pick fruits, but it is still not good.

Anyway. Showing off the limelight is a taboo, so we must choose the right time and do it moderately.

I am @ Workplace Learning Hall. I encourage professionals to show off. I hope everyone can learn to show off. A positive display can show one's ability and attract the attention of leaders. Don't work hard and don't show off. At best, you are a competent subordinate and you don't have the conditions for promotion and salary increase.

I work within the system. At the beginning of this year, the unit recruited a 32-year-old graduate student through talent introduction and was finally assigned to our department.

At first, I just thought that this person was a little talkative, and nothing else was unusual.

In the later period of getting along, I gradually found something was wrong, so that I still think this person is cunning and treacherous.

On the surface, she and all her colleagues are laughing and joking and become friends with each other. The most exaggerated time was when a person from another unit came to our office to do business. She doesn't know the name of this person, just saying, how can it be you? Last time we played cards together, we added WeChat and sent our names to each other through WeChat. All this happened before my eyes, and I could feel each other's embarrassment. He must be thinking.

She likes to show that she is keen on climbing relationships with anyone she can meet, boasting that she has many acquaintances, and she also likes to mingle with other people in the unit. Although it is only a superficial rhetoric, she never stops talking in the office, and she is always the first to speak when the leader comes. Not only that, she also talked behind her back about her colleagues who seem to have a good relationship with her, and even the leaders in the office. Once I really couldn't stand it, saying that my colleagues at work were not as bad as you said, so don't talk about others behind their backs. From then on, as long as there is a place where I am, she will no longer spit on others. I know she must still be spitting behind my back, even me.

This kind of person is really hard to like. In fact, no one is a fool. After a period of getting along, everyone knows her character. No matter how she behaved, even the leader didn't bother to ask.

Facts have proved everything. Don't conflict with these duplicitous people, because these people hold grudges especially, and there is no need to be villains. Don't take part in the limelight, it's a whirlpool, and people who like to show off will fall in sooner or later.

Pay special attention to talking less and doing more within the system and strive to get ahead.

Let him out [burying his face]

Does not affect your work.

Does not affect your life.

If you care

Will affect the mood [cover your face]

show off

Two kinds of results

The icing on the cake

Shame [cover your face]

What is missing?

Show off what [cover your face]

Have determination.

Just watch the excitement [more exciting]

I want to ask you, what kind of clothes are you talking about? Is related. That kind of high-flying costume? Or pretend to have nothing?

A related person likes to show off, no matter whether the relationship with him is strong or not, being close is a resource.

Pretending to have nothing is like saving face, which is neither against the law nor against you, so it doesn't matter. It's really in front of you. You just have to pay tribute. He said: Look at my watch, imported from Italy, 1 10,000. You said: Really, Director Wang, let me have a look. I haven't seen this countryman, but Director Wang's family has a big career. Buying a watch is equivalent to buying a house He said, look, be careful. You said: Is that wrong?

This is the end, you didn't offend him, and you didn't show disgust for him. Then do what you have to do.

Focus on self-growth and don't be disturbed by irrelevant things every day, otherwise there will be too many troubles.

I'm glad to answer your question.

If you have such a colleague, you must find a way to cure him. When you meet him, you will praise him and make him feel great. But everyone knows his character, especially when there are many people. Let me give you an example. I once had a colleague who liked to pretend. We all call him the leader. Sometimes when we eat together, I say eat noodles. He said there was something to eat with noodles, and he began to pretend.

Colleagues in the office always pretend to be forced. What should I do?

I'm glad to answer your question.

In fact, I have encountered the same problem as you, but I didn't know you met a man and a woman.

As the saying goes, pretending to be forced is nothing more than dressing up as a pig and eating an elephant. You can't just understand foreign officials without understanding the essence. What they want to pretend to show off most is nothing more than those points. They try to tell you this and remind you of it. Is the most deadly intangible thing. Although I have improved my level, I am also afraid of further discussion. A lie will be rounded up by countless lies, and one day it will not be rounded up.

What about pretending? Let me summarize a few points.

1, the height should be higher than him. Seeing him is like watching a pediatrician, laughing it off, just smiling without talking, just like a child showing you the pencil case he bought.

2. Hold him and treat him as a relocated person. Worship him sincerely and praise him from the heart. Although it's disgusting in retrospect, try to be friends.

Trying to surpass him, of course, is not that he is pretending, but that the ugly girl overtakes him overwhelmingly. For example, he graduated from a prestigious school, but his work performance is not as good as yours, overwhelming him.

Of course, for the solution

I like a wise saying very much. He puts on his clothes and the bright moon shines on the river. Don't listen, don't look, open the line and let him fade away from you.

A female colleague in the office likes to talk about family affairs all day: Why did my son compete with his sister for toys last night? My sister doesn't like eating for some reason. I accompanied my sister-in-law to buy a baby walker ... and after a lot of housework, I became the topic king in the office alone. Whether her colleagues around her like it or not, she tells her stories to her colleagues in other time outside work. In fact, a female colleague catered to her topic, and her parents were narrow-minded and took care of trivial matters. We and several other colleagues are bored. Now, as soon as she starts talking, we will turn on our mobile phones to listen to songs and music, or leave our seats to chat together in the corridor outside the door. People are really not interested in people who always put the first person on the topic of office chat. If someone is willing to talk to you about your topic, most of them just agree with you.

There are always people in the office who like to show off and show off at the same time. It's not a bad thing at all Unless you want to show off, you may need to talk about pk with each other.

First of all, people who love to show off are basically high-profile people who like to enjoy the feeling of being noticed. Even if their work ability is not very strong, when people talk about a topic or something unrelated to work, they always like to lead the topic to themselves or make themselves the leader of the topic. In fact, these people are constantly seeking attention, hoping to get more people's praise and find their own sense of existence in the workplace.

Secondly, if you want to show off and be covered by these people who love to show off, then you need to pay attention to which topics you are more interested in, so that you can really become the center of showing off.

And if you just hate other people's pushy personality, you can only turn a blind eye. After all, if you take the initiative to intervene or point out some bad practices of others, it will hurt the relationship between colleagues and it may be difficult to get temporary peace.

Moreover, people who like to show off can sometimes ease the embarrassing atmosphere in some workplaces. After all, when everyone is unwilling to do something, people who like to show off choose to do it, which can more or less save others from embarrassing situations.

2. You should be high-profile in your work and low-key in your life.

A universal way of life!