1, the mentality is not sunny enough.
Life can never be smooth sailing, and people who are not sunny are generally depressed when they encounter setbacks. They don't know how to let go, and when they encounter setbacks, they will feel depressed, which will easily affect their friends around them.
In the law of heterosexual friends, men like heterosexual friends to be cheerful and generous, while women like heterosexual friends to be responsible and sunny. People who are not in the sunshine are generally not liked by friends of the opposite sex, so it is normal to have no friends of the opposite sex.
How do people spend their lives? I believe that ten thousand people have ten thousand answers. But most people have * * * knowledge, which is a happy life. Everyone doesn't want to have a friend who can't get up because one thing immediately falls into the bottom of life.
Friends get along more with each other to encourage each other's progress than with each other to comfort you all the time. This kind of bilateral communication is very hot and tiring.
2, inner timidity
Frank, an American writer, said: "If you are a coward, you are your own greatest enemy;" But if you are brave, you are your best friend. "
People who are timid in heart are generally weak because of family factors. The main reason why timid people don't have friends of the opposite sex is that most of them have "social phobia".
It is because of social phobia that I dare not make friends with the opposite sex. Maybe a normal opposite sex look makes their palms sweat. Compared with friends of the opposite sex, they prefer to hide at home and entertain themselves alone.
Most timid people are kind-hearted, but they have social phobia because of the stimulation of external factors. They are usually timid, and when they encounter a little trouble, they would rather shrink back than show their faces. Even some people are used to rolling with the punches.
It is normal for people to have no friends of the opposite sex, because of their own cowardice, because of the adverse reactions in interpersonal relationships with the opposite sex caused by obstacles, or because everyone is relatively withdrawn or isolated by themselves.
3, sloppy does not pay attention to image
Mr. Lu Xun once said that "dignified clothes and hats are the greatest respect for others", and many people like to say that not paying attention to appearance and having no connotation is a person's most important virtue. But how can you have the opportunity to show others your core competitiveness-connotation?
The image of appearance is the best business card a person sees at first. It will make a preliminary judgment when it first meets your opposite sex friends. The first thing others want to know about you is your external image. If the external image is not good, it will leave a very bad first impression. In psychology, the importance of first impression is self-evident.
Just like Lu Xun's famous saying, if you don't pay attention to appearance, you first show disrespect for friends of the opposite sex. Friends are mutual. If you don't respect others, how can others show respect to you? It's normal not to have the opposite sex, but ...
4, infatuation, don't care about other opposite sex.
I wonder if you have any friends around you. Once they have a girlfriend, they will delete all the contact information of friends of the opposite sex. The purpose of doing this is to reassure your girlfriend, but also to show that you don't care about any other friends of the opposite sex except you.
Such infatuated and single-minded people are generally simple-minded people. They cut off all their friends of the opposite sex in a rude way. Love is great, but love will not be an obstacle to friendship. If the other person really loves you, it does not prevent you from making friends with the opposite sex within a reasonable range of interpersonal communication. Similarly, if the object doesn't love you, even if you delete all the opposite sex in the world, the other person won't choose you.
Don't go to extremes in love or friendship. People who like to go to extremes often think in black and white. But how can this complex world be explained by black or white? Therefore, it is normal for such people to do it entirely by themselves and have no friends of the opposite sex.
5. The art of not talking and not knowing how to communicate
Generally, people with high emotional intelligence will have many friends because they know how to communicate with different types of people properly. People who can talk are always pleasing, and people who can't talk are always boring.
People who can't speak and don't understand the art of communication often speak frankly, and they will tell what they think and hear. Regardless of the status and face of the people present, just be happy.
When chatting with friends of the opposite sex, we must pay attention to each other's ideas, and don't apply self-righteous ideas to friends of the opposite sex, because men and women think differently and in different ways. It's easy to offend friends of the opposite sex if you don't pay attention to your methods.