Recently, middle-class (annual income of more than 500,000) children’s interest class contempt chains have triggered heated discussions among netizens. Among them, the sports contempt chains are as follows:

Equestrian>Golf>Ice Hockey>Fencing>Baseball/ American football > Figure skating > Tennis > Football > Taekwondo > Badminton and table tennis > Swimming > Running

The contempt chain for musical instruments is as follows:

Organ > Harp > Cello > Violin > Flute > Saxophone >Drums>Piano

As a mother of children, when I see such a chain of contempt, I just want to apply one of Li Dan's wise sayings: "The world is not worth it." Mainly because I feel that the hard work of the children is not worth it!

Today’s children really have to endure too many tests and pressures. For example, when we were young, it was considered a high-end feature for someone to learn piano at home. Nowadays, piano interest classes are considered to be the last option of musical instruments. Niche musical instruments such as organ and harp are popular in Ali, and sports classes are even more popular, such as Equestrian, golf, ice hockey, fencing and other sports that were only available to the wealthy have now become compulsory interest classes for children.

As a mother who has only arranged swimming classes for her children, I am currently considering whether to arrange piano lessons (I have a piano at home and my children like it very much). Seeing such a chain of interest and contempt, I feel that I am one of the people living at the bottom of the "food chain". Compared with the adults who work hard in big cities and the fiercely competitive children, people like us from small counties in the 18th tier are really There are many people who want to "have no desires and no demands".

Why does the interest class contempt chain appear? This is a common phenomenon caused by parents’ strata feeling anxious about external pressure. So why is the middle class so anxious? Exposing children to so many interest tutoring classes actually has a lot to do with their environment and mentality.

1. The middle class is better than the upper class, but they dare not slack off in order to jump to a higher class.

As the middle class, for those from small cities, It is said that they have abundant resources and material conditions, but for those truly wealthy people, they have a big gap and shortcomings. They hope to jump to a higher class through their own hard work and efforts, so that their families and children can have better economic conditions and material foundation, and at the same time, they can stand higher and see further in big cities.

2. I hope that through the children’s learning and growth, they will jump to a higher class, and at the same time, I hope that my children will have a better future and opportunities

Since I don’t have much In order to achieve a class jump, parents place their hopes on their children. At the same time, they also want their children to have a better future and have more choices and opportunities. Therefore, parents have high expectations for their children, and they also give them High hopes. I hope that children can complete a counterattack in life through intensive learning and growth. Although the final result is not something everyone can achieve, even if the chance is slim, everyone is still willing to give it a try.

3. Competitive pressure from other families of the same class makes it difficult to get rid of the herd mentality

When you see other people’s children learning, but your own children don’t learn, you feel like something is missing. Or feel overtaken. On the one hand, we feel that our children are no worse than others, and we can do what others can do. On the other hand, it is influenced by other families and it is difficult to get rid of the herd mentality. Everyone is discussing the issue of their children's interest classes, which easily leads to following the trend.

Such anxiety and uneasiness will cause a lot of pressure and confusion for children. In fact, children have their own ideas and needs. Of course, parents have the responsibility to create good conditions for their children, and they also have the obligation to plan their future, but this does not mean that parents have the right to decide all their choices. So how do we get rid of the anxiety caused by being in the same class? It is recommended to do the following:

1. It is necessary to establish children’s awareness of independent choice

It is important to cultivate children’s right to make independent choices. If the child loses the right to make independent choices, especially the Learning ability, such as having to do everything according to the parents' wishes, or parents doing everything themselves, the child's learning initiative and enthusiasm can easily be destroyed.

After all, this road of learning ultimately requires them to complete the journey on their own, and parents can play a guiding and promoting role. So what we have to do is to silently support and encourage them, and give them correction and guidance when they make mistakes and take detours.

2. Develop interests and hobbies according to children’s personality characteristics

When enrolling children in interest classes, you must not follow the trend or follow the trend at will, because each child’s personality characteristics are different. The environment they live in and the education they receive are different, so it is more scientific and effective to learn to observe the growth characteristics of your children and selectively enroll in interest classes based on their personality characteristics and talents. Otherwise, it will only be a waste of time and effort. Not only will the children learn thanklessly, but the parents will also suffer.

3. Using other outstanding children to stimulate your own children is not as effective as precepts and deeds

In fact, parents’ precepts and deeds can set an example for their children, because their parents’ words and deeds will set an example for them. It slowly takes root in the heart and does not require too much preaching or reasoning. The children can also feel the same when they see it. For example, if parents like to read books and spend time reading books and newspapers every day instead of playing with mobile phones, children will naturally imitate their parents' good habits.

4. A positive and optimistic normal mind is better than an anxious state of mind

Don’t take many things too seriously. No matter what, nothing is as important as your child’s physical and mental health. Use an optimistic and positive attitude. Educate your children, and you must not lose sight of one or the other on the road to raising them. If you are too anxious and want your children to do the best in everything, without truly respecting the children and understanding their needs and feelings, the children will not be able to get the support of their parents. Recognition can easily lead to rebellion or lack of confidence, which will only be counterproductive in the end.

The chain of contempt in interest classes for middle-class children is just a microcosm of the entire society we live in. In fact, people from every class have unspeakable pressure and anxiety. Because we live in an era where economy, technology and other aspects are developing at a rapid pace, and updates and iterations of survival of the fittest are everywhere. If you are not careful, it is easy to plummet and be forgotten. Therefore, many parents put their best efforts in placing their hopes on their children, but too many Too much can easily backfire.

Since we can’t change the environment, at least we can change ourselves, change our mentality, and change our view of the environment and society, face it with a positive and optimistic attitude, and then remain calm. .

In the end, I hope we can all: "Be unfazed by favor or disgrace, watch the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court; stay or leave without intention, watch the clouds roll and relax in the sky." Then discover that the world is not unworthy!