In the past few days, through "In the Name of the People", the officialdom, the people, the system... have all been discussed.

Yes, we all belong to these words. If we are not in the officialdom, we are among the people; if we are not within the system, we are outside the system.

The system is a pain, a hurdle, a wall, a siege, a dividing line between yin and yang, a Mengpo Bridge...

There are countless people outside who want to get in. , Have you not seen the heads of Wuyang Wuyang in the "National Examination" (civil service examination) every year?

There are also countless people who have come up with it, starting from the "Six Gentlemen of Wantong" (people like Pan Shiyi and Feng Lun) in the 1990s who successfully seized the first wave of real estate development opportunities in China. , until now it is not uncommon for people to "nakedly resign", the division chiefs and county magistrates born in the 1980s, there have always been reactionary elements who took the initiative to destroy their golden jobs.

01

How difficult is it to take that step?

For a long time, a reader who added me after reading my article has been following me silently, chatting and interacting occasionally, but I don’t know who he is or what he does.

Until a few days ago, when I wrote "Asking Myself in the Name of the People: Why Can't I Be an Official", he and I had a voice chat online for a long time. One person was born in 1974. sister.

She is now in the system, but has not revealed what she does.

A foreigner from a rural area. After going to college, she joined a company within the government and stayed there for almost 20 years. There was a strong sense of reluctance in her voice:

“I really don’t like it. I really want to come out of the (working) way within the system, and I don’t come out blindly... It’s okay to take care of the elderly in the system, and it’s very comfortable to stay there—but comfort comes at a price, and you have to pay for it. I empty my mind and think of myself as a person without any thoughts, like a puppet, being held by someone. If you are asked to move to the left, you will move to the left; if you are asked to move to the right, you will move to the right. I really don’t feel like it. Like...

I have had the idea of ??coming out for more than a year. I have been discussing it with my family for more than a year, but my parents, spouse and children are all strongly opposed to my coming out - my children I'm 14 years old and I'm about to enter high school.

I thought about it with passion from the beginning, just like an angle turning from 0 degrees to 180 degrees - in the past, it was the system from my family to myself. Inner thinking, but now my thoughts have changed a lot. I can’t be a puppet without thoughts...

But under their opposition, I turned back from 180 degrees. When it reached 0 degrees, I seemed to hear my bones creaking. It was so painful... I felt like I couldn't break it off.

In fact, they didn't want to wear it yet, so they threw it away from me! There are a lot of stakes. My father said that if I start a business, it will be necessary for him to die a few years earlier! He is worried that if I start a business, they may have problems with their old age...

Being in their 40s is not the same thing. At an impulsive age, I need to be very mature now, not to have a problem with anyone, or to have a bad relationship with anyone. I don’t want to live like a puppet for the next few decades!

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I said to this sister:

You still have to listen to your inner voice. If you really want to come out, you must be fully prepared psychologically and materially, including social resources and connections. .

The moment it comes out, it is a matter of "one breath", but this "one breath" is not about anger, but about courage.

There is no monthly salary, no one. I have full respect for you, and I don’t even support you. In the past, others begged you, but now you are begging others. Without social status, you are alone, desperate, struggling, and bankrupt.

It is difficult after you come out, but if you are well prepared, it is not that difficult. There are so many people who have come out of the system and are living well now.

This sister said that she has already chosen one. The project will be released in April, I wish her all the best!

02

After taking that step, do you regret it?

I did before? I have worked in a public institution for more than ten years, and I can only be considered in the 0.5-tier system.

I don’t understand the definition of the so-called system, I can only talk about the phenomenon.

There are grades and levels on the left and right, and everything must be reported to the X committee for discussion and decision.

But the so-called discussion and decision-making are all about following the formalities seriously and going through the motions in a down-to-earth manner.

All important things are in the dark, and all high-profile discussions are actually trivial. The current person will not communicate with his predecessor, including his predecessor’s projects and instructions.

In all public competitions, the prince will study with the prince, and all selections are basically predetermined.

Of course, there are also appointments that have been tainted by democratic assessments and dark horses that have emerged.

Dozens of people competed for one seat, and it took a long time until a director-level hair turned completely white...

The launch of some new projects and the establishment of new departments and offices were just to arrange people.

......

This is within the system.

I can’t remember how many people asked me this question, how did you get out? I don’t want to describe it, it’s meaningless. After you come out, you just change things and do things in a different place. Does it make sense to keep talking about how you came out?

But there is no way, the audience is just interested in that moment, I don’t know what kind of psychology it is.

Some people always ask: Do you regret it now? If you had a better place to work, would you still start a business? If you were asked to go back now and given a position, would you go back?

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Such questions are boring. I have been out for several years. Is it meaningful to ask these questions?

But I answered patiently and sincerely. I chose my own path, and it’s not like a child playing house. What’s there to regret?

If there had been a better company to let me join, I would not have chosen to start a business. Entrepreneurship is indeed done by desperate people.

But unfortunately, this good unit did not appear at that time. I have been starting a business for more than a year, and now a good company wants me to go. Do you think I will go? Just like two people fell in love and broke up, I married another person, and now my ex shows up, do I have to divorce him again?

Obviously not. The right thing should be done at the right time. Doing it at the wrong time is a bigger mistake.

I think my personal experience can be a reference for some people inside and outside the siege. You can't look back on the path you've taken, and you can't look back on those who missed it. Even if you make a mistake, you can only make it happen.

03

After taking that step, how have you been doing?

With my very limited circle, I searched about how those people who left the system are doing now. Only a small number of people start businesses, and most of them go to work as managers in enterprises.

The director of the financial department of a media company first went to an Internet financial platform after working there for a few months, but he was not used to it. After resigning and staying at home for a while, he finally figured out that his family needed him to make money the most, so he went to an Internet company. Now he has finally adapted and is doing well.

The director of the financial department of another media company started a business with others after he came out. He was dragged into it by a friend without knowing what it was like to start a business. As a result, the partnership broke up after a few months. I went to a futures company again, but I didn’t feel comfortable with it. I came out a few months later and am now working in new media, but I still feel confused all the time. I miss the golden age of traditional media, but that era has passed.

For those who work as an advertising salesperson in the media, it is natural to come out. The company and customers are all ready, so there is no problem of not adapting.

A large group company has also recruited many executives who have come out of the system, including mayors, directors, county magistrates, editors-in-chief... But here everyone can only listen to one boss. It is common for the boss to yell at them in front of many people.

They seem to be very adaptable, and people with high emotional intelligence can do well anywhere. However, they still have strong traces of being within the system, and it is reflected in their behavior.

For example, you may be very docile in front of your boss, but it is just the opposite to the people below you, you know.

The boss of a colleague of mine also came out of the system and rose to the rank of deputy bureau. Her famous saying is: The boss of a private enterprise is the emperor, and you should treat your boss like an emperor. She had strong hints and code words in everything she said and did. My colleague, who had a carefree personality, couldn't understand it at all, so we quickly broke up. But this deputy bureau executive couldn't integrate into the blood of private enterprises at all, and later I heard that he also left.

PS, a final reminder to those who are about to come out or have already come out. Now that you have come out, you must have the courage to cut off the old circle. Unless you still want to cooperate with your old club, it will only make you worry about gains and losses. Frustrated and lonely.

The world is so big, there is a place for you everywhere. But the world is so big, there is no place that is easy to live in.

Whether you choose to be Li Dakang, Gao Xiaoqin, or Wang Dalu, the initiative lies in your own hands.

If you are not a fish, how can you know the joy of fish?