In 1924, when a group of professors from Harvard University in the United States conducted an experiment on "how to improve productivity" in a factory in Chicago, they discovered for the first time that interpersonal relationships are the key to improving work efficiency, thus proposing the term "interpersonal relationships". word.

Since then, people have begun to realize that personal career success, family happiness, and life happiness are closely related to interpersonal relationships.

Interpersonal skills can make a person feel comfortable interacting with others, and are a powerful weapon for people to fight and struggle in the real world. And good interpersonal relationships mean being upright in doing things and being harmonious in life.

Being upright in doing things means that you must follow rules and laws when doing things. You must not act randomly or overstep the limit. This principle has been passed down in China for thousands of years.

The ancients said that we should cultivate ourselves, manage our family, govern the country and bring peace to the world. This sentence is not an exaggeration at all for being a good person.

Zhao Pu, the prime minister of the Song Dynasty, was known as "half of the Analects rules the world." He followed Confucius's "The Analects" step by step and became the prime minister below one person and above ten thousand people. "The Analects of Confucius" helped Zhao Pu understand how to be a man, how to run a family, and how to run a country. He realized many principles of life, was able to be upright, and brought a successful end to his life.

Every industry has its own insurmountable rules, and the same is true for people and things.

Being an official must abide by the principle of honesty and integrity, and you must be mentally prepared to endure poverty from the beginning, just like one of the "Eight Don'ts" in Zeng Guofan's family motto: "As an official, you must be honest and not be greedy." Same. If the motivation for becoming an official is impure at the beginning, or if it slowly deteriorates and attempts to use power for personal gain or to trade power for money, then the official will definitely not be good and will not last long.

The golden rule for business is the word "sincerity". A truly big businessman must conduct business with sincerity and seek development with sincerity. He will never use cunning or deceptive tactics to break trust in the world for petty profits or immediate gains and losses.

Chinese Kung Fu is broad and profound, and practitioners emphasize that they should "sit like a bell, stand like a pine tree, lie down like a bow, and walk like the wind." If you don't follow this principle, and you don't have a standing posture, a sitting posture, or a walking posture, you won't be able to practice kung fu well, and you won't be able to become a true martial artist.

As an employee in the workplace, you should pay more attention to your speech, behavior, and actions without losing your identity, so as to radiate a shining light in the workplace.

"There are no rules without rules" and "there are things you should do and things you should not do", this is what we say.

Being a person must be harmonious. Harmony does not mean being smooth and sophisticated, nor does it mean being mediocre and incompetent. This kind of roundness is roundness, a kind of generosity and accommodating, a wisdom as foolish as a fool, a kindness to others, a high degree of soundness and maturity of the mind after being condescending and discerning the details.

We will not be aggressive because we understand the weaknesses of others, we will not be arrogant because we are superior to others, and we will not make people feel oppressed or afraid at any time because we insist on our own personality and opinions. You will not follow the crowd, but you will be able to influence others without letting others feel that you are imposing on them.

This requires extremely high quality, high understanding and skills. This is the lofty state of being a human being.

It is indeed not easy to achieve harmony.

If a person really has great wisdom and big-mindedness, can truly be self-reliant, confident, peaceful, kind-hearted, think on the bright side of everything, and consider everything from the other person’s perspective, It is indeed not an easy thing to think about others, be able to tolerate other people's weaknesses, and be able to forgive other people's mistakes.

Behind any success there is sacrifice.

For example, when we say that we need to do things in the right way, we must have rules and principles, which means that many things we want to do cannot be done, and many things must be done. This will undoubtedly offend many people and annoy many people. At the same time, people will lose a lot of interests, arouse a lot of jealousy, and even cause death.

For example, the national hero Yue Fei chose to be loyal to the emperor and the country, but gave up filial piety. For this principle, he eventually died tragically on the Fengbo Pavilion.

Being a tactful person also involves sacrifices. Sometimes you have to sacrifice yourself, sometimes you have to endure humiliation and bear the burden, and more often you have to endure humiliation, misunderstanding, and even harm from relatives.

For example, those who engage in secret work cannot disclose their identity and career to others throughout their lives, not even to their family members. How many people can handle this unbearable pain?

Small sacrifices bring small successes, big sacrifices bring big successes.

To be able to achieve the goal of perfection without feeling that it is a kind of sacrifice and pain is a great success and a great state.

Those who can endure sacrifice and pain for Fangyuan are small successes and small realms.

Those who are unwilling to sacrifice and cannot achieve the goal may never succeed.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Sima Yi was a master of the outer circle and the inner square. He pretended to be dying and hid it from the general Cao Shuang, thus achieving the purpose of protecting himself and waiting for the opportunity. Finally, he realized his ambition and unified the world.

Some people face the threat of gangsters and make compromises. They first win the trust of gangsters with smooth and sincere words, and then wait for opportunities to escape unexpectedly, or seek help, and finally catch or subdue the gangsters.

These are the best examples of a circle outside and a square inside.

There are wealthy people in the business world, leaders in the officialdom, and high-ranking people in the outside world. The key to their success is to master the skills of dealing with people when and when things can be done right. Their successful experiences also provide samples and directions for our continuous growth.

Therefore, a person must have a square outside and a circle inside, a circle inside a square, and a circle outside and a square inside.