Confucius’s benevolent political thought of “Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you”. As a social manager, you should face the reality of life and pay attention to analyzing the complexity of human desires. Because people want to have the characteristics of "nothing is inevitable, something is not inevitable". (This sentence implies another expression. What you are happy to do may not be what others are happy to do.) As a social manager, you cannot do things that you don’t want, such as "when the cold comes, the bed will be icy when the cold comes, and when the hot comes, the bed will be icy." "Sitting in a steamer when the weather is cold" is imposed on those being managed. At the same time, one cannot wishfully impose things that one is happy with, such as "sitting in a steamer when the cold comes, and sleeping on the ice when the heat comes". When recommending yourself to others, if you want to have an independent personality, you should also want others to have an independent personality. Social managers should respect the management objects, respect themselves and others, and should have tenable personality and rights.
Secondly, the purpose is indefinite and the results of the behavior are “deteriorated”.
"Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" advocates treating others with forgiveness, which is good in nature, but there should also be a sense of proportion to prevent "too much is too little". The purpose and position of the person who implements this method should be considered. Although the stance is different, although the forgiveness is the same, the results will be different. Lu Kun, a Confucian scholar in the Ming Dynasty, once said: "Those who are lustful will forgive others' lust; those who are fond of goods will forgive others' greed; those who are fond of drinking will forgive others' drunkenness; those who are fond of comfort will forgive others' laziness. The self is a thief of the Tao, so those who forgive must not fail to judge." (From "The Moaning Language") This is not to blame oneself for others, but due to the wrong starting point and position, it seriously damages the purity and purity of this method. A sense of sublimity, so be cautious when implementing it.
From a modern point of view, "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you" should be limited in its implementation. An unlimited tolerance is not true tolerance, but appeasement. In modern society, it is important to be tolerant when interacting with others. It can guide people who have done something wrong to consciously correct their mistakes when they realize their mistakes. But in real life, people tend to be blindly tolerant, especially for small mistakes, thinking it is human nature, and then blindly tolerate them, which in turn harms themselves, others and society.
Give me an example. There are many phenomena of moral loss in today's society. Not only is it reflected in the fact that a well-known economics professor actually went to prostitutes, but it is also reflected in society's unprincipled tolerance of such behavior. I read the comments online and found that there was no shortage of people expressing sympathy for him. Some believe that this intellectual is "just a victim of hypocritical moral standards", while others believe that "resigning due to prostitution is a loss to the education industry". The most egregious one is undoubtedly this message: "After all, he did not use his Raping female students with power is just prostitution...". But what we should think deeply about is: what he can and cannot do; given a person's specific identity, what responsibilities and obligations he must bear; at the same time, what are the expectations of the public, and how should this expectation be implemented? To a specific person?
I don’t know why, but many things always go too far. We have unknowingly entered an era of moral nihilism. As everyone knows, under the conditions of market economy, if "economic man" has no moral restraint, it is easy for him to engage in "opportunistic behavior", that is, in order to maximize his own interests, he will not hesitate to do things that harm others. We have already keenly felt this from the counterfeit and shoddy goods that are hard to guard against and the widespread corruption around us. If this trend is not reversed, the next step will inevitably be for the whole people to fall into a "prisoner's dilemma": whoever abides by morality will suffer, and everyone will be a bad guy.
People who sneer at calls to rebuild morality always like to cite the "Smithian Creed" - rational economic man who pursues self-interest, guided by an invisible hand, will ultimately promote the overall welfare of society. improve. But they did not realize that the background of Adam Smith proposing this creed was that Europe was in a social atmosphere in which Christian morality was generally respected. An implicit premise of "Smith's Creed" is that in the process of pursuing self-interest, rational economic man respects rather than tramples on morality as a prerequisite. If morality is not respected, the pursuit of self-interest will not increase the overall welfare of society, and will ultimately harm individual welfare.
How to rebuild our morality? I think it is very important that the social elite must take responsibility and show moral initiative.
According to Hayek's theory, as an "unstated rule", changes in morality always start at the individual level: some people adopt new morals, and they are likely to succeed and be learned and imitated by others. In this way, morality is partially updated, and the gradual accumulation of this update will lead to the natural evolution of morality, eventually making the new morality take over the mainstream. The reason why I emphasize that the elite should "show moral initiative" is because they are usually the objects of imitation and learning by others.
Of course, to achieve this, the self-discipline of elites alone is not enough. Elites are also human beings, and they have their own weaknesses. Therefore, society must set higher standards for them and monitor them more strictly. For example, if an ordinary American citizen has extramarital sex, that is his personal privacy, and others have no right to comment on it; if Clinton has extramarital sex, he will be strongly criticized by public opinion and even impeached by Congress. This is the reason.
Some suggestions put forward in response to the above dilemma
First of all, when interacting with others, you should learn to respect others, listen to and understand others, and get along with others as equals.
We know that people are social beings, and only living in society is meaningful and personal value can finally be realized. No individual can exist in isolation from others. Therefore, when you interact with others, you should communicate and dialogue more with others, get along with everyone around you on an equal footing, be good at opening your heart to others, and at the same time, learn to listen to others and understand others. Understanding others means understanding their needs, desires, value pursuits, etc. And we must learn to respect others, take the initiative to care for others, and live in harmony with everyone around us. In real life, it is necessary to establish an equal "I-you" relationship, where both parties communicate on an equal footing. This kind of communication includes not only verbal communication, but also spiritual and spiritual communication. This kind of communication is open, and all parties open their hearts, based on understanding others, and express their thoughts sincerely. And in daily school life, you should participate in more public activities. In the efforts to achieve the same goal, cultivate cooperation with others, truly establish the awareness of others, and enter each other's hearts. , truly realizing the intersection and integration of spirits.
Secondly, we should be lenient to others but at the same time have limits.
When people get along with each other, frictions and even conflicts will inevitably occur. How to properly handle these conflicts is related to whether they can "turn hostility into friendship" and whether they can maintain the original good relationship between the two parties and make them mutually beneficial** *Win, a matter of longer-term development. If the problem is handled properly, conflicts can be resolved, and enemies can become good friends; if problems are handled improperly, conflicts can intensify, and friends can become enemies, never to be in contact with each other again. The Chinese people have always valued living in harmony, mutual benefit and win-win. Harmony is based on the premise of mutual glory and the purpose of win-win. In the natural harmony between people, justice comes first and benefit comes second.
In daily life, establish a good attitude for yourself, and learn to be tolerant with the goal of ultimately improving your own moral character. In life, it is important to maintain a good attitude and treat everything calmly and calmly; at the same time, treat others with tolerance and allow the other person to have a process of understanding right and wrong and making corrections. Of course, this kind of tolerance should also be limited, and tolerance must not be indulged without limit.
In short, the virtue of benevolence and the "way of loyalty and forgiveness" embodied in Confucius's thought of "Do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you" are essential for building a civilized and harmonious world. It has very important value and should be promoted. Don't force others to do what you want, don't take away what others love, respect yourself and others, be empathetic to others, benefit yourself and others, be aware of others, be self-sufficient, and live in harmony.
Mencius has a famous saying: "The weather is not as good as the right place, and the right place is not as good as the people." This means that for fighting, climate conditions are very important, but the geographical situation is more important, but the most important thing is the battle. The people's hearts aspire and the top and bottom are united. As a businessman with more than ten years of experience, I have this feeling: doing business is like fighting a war, and the right time is not as important as the right location, and the right location is not as good as the right people.
The survival and development of an enterprise are affected by many factors, but many factors can be summarized into three categories, namely "Heaven (external general environment)", "Earth (industry environment)" and "People" ”, among which the condition of “humanity and harmony” is the most precious. Only when an enterprise has the conditions of "people and people" can it strive for and utilize the "right time" and gradually improve and give full play to the "geographical advantage".
The so-called "humanity" means: people-oriented.
The essence of management in the 21st century is humanistic management. I believe that the transformation process of an enterprise from ordinary to outstanding, and then from excellent to outstanding is definitely not achieved overnight. This process is actually the accumulation of energy of everyone in the enterprise. If people are not harmonious, the company will not be able to grow. From an unknown man who went south to seek his dreams more than ten years ago, to now becoming the chairman of Zhuangdian International, the company has grown from scratch, from small to large, from grassroots to today, it has attracted much attention in the industry and is popular on the Internet. , I deeply realize the importance of "humanity".
Some bosses always complain that there are no capable talents around them. In fact, since I started my business, I have never met the kind of genius who can make all the difference. I just dig out the strengths of everyone in the company and they become talents. In Zhuangdian International, our approach is very simple, that is to affirm everyone, help everyone, care and respect everyone. Some employees who seemed ordinary at first performed at a very high level after being encouraged and affirmed, which is impressive. As the saying goes, "If you don't accumulate small steps, you can't reach a thousand miles; if you don't accumulate small streams, you can't build a river." If the abilities of corporate employees can be fully explored and used, the total energy they can bring is amazing! The key lies in "humanity"!
Secondly, it is necessary to "harmony" with partners and customers. Friends often ask me strangely: How come you are so kind to your suppliers and dealers, and you often take the initiative to help them solve their problems? In fact, in an industry chain, only when every partner makes money can everyone continue to make money for a long time. As the saying goes, "harmony brings wealth", this old saying has its truth. Therefore, over the years, Zhuangdian International has maintained friendly relationships with agents, distributors and customers, respecting each other, learning from each other, maintaining characteristics, and making progress together. If internal employees are harmonious and united, and external partners are harmonious and progressive, why worry about failing in business?
Zhuangdian and Zhuangdian International firmly believe that "people", "harmony" and "life" are the eternal pursuit and unchanging truth of enterprises. When doing business, the right time and location are not as good as "harmony".