We often hear parents complain like this -

"Our children are so naughty! They are not obedient at all!"

"Yes. , no matter how I teach, she likes to confront you in everything."

"What should I do when she grows up if she is so disobedient now?"

"The baby is. It's not 'getting bad', what should I do?"

Actually, parents' worries are a bit unfounded. Research by early childhood psychologists has proven that after the baby is two years old, as his self-awareness becomes stronger and stronger, he will show greater and greater autonomy and selectivity in adults' requirements and arrangements. He likes to say "no" and "I want it". ..." Wait, no matter how authoritative you are at this time, as long as you are not to his liking, he will resist to the end. Therefore, these behaviors of the baby are normal and not a sign of "going bad". Parents should first recognize this. Treat your baby's rebellious behaviors and thoughts with respect. Would it be easier for parents to accept their children's ideas if they could think that their babies' resistance is not rebellion, but a way of expressing their own ideas?

Analysis of babies' "resistance"

1. The development of baby's motor ability

With the rapid development of baby's body, the baby's physical activity ability gradually matures, and many things in daily life can be done by oneself. Therefore, they are extremely eager to expand their independent activity space and constantly try to do new things independently. However, many parents will block and restrict the baby due to fear of injury and other reasons, so the baby will develop resistance.

2. The development of baby’s self-awareness

At the earliest stage, babies cannot distinguish between their own wishes and the wishes of others. After the baby is two years old, they can gradually distinguish between what others ask me to do and what I want to do myself. Therefore, when they first formed this kind of thinking, their attitude towards self-expression also became extremely tenacious. However, this kind of performance often conflicts with adult norms, which in turn causes the baby to feel frustrated and eventually leads to the baby's rebellious behavior.

3. The immaturity of babies’ self-emotional control

For babies who have not experienced many things, their emotional control ability is still very weak. Once they feel dissatisfied, they will have no control at all. Show it in a disguised way. Yelling and crying are usually their main ways of expressing themselves. Parents think that their children are making trouble unreasonably and are a sign of rebellion, so they stop and oppose them, which leads to the baby's rebellious behavior.

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Managing "rebellious" babies

Facing the baby's resistance, parents cannot blindly oppose and stop it. Only by correctly understanding the reasons behind the baby's resistance can they "prescribe the right medicine." You must know that whether the parents' handling methods are correct will directly affect the baby's growth, so when faced with a "rebellious" baby, you also need to "think twice before acting".

1. Understand and respect babies

When babies start to like saying "no" to their parents, it is the first step for them to build themselves and self-esteem. The purpose of the baby's doing this is nothing more than to demand the same equal status as adults. At this time, parents should not easily interfere with the baby's actions. They should consult their children's opinions in an equal manner and leave the children with room for choice. Doing this will make the baby feel that you respect him and maintain his self-esteem, so he will not easily speak sarcastically to you.

2. The requirements for the baby must be reasonable and reasonable

Parents should strictly require their children to perform things that the baby must do and can do; and for those things that are unnecessary and the baby Don't force them to do something they don't want to do. When the baby is having fun, parents must not disturb their interest; if the baby does something wrong, when stopping their rebellious behavior, parents should also put in some restraints without endangering life, health and morality. Kids one horse. Doing so may cause some trouble for adults, but it is well worth the sacrifice in return for the healthy development of the baby's personality.

3. Believe in the baby and satisfy its curiosity and reasonable requirements

Parents should support the baby's curiosity and never overprotect or take care of the baby. This will cause the baby to lose many opportunities for self-exploration, and will also cause their resistance. Parents should fully believe and affirm their baby's abilities. When the baby encounters a difficulty that can be solved within his own abilities, parents should try to let the baby do it on his own, so that the baby can experience the joy of success and reduce the confrontation with the parents.

4. Satisfy the baby's needs for independence and desire for protection at the same time

The fundamental reason why the baby shows tenacious "resistance" is that he wants to be independent. On the surface it may seem like you are fighting against your parents, but inside your baby still needs your emotional support and timely encouragement.

When letting the baby do something independently, parents can first judge the extent to which he can complete the task and the problems he may encounter, and then let the baby do it on his own without personal danger. If the baby is preparing to do something that may endanger health, parents must decisively stop it and replace it with other activities that are not dangerous. Let babies enjoy a sense of independence while also enjoying their parents' care for them, which will also reduce the occurrence of babies' resistance.

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5. Have adequate communication with your baby

When parents see their baby changing from well-behaved to naughty, they should not have any psychological worries and worries. These are all part of the baby's growth process, but it does not mean that parents can ignore it. If you do this, the baby will really become a bad boy. Parents should give the baby more tolerance, care and communication than before. Patiently listen to the baby's inner thoughts and ask the baby what he thinks and why. This should be done so that the baby's rebelliousness and rejection of the parents can be minimized.