Every time I read Confucius' words, "self-denial is benevolence." I was very impressed at that time. It is reactionary to say "self-denial" at first, but later I feel more and more right, just how to understand it.

At that time, it was said that "self-denial" was to overcome one's self-sacrifice and be human. Later, I read the Analects of Confucius translated by Zhu, which was quite puzzling, and it was completely different from the statement of People's Daily. Self-denial and self-surrender, Krishnamurti: Overcome. Ego: one's own selfish desires. Answer: resume. Li: Virtue and reason are the virtues of the heart. A person who wants others to be kind. In the present words, it seems that we should overcome our own selfish desires and restore party spirit. Nowadays, it is very necessary for both people and officials to deny themselves and return them.

This is also the only way to improve one's survival. "Self-cultivation" is a necessary condition for being a man. It uses morality and reason to overcome selfish desires and regulate people's behavior in society. The idea of "ruling the country by virtue" is very timely. The present "virtue" is also a continuation of traditional morality and a spiritual pillar for us to integrate the needs of modern civilization. On the issue of traditional morality, "the Chinese nation is a great nation with a long history and excellent culture. Our cultural construction cannot cut off history. " In a sense, traditional morality is the national spirit condensed in the long-term development and the core of national culture.

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Confucius said: When you go out, you will meet the distinguished guests, making the people like big sacrifices. Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. "

In fact, do we really need to push others to understand and treat others from our own hearts? In life, each of us looks at the world, people, society and nature from our own perspective and mood ... that is, our views are more or less different from others. Can we say that? In fact, each of us is biased!

Prejudice, I think, is really not a derogatory term. You like a thing, a scenery or a person because you have good prejudices, and you don't like them because you are influenced by your own heart and have branded your prejudices with dislike!

On the other hand, if you want to live like this, do others necessarily want to live like that? "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." Then, "can you do what you want to do to others?" If you want others to like you, you should act like others first. Do you have to ask others to reciprocate the same enthusiasm when you make this gesture? If others don't, do you have resentment and anger? Do you think others have failed you?

So after listening to this sentence, I feel that Confucius is really a pragmatic and realistic thinker!

If we really respect other people's decisions, but we really respect him, he is another complete individual to you, and he is fully qualified to have his own judgments and hobbies! Then "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is not enough. In today's society and environment, if we truly achieve the integrity of ourselves and respect the integrity of others, "don't do to others what you don't want us to do to you"!

In fact, it is very difficult to do what you want and not what others want to do. I admit that I have always been a person who recognizes first impressions. People who have a good first impression will have a preference for him for a long time. People who have a bad first impression need the other person to spend a lot of time communicating with me, so that I can eliminate the bad prejudice against him!

If I move out of Confucius today, I hope I can improve my character a little! Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you, and then do to others what you don't want them to do to you.

Really when everyone is a complete person, he has his personality and personality, and I also have my personality and personality. No one is right or wrong, no one is smart or stupid, respect first, and respect from the heart!

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A benevolent man speaks with caution. In the forum, speak rationally and don't be extreme; Have a basis, don't make rumors and talk nonsense; Grow up and don't make some childish and ridiculous remarks. It is not difficult to say so. This sentence means between the lines. When a person encounters a difficult thing, telling others about it is nothing more than asking others to help him or to give him advice. However, if others can't do it, they can't give him advice. If they say it, it will be embarrassing and even cause more trouble. Based on such concerns, it is hard to say what is difficult. This is benevolence.

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The loveliness of Confucius first lies in Confucius' lover. Ask Ren. Confucius said, "Love." Those who love him will always love him. The loveliness of Confucius lies in the loveliness of Confucius' temperament, which is both serious and lively, exquisite and casual, sensible and detached from the secular ... The so-called Confucius is exactly what Mencius said: "Adult people should not lose their childlike innocence." The loveliness of Confucius lies in its profoundness, so Yan Yuan lamented: "The higher the sun, the stronger the drill. Look ahead, suddenly how come back. The master coaxed me and wrote me articles, asking me to be polite and unable to stop. Now that I have exhausted my talents, if I do something, although I want to follow it, in the end I have no reason. " .

Can Confucius' loveliness be conveyed and described by my words above? No, I can't tell it just in case. Lovely people are close to each other, but they are not close because they are far from human feelings. For more than two thousand years, many scholars have studied Confucianism, but they know what the master said, but they don't know the temperament of the master. Confucius' temperament is the loveliest. Lovely people who don't know Confucius learn Confucianism, but they don't understand Confucianism. Now people are far away from Confucianism and don't know the loveliness of Confucius. If we know that Confucius is so lovely, Confucianism and Taoism will not fade away.

Confucius is more than cute. If you read the Analects carefully, you will find that Confucius is a lovely, amiable and respectable person. He is interesting, ambitious, principled, flexible, elegant and versatile, not to mention a perfect person.

On the other hand, we think: how can such a lovely, amiable and respectable person, an interesting, ambitious, principled, flexible, elegant and versatile person look at our world according to some of his principles, ways and methods under today's circumstances? This is what we really "apply what we have learned". Instead of copying quotations.