Be careful with your words and deeds in front of others, keep a low profile and keep your spirit clean.

Keep your mouth shut in groups, and be careful with your words first when dealing with the world.

When getting along with others, be low-key, be careful with your words, and keep your mouth shut to avoid getting into trouble.

The ancients had the "six taboos" on speaking:

①Don't speak unless you are sincere.

Don’t say anything you don’t mean sincerely.

②Don’t say anything that will not benefit the world.

Don’t say anything that is not beneficial to others.

③ Don’t talk about both profits and losses.

Don't say anything that would do as much good as bad.

④If there is any trouble in the future, don’t talk about it.

If you say it at the time, it may not mean anything, but it will have a bad impact in the future, so don't say it.

⑤Don’t repeat what you have already said.

There is no need to repeat what has been said before.

⑥Don’t speak lightly if it is beyond my power.

Don’t speak out easily if you are unable to achieve what you are capable of.

Be alone and guard your heart, and cultivate yourself with a pure heart.

Being alone and guarding one's heart is the "being cautious in being alone" advocated by the ancients. It means that when a person is alone, he can be strict with himself and be careful about what he thinks and does.

The so-called guarding the heart means to keep the purity of the heart, to be consistent in words and deeds, and to be consistent in mind and mouth.

Read more in your spare time, and gain your talents through reading.

There is poetry and calligraphy in your belly.

The more you read, the more you will develop your talents.

The important thing about reading is to make everything that is confusing have evidence to rely on; to make everything that is confusing have laws to follow; to let ignorance lead to wisdom, and to let backward brains come into contact with enlightened ideas.

Zeng Guofan said: "People's temperament is difficult to change due to their innate nature. Only reading can change their temperament."

There are some things that material cannot give, only spirit can supply. Spirit.

The luck of reading lies in the fact that you can learn from other people’s experiences from books, which reduces the possibility of learning lessons by breaking through walls on your own.

Studying is the lowest-cost investment, but it is the noblest life.

Make friends with friendship, be generous and popular

Make one friend and form a relationship, many friends have many paths.

When making friends, you must have a certain chivalrous spirit. You must be affectionate, righteous, and generous in order to gain popularity.

Of course, the more friends the better, but more importantly, you must be careful when making friends.

Mozi said: "A gentleman does not mirror water but mirrors people. Mirroring water reflects the face of the person he meets; mirroring people, he knows good and bad luck."

It means It is said that a gentleman does not use water as a mirror, but uses other people as a mirror to check himself. If you use water as a mirror, you can only see your own beauty and ugliness; if you use people as a mirror, you can know the good and evil of the soul.

Knowing people is really a necessary skill for survival!

Be kind in times of difficulty and bear heavy burdens, endure humiliation and build ambition

"Cai Gen Tan": "It is common for the tongue to die, and the strong will eventually defeat the weak."

Teeth are strong. However, it cannot withstand the bites of insects and bacteria, and is often corroded to the point of falling off; the tongue is soft, and despite the ups and downs, it remains unscathed.

Seemingly weak but actually being strong is the great wisdom in life.

Temporarily bearing the burden may be the best way to solve the problem, because acting on impulse can lead to missed opportunities.

The ancients said: "If you don't tolerate it, you can't do the best for the world."

Tolerance is a rational method of using softness to overcome hardness, retreating in order to advance, taking into account the overall situation, and focusing on the overall situation. is the future.

Tolerance is a very pragmatic and adaptable survival wisdom.

To endure humiliation for a while is a wise choice. It requires a kind of vision and ambition. Those without vision cannot judge the situation, and those without ambition will never lurk.

Deal with things calmly and do not strive to be harmonious

"Cai Gen Tan": "Those who have a harmonious heart and a calm mind will gather a hundred blessings."

Deal with things calmly and be a harmonious person. , don’t waste time on meaningless arguments, be less idle, have better popularity and connections, naturally everything will go smoothly and success will be easy.

Mencius said: "The weather is not as good as the right place, and the right place is not as good as the people."

Harmony is an inclusive mind, a spirit of cooperation, and a sense of teamwork. It is a harmonious atmosphere.

Harmony is not only an external form, but also an internal cultivation.

A kind person is virtuous, magnanimous and tolerant, takes credit for his faults, and does not argue for his actions; he is decent and lenient in dealing with others.

Speak principles to yourself and stick to your confidence

As the old saying goes: A person lives with one breath

The "one breath" here means confidence. Confidence determines a person's courage and work style.

If you have sufficient confidence, you will act vigorously, decisively and forcefully, and you will be high-spirited and leading. If you have insufficient confidence, you will be timid and indecisive, which will make people untrustworthy and untrustworthy. To the common people, destroy it to follow.

A person's confidence comes from being principled to oneself, that is, being strict with oneself, because a person without perseverance and a person without self-control cannot handle things well.

Therefore, Lao Tzu said, "He who conquers himself is strong." The person who can command himself is the most powerful person.

Be indifferent and reach far, cultivate yourself and establish uprightness.

Be indifferent and clear your ambition, and be tranquil and far-reaching.

Quietness leads to self-cultivation, and self-cultivation leads to righteousness.

Self-cultivation means a healthy body. "Quietness" is the method and requirement of self-cultivation, and "righteousness" is the content and direction of self-cultivation.

How to maintain righteousness?

Good emotions are the source of righteousness. Although a good mood is not righteousness, a bad mood hinders the growth of righteousness, while a good mood is conducive to the rise of righteousness.

In addition, having good intentions, doing right things, and doing right things well will naturally cultivate righteousness.

If a person eats, drinks, has fun, does nothing, or is full of evil thoughts and does not think about serious things, what kind of career can he achieve?

If you are always alert, as if you are facing an abyss, as if you are walking on thin ice, eliminating habits, and nourishing your righteousness naturally, what can't be done? What kind of career cannot be achieved? This is the great foundation of life, and the Tao is born when this foundation is established.

Be humble and cowardly, but show your integrity

Feng Zikai said: "Some animals are mainly valuable for their skin, such as foxes; some animals are mainly valuable for their meat, such as cows; some animals are mainly valuable for their meat, such as cows; The main thing is that bones are valuable, just like people. ”

People cannot be arrogant, but they cannot be without pride.

Only those who have backbone, high character, and hard personality can be a person who stands upright.

A person with integrity is selfless and fearless, follows the path rather than the superior, follows reason rather than following the trend. "The past is forgotten like smoke, and the selfless world is broad in his heart."

A person with integrity has no desires or pursuits. "When things are satisfied, the heart is always at peace, and when people come to have no pursuits, they have high moral standards."

A person with backbone is unrestrained, not bound by bad habits, not influenced by what others say, and shows true temperament, being frank and persistent.