? What is fate? I specifically asked Du Niang! Fate, that is, fate and luck, refers to a mode of doing things by combining fixed numbers with variables. Life and luck are two different concepts. Destiny is a fixed number, referring to a specific object; Transportation as a variable refers to the transformation of time and space. The combination of fate and luck is a process in which a specific object is transformed in time and space. When luck comes, fate changes.
Life is fixed, but luck is changeable and fate can be changed! "Do you know, do you know?" It's a TV play in which the heroine changes her destiny. Throughout the growth and successful history of Minglan, the change of Ming Lan's fate is inevitable!
First, the three views are correct, which is the foundation.
Sheng's Wei Xiaoniang is Sheng Ji's most unloved concubine room and also her mother. When I was pregnant with a second child, I was cheated by Lin Xiaoniang and died during childbirth. Although she doesn't have many plays, she is the most far-sighted of Fu Sheng's three daughters.
Knowing her humble position, she has always endured humiliation and humiliation. Before she died, she told her daughter not to get ahead, to live the best of everything, and to let Ming Lan learn to hide herself and live in that difficult environment.
Ming Lan always remembers his mother's words, being silly and playing dumb, and minimizing his sense of existence at home, so that he can grow up safely.
In the episode where a robber fell into the water and was saved by Gu, the two chatted. Ming Lan said: One can't just look at the present in one's life. When I was a child, my mother told me a story about the Warring States policy. There is a saying in it: parents' beloved son is far-reaching. People can't just think about the present. When you are three years old, you should think about ten years old, and when you are ten, you should think about sixteen years old.
These words made Gu not only sit up and take notice of her.
Wei Xiaoniang gave Ming Lan the painting "Li Niangzi Guarding Niangziguan" before she died, encouraging her to be independent and self-reliant. Li Niangzi guarded Niangziguan, and she could resist millions of soldiers in the battle without relying on her parents and brothers or her husband and son. ...
It was influenced by her mother's childhood that made Ming Lan grow into a woman with pattern and strategy and a dead lady. This was the highest honor for women outside the royal family at that time.
Of course, this is also due to the upbringing of her grandmother.
Ming Lan's grandmother is a good mother. Hua Lan and Ming Lan grew up beside her, and both granddaughters were well educated by her.
She was widowed at the age of 30 and lived alone with her son.
Shengji is not her own, but Yuji. In that hierarchical era, concubines had a low status. Shengji can do that, not only because she studies hard, but also because of the promotion of Hou Fu's daughter and old lady.
I have heard a saying since I was a child: one generation of good mothers, three generations of good families. It is no exaggeration to use this sentence on the old lady Sheng.
Second, knowledge changes fate and knowledge is a weapon.
Born in ancient times and raised in the boudoir of Know No, (Zhao) gave a rebuttal, saying that it is not yet out of date:
"In my opinion, it is a lie to talk about the futility of reading."
"After all, reading is not a girl's duty." Grandmother deliberately stated this concept and induced Ming Lan to say this sentence.
Ming Lan refutes the theory of "reading is useless"
Ming Lan's explanation bears a specific imprint of the times.
"If reading is useless, why do men all over the world want to do scientific research? Are you free?
I think this sentence is only for men who want women to be ignorant, obedient and manipulative all their lives. "
My grandmother taught Ming Lan independence from an early age, and she shared the same view with Ming Lan:
"Don't want women to learn, it is short-sighted.
Throughout the dynasties, the women of a large family were uneducated and ignorant since childhood. "
Grandma doesn't agree with "reading is useless" either.
So, really don't believe that reading is useless. Reading at any time is the best way to change your life. Your knowledge, ability and wisdom can be cultivated from reading. The more you are born, the more you should learn.
Recently, a picture widely circulated on the Internet, the gathering of Internet bosses in China. At present, most of the most profitable bosses in China have been to universities and even graduated from very good universities. Explain that reading knowledge is very important regardless of ancient and modern times!
? In addition to writing knowledge, before becoming a monk, she also had etiquette rules taught by mother Kong, flower arrangement and how to be a person, all of which escorted the road to success!
Third, only the right person can be happy in marriage.
? Minglan just started to marry two of a kind, a little grandfather in lord protector, but was rejected by the hostess in lord protector because he was not in the right place. After getting married, grandpa was ridiculed and wishful thinking.
I want to live in peace, marry a doctor in Ding Bai and live in harmony with the United States and the United States. So a cousin who insisted on being a concubine appeared. The doctor was too soft-hearted to refuse. So give up decisively!
Later, I married Gu. This is because Gu's imperfection is his advantage. Ming Lan once said to grandpa that it is better to be a farmer's husband and wife than a rich woman. Ming Lan would rather marry almost everyone than be a concubine of the rich. And Ming Lan is the illegitimate daughter of a five-product official, and her biological mother is gone. Her position in the giants is actually very low. It is difficult for her to marry into a rich family as a wife. The discrimination against her by the Qi government is the best example. Uncle Gu is notorious, and a drag bottle daughter was born outside the house. No one in the whole capital wants to marry her. And his marriage, can't be said to be married, also can't say that the highs, she and gu are equal in status. And gu won't let her be a concubine, and she doesn't have to look at the face of the big lady. She can also give full play to her wisdom and talents, take good care of her home, and let Uncle Gu have no worries.
Second, Gu has the ability to protect himself and his loved ones. The most fundamental reason why Xiao can't marry is not the external crisis, but his own ability is too weak. When he was not killed by his mother, he could do nothing; When the Wang Yong family threatened him to marry the princess of Jiacheng, there was nothing he could do. There is nothing to laugh at, for the sake of family and Ming Lan, marry the master of Jiacheng County. Whoever stands in his position will make the same choice as him. Qi Heng's only weakness is weakness. Even if Ming Lan marries him, there will be no happiness, because he can't protect Ming Lan at all.
But Gu is different. Gu dared to disobey the orders of his biological father Ning from an early age. He dares to fight to the end for the life he wants. Although the price of this struggle is to kill the duke, if the duke dies, he will never see the true face of Xiao Qin again, and he will never really turn over a new leaf completely again. Even if you are driven out of Houfu, you can make a comeback on your own with nothing; He is better able to fight with the top Bai Lianhua Qin. People like Gu have a bad reputation, but at least he has the ability to protect himself and his children. Ming Lan Ruo will marry him, and he will be able to protect her happiness. What Ming Lan needs is such a man and such a marriage. She has been a cautious person since she was a child in Shengjia. Of course, she doesn't want to continue this life after marriage.
Third, Gu has rich life experiences.
Many men like to cheat, but after all, they still have too little experience and are not resistant to temptation. Taking care of such a man is the last straw. As a teenager, he wandered in the land of fireworks. Later, after having Mannia, he loved Mannia and his two children wholeheartedly. Later, after the death of the Duke, he was driven out of Houfu and saw Mannia's true colors. Mannia left Long song and other things behind. He was forced to change from a dissolute teenager to a mature and steady man. Gu's life experience is very rich. If he experiences temptation again in the future, he will not be easily tempted, and he will not be at a loss when he encounters difficulties and dangers. Experience is actually a kind of wealth given by God.
The above three points are the advantages of Uncle Gu, which is also the reason why he is suitable. In this world, there can never be perfect people, and good people like Xiao also have weaknesses. Gu Ershu spent the first half of his life wandering around, but he knew that the prodigal son would return. Just because he has experienced everything, he will be a good husband and father in the future and cherish his immediate happiness.
Therefore, it is most important to choose the one that suits you in marriage, and the right one will be happy! Marriage must not be compared, because only the feet know whether the shoes are suitable or not, and only they know whether the marriage is happy or not!
Ming Lan's counterattack and the change of fate, seemingly accidental, are actually inevitable and necessary. Even if you come from a bad family, you will get along well in the end. Even if God gives you a bad hand, you can still play a good game!