As a teenager, Di Renjie was gifted in literature, handsome and outstanding, studied hard and had a heart of steel. On one occasion, he went to Beijing to catch the exam and stayed in a hotel. I was absorbed in reading under the lamp in the middle of the night, but I heard someone knocking at the door. It turned out to be the owner of the hotel-the beautiful lady. Shortly after her husband's death, she met Di Renjie, who stayed indoors during the day. They fell in love, so she poured out her loneliness and took the opportunity to approach the young student who was going to take the exam in Beijing.
When Dee Renjie saw that the young woman was still lingering around after she confided her heart, she gently said to her, "Madam, you are so young and beautiful. It will inevitably make people feel sad to tell me these thoughts in the dead of night. Fortunately, an old monk once reminded me not to commit adultery. I will never forget it and always keep it in my heart, so that in this case, I can be polite and not overstep the rules. "
The young woman asked Di Renjie, what can make people restrain themselves in a critical moment?
Di Renjie replied, "The old monk said that from my appearance, I would be famous in the future. Rich and distinguished, but remember to' avoid color'. Since the old monk suggested it, how can I take such a risk and exchange my life prospects for fleeting desires between men and women? However, most people are sad for beauty. At that time, I asked the old monk, Master, it is human nature to like beautiful women and beautiful women. Everyone knows how to love himself beforehand and regret afterwards, but when lust is in full swing, all the consequences will be forgotten, thinking that once or twice occasionally, there should be no major event and it will not happen again. Therefore, every' next time' will think like this, and every time, the result is finally sinking. In the end, what method can be used to put out the raging fire of love and prevent it from burning? The old monk told me three methods, but it is best to use them when the desire has not yet arisen, or when the desire is just about to arise. "
The young woman asked again, "What are the three ways to stop desire?"
Di Renjie told her: "The first method is to treat all men and women as relatives, that is, to treat the elderly as parents, the older as brothers and sisters, the younger as their own brothers and sisters, and the younger as their own children."
"The second method is to regard all men and women as evil. This man is deliberately tempting me to commit adultery, disreputable, rude and shameless. This person is a thief, a tiger, a snake, an evil scorpion, wearing a handsome or beautiful coat, turning charming, eroding my heart, making me lose my mind and making me suffer for a long time. "
"The third method is to regard all men and women as unclean, which is a mass of flesh and blood under the skin of a handsome man or a beautiful woman; Ribs and bones, as well as urine and purulent blood in the body, wet; What comes out of the seven holes is dirty and smelly water excrement, just like a thin-skinned vase filled with smelly and rotten garbage. Who would like it? When I am sick, my face is yellow, my skin is wrinkled and my hair is messy. When I am dying, my face is black and blue, and in a few days, I will be covered with maggots, smelly and disgusting. In fact, people are originally skeletons with meat. "
Di Renjie continued to persuade the young woman, saying, "I saw your beauty, and all I could think of was that you were just a skeleton wrapped in layers of fat and lean meat, so I didn't have any thoughts. Ma 'am, look at me again. I smell the same. If we are covered with yellow pus, phlegm, snot and saliva, gum bumps hang in the corners of our eyes, and bad breath is flowing in the corners of our mouths, will you still have the idea of love? "
After listening to Di Renjie's words, the young woman thought silently for a while and thanked Di Renjie shamefully: "Thanks to your teaching and advice, I saved my honor and let me know how to put out my infatuation and delusion in the future. I realized a person's behavior, completely between this concept. I didn't know until today that I should learn to control my heart. "
Don't covet momentary pleasure, control your mind through introspection, and cultivate an upright bearing. This is the name of later generations-Di Renjie.
However, I wonder if Di Renjie feels the same way about his wife? If so, it will be difficult for an honest official to reappear! No wonder there are so few honest officials in history!