1, mediocrity is defeated by laziness, and talent is defeated by pride. There are two kinds of people in the world who will be defeated, one is lazy and the other is proud. The former wants to do everything again tomorrow, and the result is always nothing; The latter looks down on everyone in the world, thinks that he is the cleverest, and often attracts others' dissatisfaction and resentment, so he is often vilified and cursed, and finally swallowed up by malicious slander. It is impossible and unnecessary to please others and everyone. To please everyone is to offend everyone. Deliberately pleasing others will only disgust others. It is natural to be close to others, and the "speculative" mentality should be changed. If you have time to please, it is better to do things in a down-to-earth manner. It is always unreliable to please others, only if you work hard. 3. Good mood is created by ourselves. We often can't change other people's opinions. Only we can change it. The bad life lies not in the sins of others, but in our bad mood. The golden key to a better life is not in the hands of others. Give up our resentment and sigh, and a better life will be within reach. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, objectively, we have not lived a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives. Don't expect to change others and be the master of your own life. 4. Do what you should do with your heart. Life is so short, how can it be wasted? A wise philosopher once said, "when someone scolds me in the street, I won't even look back." I don't want to know this boring person at all! " "We should neither hurt others nor be influenced by others' criticism, but should learn our skills in a down-to-earth manner according to our own wishes. Especially when you are a teenager, you should go all out to learn your skills and don't be distracted. 5, don't always give yourself little shoes, learn to appreciate yourself, it is equivalent to having the golden key to happiness. Appreciate that you are not narcissistic, appreciate that you are not self-centered, appreciate that you are not narcissistic, appreciate that you are not complacent … Give yourself a little confidence, give yourself a little happiness, and give yourself a smile. Why worry about unhappy life? ! Always give yourself a vacation and learn to find a happy mood. 6. Don't chase worldly honor, but look for something recognized by others all your life, and you will lose your happiness and happiness forever. Vulgar comments will annihilate your personality, and secular suggestions will leave you at a loss. Money for money will make you disown your six relatives, power for power will make you bold, and fame for name will make you unprepared. In the deliberate pursuit, the real me will become fragments fluttering in the wind, and the secular me will become disgusting. 7. It is highly undesirable that some people often suffer from mental disorders because of excessive anxiety; Some people are indifferent to everything because they are insensitive. The former often suffers from being unable to find the reason, but dies because of being too smart. The root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. The latter doesn't know what regret is, and lives in a daze all day. There is no difference between life and death. 8. Everyone has his own way of living, knowing his own pain, understanding his own sadness and feeling his own happiness. Maybe the hell in your own eyes is the existence in the eyes of others; Maybe the heaven in your own eyes is the hell in others' eyes. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring scenery is in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your own mentality. 9. If you like yourself, you will blindly embrace life, arrogance and self-esteem. It is a life of pride and ignorance, and it is a life of negative pessimism. It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others, and it is more difficult to like yourself than to like others. Have a healthy and appropriate self-esteem psychology, and will be particularly strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself for the temptation of the outside world, and don't deny yourself for a temporary setback. Always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself optimistically and to the point. Can you love others if you don't love yourself? Like yourself! 10, there is a curse in the blessing, and there is a blessing in the curse. Don't be carried away by temporary gains and losses and indulge in temporary victories. Be sure to be prepared for danger in times of peace, and don't be arrogant. Being intoxicated with victory means stopping, and being intoxicated with victory means losing vigilance. Never relax on the road of life, victory is just a small signpost. If you want to win the final victory, you just have to work hard, work hard and work hard again. Don't be fooled by temporary interests. He who laughs last laughs the happiest. 1 1, it is important to live fully. Living every day well is the greatest happiness, and happiness comes from being in a good mood every day. Always worried about the risks of tomorrow, always unable to erase the shadow of yesterday, how can today's life be satisfactory? Always compare those who can't be compared, always fantasize about those who can't be realized, how can today's mind be quiet? Anything unrealistic is the source of pain, and the biggest killer in life is sadness and anxiety. Pain comes from not being full. If you live a full life, you won't think about it. 12, the basis of pleasure lies in oneself. Most people always pin their happiness in life on external things and attach themselves to secular identity. All aspects pay attention to status, property, treatment, reputation and other things. Once you lose these things, it will be a heavy blow, you will often feel pain, and your happiness and happiness foundation will be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is far from us. Why do you want others to evaluate your happiness and grasp yourself? 13, feeling happy is happiness. Many people are deliberately pursuing so-called happiness; Some people get it, but the price is huge. Many philosophers have said that happiness is a feeling, just like the "Buddha" in your heart and mine. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, which is closely related to people's mood and mentality. The sages said: The harder you work, the deeper you love, the happier you are, and the harder you think. A person always feels unhappy, which is his greatest sorrow. Happiness is a feeling. If you are not satisfied, you will never be happy. 14. The goodness of others should be remembered. Short-sighted people are always "ungrateful" They seek help everywhere in times of crisis and never show up after things are finished. Call names when you ask for help, and run amok when you succeed. Such people are the most despised. " "Ungrateful" makes friends sad, and "ungrateful" is a sign of quick success. Ungrateful can only bring temporary benefits, but it will never be trusted. Don't kick down the ladder, it will cut your own back. 15, leave room for everything. Everyone will meet completely different "three kinds of people" in their own life journey. The first kind is people who can understand, appreciate and value themselves; The second is people who misinterpret, vilify or even exclude themselves; The third kind of people are people who have nothing to do with themselves. The first kind of people should respect themselves as teachers and friends, and the kindness of dripping water should be rewarded with springs. The second kind of people hurt themselves deeply and need to stay away wisely, not worry and care. For the third kind of people, we should treat each other with courtesy and coexist peacefully. Understand different people, treat them differently, birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. 16, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. It is a painful thing to impose your subjective will on others. Impose your will with your majesty, others just take it orally and refuse to accept it. After a long time, you will have the habit of resisting it. To impose one's will with one's own stubbornness, others just silently endure or cover up their anger, but they may turn against each other for a long time. Only by reviewing whether one's words and deeds are in harmony with society can one really get the approval of others. People can't be consistent, so don't take me as the center. 17, don't get carried away, don't lose your temper when you are prosperous, you must be extra cautious, otherwise it is easy to be happy to the extreme. It is easy to get carried away when life is proud. When you don't know your last name when you get carried away, evil thoughts and deeds will take advantage of it. In adversity, you must be extra patient, or you will die early. When life is frustrated, it is easy to lose your manners. When you lose your manners, you don't know your future, so negativity and despair will take advantage of the gap. Laugh at the ebb and flow of life and keep your heart. 18, life should be joyful. Appropriate recreational activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy can easily turn into harm. Extreme things are the opposite, and poverty is the change. "A happy place is a morbid place. ""chess can be idle and easy to be tempted. ..... "Blindly carnival is a superficial life, and what you get is often painful regret. Enjoy yourself is a philosophical life. Emotions and sorrows are not limited to entertainment, but involve all aspects of life. Joy and sorrow go hand in hand, and moderate joy will keep joy company. 19, blindly forbearing, not blindly forbearing, is to lose principle; Blindly forbearing means no personality; Blindly forbearance means weakness; Blindly forbearing means facing the danger of advancing step by step; Blindly forbearing means that you will walk into a dead end. Sometimes it's better to stand up and work hard. Pushing your luck is a trick that fools often use. Repeated patience will only fuel their arrogance. Do it when it's time to do it, and it's a last resort to give something powerful! People who push their luck should be bashed head-on, and tolerance is not necessarily a good thing. 20. Do things more rationally and less emotionally. You can't do things only by your own feelings, and you can't do things only by your own feelings. If you are impulsive, you will be in trouble. Sometimes your perception is wrong, things are not as simple as you think, and appearances are always confusing. Rational work will not be repeated, rational work will not make big mistakes, and rational work will not make you regret. Remember: don't be too impulsive! You can't just follow your feelings, you can think more and not regret it. Hello! I am the sun. Only on behalf of personal views, don't spray if you don't like it, thank you.