? Austrian psychologist Adler has a classic saying, happy people use their childhood to heal their lives, and unfortunate people use their lives to heal their childhood. Indeed, the influence of the original family on each of us is very huge.
People usually like to discuss the negative impact of misfortunes in one’s family of origin on one’s personal growth. Because of this sentence and because of the misfortune of their original family, some people are so broken that they attribute all the problems they face to their family. I think this is biased. How to correctly face the misfortune of the original family?
? First of all, we must admit that the family of origin is not optional. We can't choose our parents, nor can we choose the family we were born into, so having the courage to admit and accept the status quo of our family of origin is our first step.
? Only by truly accepting and acknowledging our original family in our hearts can we get along with it peacefully, maintain our emotional stability, live in the present, and think seriously about our current every problem faced. Otherwise, blindly complaining and blaming the original family for the unsatisfactory results will only weaken our will, make us stagnate, and even lead to self-destruction.
Secondly, working hard to change oneself is an important means to block the negative influence brought by the family of origin. When you become increasingly stronger through continuous learning and continuous efforts, and have a solid financial foundation and independent personality, you will find that external bad factors cannot affect your strong heart at all, and will not affect you at all. Invulnerable. Only if you are not strong enough will you become an easily injured person.
? Third, change the original family and let it develop for the better. This is a higher realm.
? Sun Li has set a very good example for us. Her family of origin was unfortunate. Sun Li grew up in an ordinary family. When she was 12 years old, her parents divorced, leaving irreparable pain to her childhood success. From then on, she and her mother depended on each other, and her father moved out of this once happy family of three. Sun Li did not complain, but worked very hard. She has won the Popular Film Hundred Flowers Award, the China TV Golden Eagle Award, and the Shanghai TV Festival Magnolia Award. She has won numerous awards. While her career has taken off, she has also achieved financial independence. At the same time, she has an unusually broad mind and structure. She chooses to forget the harm caused to her by her original family and chooses to understand and forgive. She takes great care of her half-sister, and gets along very well with her father's wife, whom she trusts. The family is harmonious and friendly. After she became famous, in addition to creating excellent conditions for her sister, she also generously purchased a new home for her father nearby. As time has passed, Sun Li and her daughter no longer have the blame and resentment that people imagined, and they only cherish the time they spend with their families even more.
? Therefore, no matter what kind of misfortune the original family faces, we must admit and accept it, strengthen ourselves, and let the original family develop for the better, so that we can have a better life.