Feeling: It contains too much wisdom, and the golden sentences are worth reciting

Key points of this book: It reveals wisdom in the introduction of Zeng Guofan’s life experience (I am not good at history, so I can’t read it after reading it) If you forget, you will know that he is a late bloomer. Although I am still very ordinary now, I also have the dream of being a "late bloomer"! )

Points of awareness and summary:

1. Human destiny It can be changed. This change starts with our own concepts. If what we do is in line with the laws of heaven, we should stick to it.

2. Learn a way of communication - no one likes to be persuaded. Although I see something wrong, I should say that this is what I did, you can refer to it.

Reading notes:

Life is about experiencing various twists and turns, reflecting on yourself in each experience, and finally finishing your life.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being diligent, modest, courteous, and frugal. You must persist. I will continue to maintain these advantages of mine!

Zeng Guofan was a late bloomer, I hope I am too!

Life is a curve, and everyone goes through various twists and turns in the middle, and finally completes his or her life

It is actually very simple for people to change their destiny. Because "appearance comes from the heart", once the appearance changes, the fate will change. So what ultimately needs to be changed? It's your heart. What is the heart? The mind is concept. As long as you have the correct concept, your life will change

Being too smooth in life is not necessarily a good thing, because big things often come late

One person in this world If you don’t solve the child’s problems as soon as possible during the first stage, it will be very troublesome if you have to do things later. If you don't give birth early, you may regret it when you are on your deathbed

When you are not proud, you should quickly make some good friends, so that when you are proud in the future, you will have someone to cooperate with. When you are successful, most of the people around you are villains, but those who are willing to be with you when you are in trouble are more likely to be gentlemen

A person must remember , whatever achievements you have, don’t show them everywhere, don’t arouse jealousy, don’t arouse envy, and don’t think you have a lot of audiences and think you are great, but always stay low-key and humble

First , get up early

Second, sit quietly

Third, read history. In fact, history really needs to be read and understood very seriously

Fourth, be careful in your words and deeds, and also nourish your energy. You must be careful when you speak and do things. You must think twice before you act and speak, because people are easily controlled by emotions, or they may not consider things comprehensively in a short period of time, which makes it easy to make mistakes. The impact of actions will be decisive, even devastating

Fifth, protect yourself

Sixth, calligraphy

Seventh, stay out at night

The result is not very important, the starting point, also called motivation, is more important

People must think about losing before they want to win. In everything, they must first think about how they will lose. Ask yourself more, "Can I afford to lose?" If you can afford to lose, do it again, "No matter how much you lose again,"

"Practice both ways" means that you should take appropriate measures according to different situations , cannot be "excessive", nor "less than"

There is nothing wrong with a person having opinions, but you must first save your own life before you can have opinions.

And try to speak in a roundabout way, toned down, and don't speak bluntly. Speaking bluntly may not necessarily be beneficial

An accomplished person is often a person who has experienced setbacks and tests, otherwise he will not be able to achieve great results. Achievement

Whenever you encounter internal or external changes, you have to tell yourself that this is God’s test for you, and you must face it. You have to think, “There is no way, God is going to test me.” , I can't run away, I have to face it, I find a way to deal with it." Only in this way can we deal with it better

A person must be able to use the enemy instead of fighting to the death with the enemy. This is Zeng Guofan's brilliance

If everyone says you are doing justice to the public, then even if you make mistakes again, others will think you are right

Usually when making friends, you need to make someone who dares to scold you

Although Zeng Guofan often failed, he began to become perseverant and able to persevere, and finally waited until the situation was reversed

When scholars study, they must first have ambition, secondly have knowledge, and thirdly have perseverance.

A person must be able to face himself bravely and find his own shortcomings. Remember, your shortcomings are your life’s lessons.

What does he mean by "constant"? First, grow in sorrow

Second, hold on to the right path to open up new possibilities

Third, do good deeds in the long run. What is the purpose of "constancy"? "Persistence" means continuous cultivation of virtue

A person is not born such a good person, he will change slowly. Only in this way can it be interesting and valuable

The most remarkable thing about a person is not to say "I am gifted, what good inheritance do I have", but to say "No matter what, I will make myself better." "The better you get, the better", this is the greatest practice

"Ting Jing" can be said to be Zeng Guofan's legendary book that summarizes his life experience and success.

People must first continue to Go beyond yourself, and then you can finally transcend.

We always like to make excuses afterwards. Everything should be taken precautions in advance. Don't wait until something happens to your child, then regret it, curse others, or ask for forgiveness. This is not allowed, and it is too late.

Ming Qiang. The "three virtues" of wisdom, benevolence and courage

If a person is obedient, he will know others; if he knows people, he will use them; if he uses the right people, most of the problems will be solved. "People you like must be able to know their shortcomings, and people you hate must be able to know their strengths."

"First improve your own observation skills, and then investigate other people's comments."

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Everyone must weigh it in their hearts, grasp the balance of everything, and find the state that suits them best

Being the boss is often very hard, why do you have to compete to be the boss?

When dealing with subordinates, you should not care about money, and do not compete for merit; do not talk too much, do not have close relationships, and make mistakes, and you should be severely punished. "This is the principle that Zeng Guofan adheres to when he leads troops and serves as an official. He does not violate rules and laws based on human feelings. No matter who it is, faults will never be tolerated and will be severely punished.

"Outside King" means that you only practice You are useless on your own, so what is the use of being alone? You must let the person who is with you feel that he can benefit from being with you, it is good for him, and he welcomes you. This is called "the king of foreigners"

The most important thing for a person is The most important thing is to take the time to change yourself with your heart. This is what you want in life

If a person wants to change his destiny, the only way is to change his heart and his ideas. Other than that, There is no other way.

"Look at the reason" is to look at his motivation, "look at the reason" is to look at his method of doing things, and "look at the reason" is to look at his personal knowledge. . The three words "see", "observe" and "observe" represent three levels, and one is deeper than the other.

It is already difficult to see a person's motivations clearly, but you still can't. It depends on whether his method is correct.

There are many people whose motives are right, but their methods are wrong, so in the end they still do not achieve the desired results. In addition, you also need to see if his knowledge is enough, that is to say, you need to look at three levels of people, so that you can see more clearly if you look deeply into them one by one.

What face you will look like in this life

It is all based on what you want to do in this life

Parents must teach their children the correct walking posture when they are young. It will have a huge impact on his future

To see a person, you need to see his true colors when he is not paying attention, and then see how he pretends to be when he is paying attention, and then see what happens before and after. What a gap. How big the gap is shows how much the person has changed. In this way, you can truly see through his heart

1. Look at the eyes and nose for evil: people with twinkling eyes and crooked noses are evil

2. Look at lips for wisdom: people with thick lips Most likely to be loyal

Fame depends on aura: A person with high aura is more likely to look at a person's "aura", first look at his forehead, and then look at his overall aura

Career depends on spirit: People who are focused are more likely to succeed

Look at the fingers and claws of Shou Yao: the hands and feet should be energetic but soft

First, see if they have energy. Second, check whether the flesh on his hands is soft. Third, see if his fingers are slender

Look at the heels for trouble: people with steady steps are responsible. You can pay more attention to how others walk. You can best tell how a person behaves by watching him walk

Look at language in an orderly manner: see a person’s heart through language

In everything, you need to think about things from a different angle and stand more on the side of others. Think about your position and reflect on yourself more. You must have shortcomings, things you haven't done well or haven't done well. In this way, you will make rapid progress

Throughout the ages, you have always been dedicated to serving the public good. Talents will leave their names, but those who are selfish are often forgotten soon

"Reading frequently" does not mean reading over and over again. Even if you read it and memorize it, it may not be useful. The main meaning of diligent reading is to be able to draw inferences from one instance to other cases.

But if you want to know others, you must know yourself first. A person without self-awareness cannot know others. It is difficult to know others, but it is even more difficult to know oneself

Everything must be done carefully, otherwise it will be difficult to succeed

1. Whether or not the ambition to be independent is what Zeng Guofan first looks at in people. ? See whether this person has independent aspirations, whether he has the ability to make independent judgments on major matters, and whether he can stand alone. And not only must you be able to stand alone, but you must also be able to gather the strength of everyone. The most important thing for a leader is not to do things himself, but to ensure that those who work with him can do things well. This is the most important thing

As a minister, it is true to be loyal to the emperor, but it cannot always be done. Be obedient, blindly follow advice, because the responsibility for defeating the battle in the end still has to be borne by the ministers

Therefore, when a person deals with his superiors, it is not mainly a question of obedience, but a question of whether he has the ability to persist. . You are right to persist until the end, you have to persist, how can you not persist?

If you want others to believe in you, you must first believe in yourself and have the confidence, and then with this confidence Persevere, and others may finally be convinced by you

After setting a good intention, you must also have courage. "To be able to make up your own mind, you must have courage and be able to make reasonable adjustments according to the time, place, people, and things.

The biggest characteristic of a courageous person is to act decisively and make decisive decisions. . Therefore, we must “collect opinions from everyone and not be arbitrary” and “cannot be self-centered.”

"Perseverance"? It means to concentrate and persevere for a long time, but not to have a beginning or an end.

Only those who have a benevolent heart and shoulder heavy responsibilities are qualified to be called talents

"Zida Daren", this "Zida" means to be a harmonious person, to make everything work, to be cautious in speaking and doing things, and not to be boastful. This is the original meaning of "Da Ren". Yes, if I abide by the rules, you also abide by the rules. In other words, I have norms, and then allow others to develop themselves to the maximum extent within these norms.

You must not completely restrain a person, otherwise his talents and potential will be stifled, and you will be very tired; however, you cannot completely let a person be autonomous, because once he exceeds the bottom line and exceeds the norms, it will be difficult for you to control him. He did it

A person's knowledge should be extensive so that he can have many topics and talk about whatever people he meets. In this way, you can make friends from all over the world and broaden your communication scope. If you can only speak one language and practice one thing, then your vision will always be very narrow and narrow

Chinese people still rely on friendship when talking, and friendship should be superficial rather than profound

Really valuable changes are changes based on the laws of nature. If they are in line with the laws of nature, we will change them. If they are not in line with the laws of nature, we will not change them no matter what others say. This is what Confucianism talks about: "Be cautious about independence." Stick to being yourself all your life, as long as you are in line with the laws of nature, because not necessarily what others say is right

The so-called "hua" means that everyone is with you They will all be affected by your subtle and invisible influence unconsciously. The people around you take the initiative to change themselves, instead of you imposing rigid rules, forcing them, setting rules and requiring them, or assessing them. After he has been with you for a long time, he will gradually become like you. This is called "transformation". It is difficult to "transform". To "transform", you have to set an example and set an example. If you just keep talking about the truth, even if you are sincere, it is just teaching

Zeng Guofan has a family motto The eight-character formula is morning, sweep, kao, treasure, book, vegetable, fish, and pig. These eight characters have allowed the Zeng family to maintain a farming lifestyle for a long time. The children are diligent and studious, and the family style is rigorous, kind and simple

Third, take the test. "Kao" means "filial piety", which refers to offering sacrifices to ancestors, respecting Kao's concubines, and not forgetting the teachings of our ancestors

Fourth, treasure. "Relatives and neighbors are always around each other, offering greetings and condolences, asking questions and helping those who are in need."

The most important thing when reading is to understand the truth. Only those truths can change your temperament. Therefore, Zeng Guofan asked himself to "not study every day" very early, and he really did it

The last three, vegetables, fish and pigs, namely growing vegetables, raising fish and raising pigs, refer to "Farm", maintain a farming lifestyle, be healthy and simple

Whether you are an official or a human being, you must have a sense of responsibility and keep your word. This will determine your personal credibility and reputation, which will directly affect you. A person who knows the current affairs

"Knowing the current affairs" means that if a person feels that he should go out to do things, he will go out and do his part; otherwise, he would rather stay in seclusion

In fact, each of us has it There are many shortcomings. In this life, we have to constantly discover our own shortcomings, constantly improve, and then let ourselves change from being ignorant to being enlightened. In the end, we have some unique insights. This is the greatest achievement in our life

The boss should "I don't have the final say, let the second child have the final say", this is wise

What is "morality"? "You will get something by practicing the Tao", which is called "morality"

If a person acts according to the laws of heaven, it does not mean that the result will be good, nor does it mean that he will be promoted and make a fortune, but that he deeply feels that It is indeed in line with the law of heaven. This alone shows that this person has high moral cultivation

Someone who really knows can definitely do it. Only those who have done it are qualified to say that they know. Anything that is difficult to do or do is because you don’t know it thoroughly. Knowledge and action must be united. Do you know what it's used for? If you can't do it, it means nothing

Don't say who you are good to, who you are kind to, others must thank you. If you don't ask for favors, they will always be there. If you ask for them, there will be nothing left.

If you practice cultivation to the end, all bad people will become good when they see you. This is your greatest merit

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To learn from Zeng Guofan, what exactly do you want to learn from him? In fact, there are only four words: loyalty, filial piety, justice

What is life? It’s about perseverance and waiting.

A person who can wait will always have hope, but a person who cannot wait will often miss the opportunity

The "Three Immortals" refer to the establishment of virtue, meritorious service and speech

He knows that if It is actually very unfortunate for a person to get the opportunity to be in a high position before he is ready, because it will end up harming himself and others. Therefore, he uses this time to constantly reflect on himself, study and improve in a down-to-earth manner, and cultivate his character and temper his will. and academic advancement, which laid a good foundation for future development

The Book of Changes tells us that "time" is very important, and it can determine many things. If the "time" has not arrived, we can delay it. When the "time" comes, make a decisive decision. Therefore, we must wait for the times and act according to the situation. Whether it is good times or bad times, we must assess the situation. If it is slightly unreasonable, it will be in vain

The "Yi" in "The Book of Changes" has three meanings, easy, difficult, and simple

I recommend everyone to read a book called "The Book of Changes Is Really Easy"

·A person can change his own destiny, but he can only change it by himself, his heart and his ideas. ·Everyone has blind spots. , this blind spot is the point that you cannot see clearly. You must be brave enough to face yourself and find out your shortcomings. Remember, your shortcomings are the lessons of your life. ·Everyone must remember four things. Words: Enough is enough. Always be aware of where you are, and never push yourself too far. ·Sometimes people need to wake up. It’s not about who is smart or not. You often don’t see things clearly about yourself, but you see things clearly about others. Why do you want to convince others? Who wants to be persuaded by you? Completely clear it from your mind. We are not qualified to persuade anyone, and few people are really willing to accept our persuasion. We can only say, "I did it, you can refer to it." The biggest problem of modern people is "I." I know, I know, but I just can’t do it.” Don’t use this sentence as an excuse. Those who really know can definitely do it. Only those who can do it are qualified to say that they know. Anyone who has difficulty doing or practicing , just don’t know it thoroughly. ·A person must be honest, but not too honest; a person must be serious, but not too serious. ·Life is a period of adjustment, and that bottleneck is the turning point. , or called an inflection point. If you can't turn around, you will stumble

You have to think carefully about how to make a good, smooth, and effective turn. This is called adjustment

· There is absolutely nothing wrong with being diligent, modest, courteous, and frugal in any era, and you must insist on it

· "Be cautious about being alone" means being yourself and walking your own path, not being alone as we generally understand it. People should be careful. This "individuality" is unique to you and is different from others. But if your characteristics are always incompatible with others, then you need to make adjustments

·Every time. Everyone should have the mentality of "Being a monk for a day and hitting the clock for a day", and don't think this is bad. You should have done what you are supposed to do

·"Teach while teaching", in fact, the responsibility of parents is these four words

·Everyone only has one thing to do in his life. Drink two glasses of wine, one glass of bitter wine and one glass of sweet wine. The key is how you drink it. You drink up the sweet stuff first, and then you suffer the consequences. Therefore, we would rather suffer a little and suffer a little when we are young. So parents should not be afraid of their children suffering. Parents cannot follow their children all their lives. This sentence should be kept in mind

·Only by doing something and not doing something can you truly love your children

·Everything you should do to be a boss People who work very hard lack the "Chinese" part of their cultivation. · Leaders only need to review themselves on one thing, that is, whether you have used the right people and whether you have arranged people in the right places. This is your responsibility. ·A boss only has two things to do: first, make the business bigger so that everyone has hope of promotion; second, make everyone who works with you have food to eat.

·As a leader, you must be both kind and powerful. You must not be good to the end, which will turn you into a bad person, nor be bad to the end, which will mean you are hard-hearted, and you will definitely be unpopular

·Be good at Managers often die from management. Why? Because he regards management as too omnipotent. In fact, management is just a tool. The real key is the character of the manager

· "You can change your destiny, but you can only change it yourself." What should be used to change it? Use learning to change, but the prerequisite is to learn correctly. Zeng Guofan also had the problems that many of us have, but the key is that he corrected them later, which is what makes him great. The most remarkable thing about a person is not to say "I have special talents and good inheritance", but to say "I will make myself better and better no matter what". This is the greatest cultivation

· "Whenever you do something, you must concentrate on it with all your energy, and work tirelessly from beginning to end. Do not change your mind, do this, think that, sit on this mountain and look at that mountain, you have no perseverance, and you will accomplish nothing in your life." It was him who made up his mind and then slowly changed his destiny