I first heard this sentence said by my high school teacher. When he mentioned it, I even disagreed, thinking that everyone knew this, even though we still had a lot of reasons not to go. study.
Recently I encountered some things that made me feel that this sentence couldn’t be more correct. An aunt I am very close to is in her forties. Although she is middle-aged in today's society, she is definitely not considered senior. She has been unemployed at home for six or seven years. Since her daughter also learned to drive, every time she sat in the car, she said, "People like me can't drive at all. I am scared when I see a car passing by. I have been scared since riding a motorcycle." It left a shadow on me. Her daughter understood it very well at first, but after telling her more, her daughter found that this became more and more like her aunt’s excuse for why she didn’t learn to drive. Because once, my aunt’s husband asked her and her brother to learn how to drive, but the aunt refused as soon as they finished talking, and she didn’t agree without even thinking about it. Isn't that how people are? If life really forces you to a point where you have no choice but to do it, you will definitely do it, even if it is not what you want to do. There are too many helpless things in life. Sanitation workers work from early to late at night, but they have no choice. In order to keep the city clean and tidy, and to support their families, they work from early in the morning to late at night. No matter how hard and tired they are, they never think of giving up. Their last resort may be because their education is not high enough and they have no skills. They can only do some physical work within their ability to make money to support their families. The reason why the aunt has the choice is because she doesn't want to learn from the bottom of her heart. She is afraid of trouble and taking on more responsibilities. Being able to drive means that when the elderly need to be picked up, you have to take the time to pick them up. However, the aunt doesn't want to at all. Why? , it must be laziness. If the aunt really wanted to learn to drive, she would be able to overcome her own obstacles and be brave enough to learn this skill. However, she doesn't want to, so she often sees her husband and daughter having to act as drivers in addition to busy work and study.
Ninety percent of the reasons for not wanting to do things in the world can be attributed to laziness. Because of laziness, I didn’t get into the ideal school because of my studies; because of laziness, it’s hard to find a job without any skills; because of laziness, I can only wait at home for my family to support me; because of laziness, I can’t even find my partner and end up alone; even Because I am lazy, have no pursuits, and no ideals, I am just like a salted fish, sunbathing from the front to the back at home every day.
For many things, we say we can’t do this and that can’t happen, but it’s not that we really can’t do it. In fact, the truth is that we don’t want to do it from the bottom of our hearts.
Auntie is such a person. Recently, she had some files that needed to be copied to a USB flash drive. She asked her daughter to help her do it. Because her daughter had already helped her with copying files many times, she didn't understand why her aunt still couldn't do it until now. This time, she asked her daughter to help her. Her daughter asked her to take a piece of paper and write down how to operate it. The aunt felt very casual and just recorded it and it was done. Probably less than a week later, my aunt needed to copy files to a USB flash drive again. However, she still pretended that she didn't know how to do it, and asked her daughter confidently, "Have you ever handed it over to me?" Hearing this, even if I wasn't her daughter, I thought, "Auntie, don't you know this? You've made it clear that you don't want to learn." And in the final analysis, you have no intention at all, and even recording is just perfunctory.
It may not be easy for middle-aged people to copy files well, but with the patient and repeated teachings of the younger generation, I think as long as they are not 70 or 80 years old, or are not normal people with learning disabilities, it can be done It can be learned. If the aunt said that I still haven't learned it after reading the notes, can you teach me more, maybe it will be more acceptable. However, the aunt didn't even think about it or read her notes before she directly asked her professor whether he had taught her anything. This was the most unacceptable thing. If you don't study sincerely and don't cherish the knowledge imparted to you by others, then I don't think there is any need to discuss this issue with you anymore.
Ajie has been helping to build a house in the countryside recently, but since she has never been exposed to construction before, she starts from the most basic learning, asking family members, friends, etc. Master, I asked the workers, and finally I became the supervisor and completed a decent brick house in the countryside. The rough house was completed, but the subsequent decoration, water and electricity was also a big problem. It was not only the problem of decorating the house, but also dealing with the surroundings The relationship between the neighbors of the house. Sometimes when Ajie encounters a conflict with a fellow villager who is building a house next to her, she will tell her husband and ask her husband how to solve the problem. After all, Ajie’s husband knows more than her and can often help with the issue of building a house. But Ajie has a very bad habit. Every time Ajie raises a problem to her husband, if he explains to her that she doesn’t understand a little bit, she will say, “I’m too lazy to pay attention to you.” Her husband gets angry at that time. Okay, I thought it was you who told me about this and asked me to help with my opinions. Now it’s okay. I told you my opinions and the methods that I think are feasible. You just dismissed me without saying anything. It’s probably because others have slapped the butt and left. Only family members can tolerate this kind of problem-solving attitude.
If you don’t understand, you can ask. If you don’t understand, you can ask for help. If you don’t understand, you can learn. There are many ways to solve problems. What I’m afraid of is that you are lazy. If the person you ask for help directly gives you advice or himself Wouldn't it be better to do this? You will get help from it and your work efficiency will be greatly improved. Why not do it. People, don’t be lazy, laziness is more terrible than poison, laziness will only make you learn nothing, accomplish nothing, and handle nothing well. Be diligent, not for others, but for yourself.
As a middle-aged woman in her late 60s and early 70s, the most worrying thing for Jiajia recently is gaining weight. Although it has long been heard that people will gain weight in middle age, Jiajia has always believed that she has No matter how hard I eat, I can't get fat, so in less than a year, my weight has skyrocketed from less than 110 pounds to nearly 125 pounds. My belly has grown bigger, and the fat on it is more spectacular than a swimming ring. The slender limbs that I was proud of before have now turned into unicorn arms and elephant legs, and all the good times seem to have disappeared so suddenly. So Jiajia started clamoring to lose weight. She started doing sit-ups every night. She persisted for less than a week and stopped when her menstrual period came. After her menstrual period, Jiajia returned to her previous lazy state of sitting on the sofa and watching TV immediately after eating. Now, let alone doing sit-ups, she is not even willing to take a simple walk, and her food intake is getting bigger and bigger. The hair was surprisingly big. At noon, I have to eat a big bowl of noodles, and immediately after eating, eat more than one fruit such as bananas and mangoes. Then if the weather is hot, I will have another ice cream bar. In this way, the increasing appetite and a life with almost no physical exertion have caused an imbalance in the body's balance of expenditures, which can only lead to more and more weight. However, Jiajia can only focus on losing weight for three minutes, that is, just talk about it, but it only takes a day or two to actually exercise.
It is said that losing weight is a woman’s lifelong career, but there are really very few women who can really stick to it. If you want to always be elegant and beautiful, there is no other way to maintain your figure except to work hard and keep exercising. Of course, unless someone wants to use extreme methods - plastic surgery or liposuction, so as long as you have a firm belief in losing weight, you will always be supported. You keep getting farther and farther on the road to becoming more and more beautiful. Don't give yourself a reason to put off losing weight again and again. Beauty can't tolerate any procrastination, so take action now, beauties!
Actually, I would also like to talk about my senior class teacher. He is really a hard-working person worth learning from. He has always been working and studying seriously, and he is not sloppy in his treatment of students. He never treats students badly. I will have a muddled attitude and make sure that the whole class can understand a basic knowledge point. After studying, he never forgets to ask us to exercise more and improve our physical fitness. Only with a good body can we devote more energy to studying. His hard work finally paid off. The undergraduate rate of several senior high school students he led has always been far ahead, and he was recently promoted to grade director.
Finally, let me end with the famous saying of my respected head teacher: There is always a way if you want to do something, and there is always a reason if you don’t want to do it!
Thank you everyone for reading.