As for the method of success, I think the signpost of success given by Mr. Jia is a very applicable and useful method of success:
1. Select the target
"Goals are the first secret of success", yes, choosing goals is very important to success. Just like a boat floating on the sea, without a goal, it will always drift in the endless Wang Yang, with no destination and no home, so it will lose itself. But for a ship with a clear destination, it will move forward step by step towards the predetermined goal, and it will not give up even if there are heavy storms. With goals, there will be motivation to move forward. For a person, the goal is the other shore you must reach, where it is beautiful and the goal will give you the direction to struggle. With a goal, you can always guide you where to go. Secondly, it is necessary to clarify the setting of goals. For vague goals, it will only add trouble to yourself in the future and will also have an adverse impact on the road to success. Therefore, a clear goal is an important prerequisite for success.
List plans
With the goal, we should make a perfect plan for how to achieve it. This plan is a guarantee of success. There is also a saying that "no plan is a plan failure", which shows that making a plan is also very important. I remember the teacher gave us three essentials: plan every day, act every day and check every day.
Make a decision
Everyone will encounter many difficulties, countless thorns and countless bumps on the road to success. Some people will have the idea that success is difficult and not easy. Do we really have to succeed? Now we have a good life. Is it necessary to pursue success? I have some uncertain ideas and even changed my original intention, which shows that I didn't really make up my mind when I wanted to succeed, so I must succeed. So we must make up our minds, strengthen our faith and succeed!
take immediate action
"One idea is not as good as one", if there is no action, no matter how perfect the goal is, no matter how precise the plan is, it will be in vain, and everything is just useless waste. So remember one sentence: "Take action and then take action, and you will succeed".
5. Believe in yourself
"The method is always more difficult than it is." Always believe in yourself and remain confident. Self-confidence comes from your deepest strength. The so-called heaven is beneficial and harmless. All difficulties should not be regarded as obstacles, but as tests given by God. In order to make you stronger and more motivated, I believe you can overcome them. We must know that "if the sky wants to drop people, we must first suffer their hearts, work their bones and muscles, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and mess with their actions, so we must be patient and get what we can't do." Believe in yourself and you will succeed!
Positive thinking
"Life lies in thinking, and thinking is the foundation of life." A brain expert's brainstorming pointed out that when people think positively, they will produce a positive substance, which will have a favorable impact on our actions, so we should let ourselves have a beneficial thinking. If we think positively, things will develop in many ways.
7. Never give up
On the road to success, there is no failure, only giving up. No matter what difficulties we meet, we have no reason to give up. Giving up is giving up, there is no hope, so you can't give up easily. We are successful people, and we will not give up. There is a solution to everything, that is, we have to find it ourselves and solve it. Usually, success and failure lie between this idea. Persistence will lead to success, and giving up will lead to nothing.
Step 8 get involved
As long as we do our work well in advance, success is "success in it" for us.
The above is my own successful experience. I also believe that "success is beautiful, success is simple, and everyone can succeed"!
(2) Failure is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you dare not face failure. What is even more frightening is that you don't try to succeed.
I remember Wang Zhi, the host of CCTV, said that success is relative, and everyone has his own success criteria.
Some people think that having money, a house, a car and a woman is success.
Some people think that success means that you do what you want to do and do it well.
Others simply deny the existence of success. He believes that there is no success in this world, only endless pursuit.
Let's analyze the word success from the perspective of human nature.
First of all, success must be related to events. Without events, there is no success.
So how did the incident start? This has to consider who is the main body of success. In other words, who succeeded?
Let's assume that the main body of success is you. The subject is you, and the feeling of natural success is also based on you. Then we will think of the beginning, development and end of events related to you. How did the incident begin? Of course you did it because of you!
Then why did you do it? Did you do it by accident, or did you plan to do it for a long time or didn't want to do it at all? What you do unintentionally will make you feel successful? I didn't. Even if it succeeds, at least it won't last long. We in China use one sentence to describe this unintentional thing, that is, the feeling of luck, surprise but no long-term satisfaction, and I am embarrassed to show it off on the table.
If you don't want to do something and have to do it for some reason, will you be happy after doing it? Will you feel satisfied? Do you think you have succeeded? I won't, and I don't think you will.
Well, let's just say this is what you want to do. Regardless of the process of doing it, there are bound to be two results in doing one thing well and not doing one thing well. Then it's not success if you don't do it well. But is it successful to do one thing well?
If this is a trivial matter that you think is trivial, you just want to do it because it may be necessary, but it is not commendable at all, will you feel successful? Will you excitedly call me success? I don't think you will. So, this must be what you really want to do. You have a strong desire to realize it. When it is made, you will have a strong sense of satisfaction and excitement.
Well, combined with the above discussion, let's see what success is. First, the subject of success is you, then what you really want to do, then you do it, and then the most important thing is that you have a strong sense of satisfaction.
We can see that success is actually a feeling. Whose feeling is it? The theme of success is your feelings. How do you feel? You are happy, you are excited, and you have a special sense of satisfaction. You are willing to tell others what you have done and let others feel your joy.
So I want to make a new definition of success: success refers to the satisfaction and excitement people get when they do what they are very eager to do.
So we do things, no matter big or small, as long as it is what you want to do, and you get happiness through hard work, then you will succeed.
Don't look at success too far, and don't look at success too easily. Success requires your efforts.
Those who think that success does not exist are actually people who constantly define new goals. They will also get happiness from what they have done, and they have succeeded.
What does success mean? Dr. Carl is a successful scientist. He believes that "success means many beautiful and positive things." Success means personal prosperity: good housing, holidays, travel, novelty, financial security and the most favorable conditions for your children. Success means getting praise, having leadership and winning the respect of others in professional and social circles. Success means freedom: freedom from all kinds of troubles, fears, setbacks and failures. Success means self-esteem, pursuing greater happiness and satisfaction in life, and doing more for those who depend on you for a living. "Indeed, success means many things, and according to everyone's different understanding, the above description can be extended indefinitely. But what is the essence of success?
Success actually contains two meanings. First, society recognizes the value of individuals and gives them corresponding rewards, such as money, status, housing, respect and so on. The second is to admit your own value and make yourself full of confidence, enrichment and happiness. However, people often ignore the latter meaning of success, thinking that only when the society recognizes us and others respect us can we have a successful life, and only when flowers and applause surround us can we be considered as a successful moment; Just thinking that you have succeeded is not only meaningless, but also suspected of arrogance.
In fact, only when a person has a high opinion of himself and thinks that he will succeed can he really succeed. The reason is also very simple, that is, people can't give others what they don't have. If a person feels that his life is worthless, how can he create value for society and finally get social recognition?
Since childhood, we have lived in an environment that teaches us "self-modesty" and "self-control". Many life proverbs, such as "the rafters in the early days rot first" and "being a man with his tail between his legs", remind us to suppress ourselves and underestimate ourselves all the time. Although these ideas may sometimes be an external excuse or a self-protection strategy, if they are allowed to overflow, a torrent will flow out of society. People will be like sharp stones at first. In this torrent of thoughts that obliterate individuality, it will become pebbles without edges and corners over time, lose self-confidence and even expectations, dare not have any bad feelings, and waste your life.
People often say "you get what you expect". If you expect mediocrity, you will get mediocrity. If you expect greatness, you may be really great. Li Suli, the pacesetter of public transportation, expected to be an announcer in middle school, but she became a bus conductor in practical work. According to the traditional understanding, her hopes were dashed. She could have given up her original expectations and become an ordinary conductor with the feeling of failure, but she is not like this. Even in the post of conductor, she still requires herself to pronounce the station name clearly and carefully with the standard of announcer. I remember there was such a TV interview in the activity of studying Li Suli. A group of actors, singers and announcers boarded the Li Suli service train for observation. Someone asked her if she still wanted to be an announcer. Li Suli proudly said that she used to be an announcer, an announcer on a bus. This kind of pride is definitely not something she got after she became a model worker and evaluated the model worker. This kind of pride must be her usual mentality. It is precisely because of her eternal expectation and pride that she has adhered to strict and high standards of service for several years and has been appreciated and praised by many passengers. It is her eternal expectation, pride and firm action that set up a new image as a conductor.
People are like a car, expectations are like shifting gears, and negative thoughts such as doubt, inferiority, resentment and failure are like rust and dirt in the engine of a car. Only by getting rid of these dirt and changing into a high gear can the car of life quickly run to success, and a person with low expectations and inferiority is like an old car that only smokes black smoke in a low gear. As described in a Tang poem, "Qian Fan is on the side of the sunken ship and Wan Muchun is in front of the diseased tree". Modern society is a society full of talents and competition, and only those who are confident and dare to act have a chance to succeed. John Cote of Harvard University studied hundreds of successful cases in his investigation of American successful entrepreneurs. He found that a common feature of successful people is high self-evaluation, thinking that their actions represent the right direction, and they all have strong self-confidence and enterprising spirit.
Of course, there is another side to life, that is, everyone will encounter unpleasant things, and everyone will inevitably have emotions such as worry, sadness, guilt and disappointment. In the face of failure, some people will constantly remind themselves that they are losers and wait for the next failure with trepidation, and failure will often come to these people again as promised, so failure is sometimes caused by themselves. Before the real failure came, they had doubted their ability, gave up their efforts and waited for the failure to come. Successful people sometimes fail, but they will keep confidence in the face of failure. They will regard failure as a special case and say to themselves, "I didn't do it, I will do better"; They will find a positive side from failure, such as "staying in the green hills, not afraid of burning without firewood"; They will make up for their mistakes and transfer their negative emotions through positive actions. Through these actions, they not only have a high self-evaluation again, but also prepare for success in reality. For them, failure is the mother of success.
The potential meaning of "people have self-knowledge" is often to ask people to look at their own shortcomings and not to be complacent. It is this "self-knowledge" that is critical of shortcomings that has no positive significance. It just makes people understand what is to be avoided, but can't tell themselves what is to be developed. You should know that "a gentleman saves three times a day." Although modern people may not reach the standard of introspection of ancient gentlemen, they should constantly evaluate themselves in life. The direction and content of self-evaluation have a lot to do with people. It's like hearing people say, "You can't do this, you can't do that, you can't do this, you can't do that …" But you never know where you are and what you want to do. This situation is desperate. However, if the direction of self-evaluation is positive and self-affirming, then individuals will not only have positive emotional experiences, but also be more likely to develop good behaviors and produce good results.
As Thackeray, an English writer, famously said, "Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you; If you cry to it, it will cry to you. "The arrival of success is like a couplet: say you can do it, but you can't; You say no, you can't. This couplet should have a finishing touch, that is, our topic today is "self-evaluation"-if you think you can do it, you can do it, if you think you can't, you really can't.