Why do so many marriages break up? Either they feel wronged, they can’t find the motivation to grow, or they lose money. When giving and receiving are not proportional, the relationship is over!

There has never been any intimate relationship in the world that is an unequal relationship between parents and children. Only by knowing this can you keep going!

If you don’t give, to the other person, you are just a vampire or a parasite, do not grow, do not love yourself, and have no value. Your relationship will collapse!

A truly good marriage relationship empowers each other, nourishes each other, and lives better together!

① Only with the same spirit can we nourish each other

Last year, a piece of news about "South Korea's Samsung daughter who married a bodyguard was compensated for 8.6 billion won in compensation" once caused a heated discussion on the Internet.

Lee Fuzhen, the three-star daughter of South Korea, comes from a wealthy family. She possesses all the elegance, beauty, talent and status of a wealthy daughter.

In December 2010, Li Fuzhen was appointed as the person in charge of Shilla Hotel and Samsung Everland.

On January 9, 2015, Li Fuzhen was appointed as an independent director by China CITIC Corporation (CITIC). It is reported that Li Fuzhen will receive a remuneration of HK$350,000 from CITIC Group after serving as an independent director of CITIC Group.

Ren Youzai, whose origin is unknown, was the bodyguard of Li Fuzhen's father when he met Li Fuzhen.

Li Fuzhen asked him to go abroad to study economic management. He thought it was a very painful thing, and he even asked for mental damages during the divorce. And despite the fact that his economic conditions are very poor, he still strongly demands custody of his children. After receiving 8.6 billion won in divorce fees, he still has to appeal!

After their marriage failed, the man showed more of himself as a victim. Letting him grow has also become a reason for a huge claim.

However, in fact, it is normal for such a marriage to collapse. In addition to the mismatch in birth and economic status between the two people, there is also a mismatch in the spiritual level. It's like playing ball. If I hit it, the opponent can't catch it at all. When I say something, you don’t know what I’m talking about.

The match of true love is not wealth or status, it must be the kind of thing that understands you, understands you, and gets close to you.

It is not forced, it should be attracted and integrated naturally. Even if there are conflicts and problems, there will not be a "chicken talking to the duck" situation. There is no way for two people like this to empower each other. Not to mention mutual achievement!

Many people are surprised that the 45-year-old aunt chose to divorce because her husband often flicked cigarette ashes into her flower pots and was laughed at when she was studying. I admire this aunt's courage. She knows that being with a man who doesn't understand is a huge loss. Depleting her inner poetry, romance, and love. When another man happily commented on the words she wrote, helped her water the flowers, prune the branches, and watch the sunset together, she knew she had found love.

If in life, you give your partner enjoyment instead of a prison, then this is the right person.

② Only when a woman stands up in her soul can she gain strength

There was once a woman who was married to a domestically violent man. She complained on the Internet every day that she was being abused by her husband. .

Everyone advised her to divorce, but she scolded us for being troublesome. She said that her husband loved her, but he just couldn't control himself after drinking.

We tried to persuade her to no avail, and she still lived in a state of self-comfort.

Every day she sends us photos of her being beaten more violently than her husband, and every day she says that she has been tortured to the point where she no longer looks like a human being. Then she posts pictures of her husband spending a lot of money on her after he wakes up.

For a while, I compared the photos of her smiling face and beautiful face before getting married with the terrifying look of her now, who is hopeless and has dull eyes. Then, she showed off the gift her husband bought for her.

The onlookers are tired of this cycle.

One of them wastes time in pathological indulgence, and the other loses the meaning of life in passive acceptance.

The famous movie star Fan Bingbing not only has sharp and determined eyes, but also has a strong heart. When marrying into a rich family was a trend, someone asked Mr. Fan what he thought. She said: "I don't need to marry into a wealthy family, I am a wealthy family!"

Yes, I don't need to cling to anyone, my soul belongs to me.

I don’t need to use money to deal with your unforgivable contempt and ravage after you beat me up. I can go wherever I want to go, see the scenery I want to see, and love the people I want to love. .

This is what a woman should look like.

"Three Billboards" actress, Oscar Best Actress Frances McDormand's acceptance speech: My family, Joe Cohn (husband) and Pedro Cohn (son), These two men grew up under the care of mothers who advocated equality between men and women. They also used this value to view themselves, each other, and the people around them. I know you are proud of me, which makes me very happy. Next, I want to express some of my own opinions. If you can, I would like to invite all the female filmmakers nominated to join me in standing up.

Mel (Meryl Streep), if you stand up first, everyone else will! Actresses, female filmmakers, female producers, female directors, female screenwriters, female photographers, female composers, female designers, etc., everyone, please stand up! ”

Yes, women should stand up, no matter what relationship they are in.

This requires the awakening of every woman’s self-awareness. This is the basis for women to stand up.

A woman who gives in to money and temporary comfort cannot stand up, nor can she empower others.

③ A mutually nourishing relationship is mutually beneficial

Good. In the marriage relationship, men and women empower and nourish each other.

They not only have a healthy body and a rosy face, but they also have enough confidence and satisfaction in the future. , hand in hand through one test after another in life.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote books throughout his life and became a famous translator. Their children, Qian Yuan, also have works. An excellent educator.

When Mr. Qian Zhongshu was seriously ill in his later years, Mr. Yang Jiang suffered the bad news of his daughter’s illness alone in order to prevent his husband from being worried. Fighting alone, about the pain of white-haired people sending black-haired people away.

Without love, Mr. Qian’s achievements in life would not be so eye-catching. 》 Such classic works have been passed down to the world and become a generation of people!

Their love is that the woman said: I see your talent and feel your goal. I support you all the way and keep moving towards it. At the same time, I will not forget to improve myself, keep up with your pace, and achieve my own talents through self-improvement.

The man said: I understand your understanding and dedication. Let's go through every hurdle in life together and walk towards happiness and hand in hand.

Therefore, in a marriage, two people respect and love each other, support each other, and make 100% efforts together. . Mutual success, two people shine in their own fields and achieve results!

Such a family is a marriage that empowers each other to live out their lives and nourish others!

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In this kind of marriage, you are still you and I am still me, but we grow together to become better and more perfect people

④ A good relationship is to gain peace of soul and companionship. Mutual empowerment

The meaning of mutual empowerment is that no matter what stage of life the other person is in, we can give each other true understanding and understanding. When we are greasy in middle age, I can shoulder the responsibility of a family with you. When you need love from the depths of your soul, I understand you.

If a man encounters a career change, I can listen to you: No matter what decision you make, I will support you and understand you! I won’t abandon this friendship! It’s better to just ask for it.

Many women only wait for men to give gifts and bear the burden of the family. When I love you, I can accept you. When I don't love you, you are as annoying as a parasite.

Therefore, an equal relationship must be mutually supportive and evenly matched.

And nourishment is not one-sided. I give you strength, and you also give me strength.

Domestic violence, disrespect, incompatibility, and cold war are all losses in relationships. Learn to stop behaviors that damage your relationship.

The meaning of mutual nourishment is that I nourish myself first. I can find nourishing power in my hobbies. Then use my beauty to nourish this family and nourish everyone in our family.

This nourishment does not only require women’s blind contribution. It requires both sexes to nourish themselves together and then give feedback to others.

The law of conservation of energy tells us that continuous loss needs to be replenished.

The form of supplementation is not only the giving from the outside world, but also the absorption and acceptance by oneself. Developing a hobby is an effective way to nourish yourself.

In a turbulent married life, whether it is still or moving, when you feel that the energy field is getting weaker and weaker, you need to stop and take a look at your own. relationship.

Ask yourself if it is draining your energy and if you are being nourished.

The intimate relationship that goes on together should be one of mutual empowerment and mutual nourishment.

About the author:

Sally, a mother born in the 1980s, likes to be divorced, pretend to be aloof, and strives all her life to be an elegant and strong woman. Work and write at the same time, committed to being a high-quality slash youth.

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