First of all, the ideology of the whole society defines and distinguishes the differences between men and women. In our discourse system, we have preconceived the differences between men and women. Children have heard these words since childhood, but they clearly reflect the limitations of gender definition.
Secondly, in daily life, parents have the greatest influence on their children. For example, boys should wear blue when they are young, and girls should wear pink; Boys play with cars and girls play with dolls; Boys should be brave and girls should be obedient. Are you right about these examples? You see, parents have imposed gender awareness on their children before they have it. While we want our children to grow up freely and become the people they want to be, we are constantly instilling in them the awareness of the differences between men and women.
Moreover, there will be such gender differences in school education. For example, boys should study science with good logic, while girls should study liberal arts with good writing style. But in fact, there is almost no innate difference between men and women in intelligence level and brain. The differences are constantly changing under the guidance of the day after tomorrow. The brain is very plastic and will be more influenced by society, environment and experience.
Finally, there will be obvious differences in career choice and social division of labor. For example, men are more qualified for leadership positions, men should take on greater responsibilities, men should be stronger, protect women, and so on. This will also make women gradually lose self-confidence and begin to doubt whether their abilities are really inferior to those of men.
Education has a great influence on children. Whether in society, family or school, children will gradually improve their understanding of society and life during their growth. What we can do is not to define and set limits for children, so that children can have diversified cognition and choices and stimulate their potential.