1. The highest principle of maintaining balance is "giving up". 2. Giving up something in life will definitely bring pain to the soul. 3. Losing balance is far more painful than giving up. I think no matter who you are, after a sharp turn in life, you must give up some happiness and a part of yourself. There is only one way to avoid giving up, and that is to always stay where you are and never let your feet embark on the journey.
2. It is easy to criticize others. Not only parents and spouses, but everyone may regard criticism as a daily routine. However, most criticism is only based on temporary impulse, dissatisfaction and anger, and has no enlightening or educational significance. , but made the situation more confusing. People who truly love will never criticize others or have conflicts with others. They try their best to avoid giving the other person the impression of arrogance. If you often conflict with your loved ones, you probably think that you are superior to others in terms of knowledge or morals. If you truly love others, you will recognize that the other person is a completely independent individual different from yourself.
3. Quite a few people lack interest in knowing the facts. Some people give up drawing maps after they reach adolescence. Their original maps were narrow, vague, and rough, and their understanding of the world was narrow and extreme. After most people reach middle age, they believe that their maps are perfect and their worldview has no flaws. They even think that they are sacred and inviolable. They have little interest in new information and information and seem to be exhausted. Only a few lucky ones can continue to work hard, and they continue to explore, expand and update their understanding of the world until the end of their lives.
4. Life is full of hardships. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths in the world. Its greatness lies in the fact that once we figure it out, we can achieve transcendence in life. As long as we know that life is difficult, as long as we truly understand and accept this, then we will never be brooding over the hardships of life again.
5. There is no doubt that the love of parents determines the quality of family education. Education full of love brings luck; education lacking love can only lead to misfortune. Caring parents are good at examining their children's needs and making rational and objective judgments. They may also experience pain and suffering alongside their children when faced with painful choices. Of course, children will gradually realize that their parents are willing to accompany them to endure the pain. They may not express their gratitude immediately, but they can understand the connotation and true meaning of pain. They remind themselves: "Since my parents are willing to accompany me to endure the pain, the pain is not necessarily so terrible, and it may not be too bad. I also You should take responsibility and face your own pain. "This is the starting point of self-discipline.
6. Love in the true sense means loving yourself as well as loving others. Love can make oneself and others feel progress. People who don't love themselves can never love others. If parents lack self-discipline, it is impossible for their children to understand what self-improvement is. As we promote the mental maturity of others, our own minds will not remain stagnant. Only by strengthening our own power to grow can we become a source of strength for others. We will eventually realize that loving ourselves and loving others are actually two parallel trajectories. The two are getting closer and closer, and their boundaries will eventually become blurred or even completely eliminated.
7. The best decision-makers are willing to bear the pain of their decisions without affecting their ability to make decisions. Whether a person is outstanding and great depends on his ability to bear pain.
8. One of the important characteristics of love is that neither loving nor being loved is an accessory to the other. People who give true love should always regard the object of love as an independent individual and always respect the independence and growth of the other person.
9. Everyone has this tendency. Once a problem arises, it must be solved immediately, otherwise they will be upset and restless. This mentality is obviously unrealistic, but wishful thinking and waiting for the problem to resolve itself Disappearing, this mentality is more terrifying and usually does not bring any good results. (geyan123)
10. Everyone is afraid of suffering. When encountering a problem, they will panic and run away. Some people choose to delay time and imagine that the problem will disappear on its own; some people choose to turn a blind eye to the problem and deceive themselves into thinking that the problem will disappear on their own. The problem has nothing to do with oneself; some people choose entertainment, alcohol or drugs to put the problem out of consciousness and try to forget the existence of the problem in exchange for a moment of relief. We always run away from problems instead of fighting them head-on. We always want to stay away from the problem and don't want to suffer the pain of solving it.
11. The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain in life with a positive and proactive attitude. It mainly includes four aspects: delaying gratification, taking responsibility, respecting facts, and maintaining balance.
12. There is also one of the most common misunderstandings about love, which is to regard dependence as true love. Psychiatrists encounter such problems every day. This situation often occurs in patients who are extremely depressed due to emotional frustration. They cannot bear the loneliness and may even have thoughts of suicide or threaten to commit suicide. They said painfully: "I don't want to live anymore! I don't have a husband (wife, boyfriend, girlfriend), what fun is there in living? How much I love him (her)!" I had to tell them: "What you describe is not love, but excessive dependence. To be precise, it is parasitic psychology.
13. Most of the fears are related to laziness. I firmly believe this. We are often afraid of change. In fact, it is because we are too lazy to adapt to the new environment, learn new knowledge, and get involved in new fields. But if this is always the case, how can we mature ourselves?
14. People can refuse anything, but they can never refuse maturity. Refusing to mature is actually avoiding problems and avoiding pain. The tendency to avoid problems and avoid pain is the root cause of human psychological illness. If it is not dealt with in time, you will pay a heavy price and suffer greater pain. Mental maturity does not happen overnight; it is an arduous journey.
15. The more honest a person is, the easier it is to stay honest, just as the more lies a person tells, the more lies they have to make up to justify themselves. Those who dare to face the facts can live with an open mind in the world, and can also get rid of the torture of conscience and the threat of fear.