Category: Education/Science
Problem description:
I have been afraid of getting into trouble since I was a child. Now I hang out with some Hunhun every day, so now I am getting less and less courageous,,,,, but I still want to do big things. So I want to ask everyone. How can I become bolder! Thank you!
Analysis:
People who are timid and withdrawn are often people who lack self-confidence and doubt their ability to complete certain things. As a result, they may be unable to do what they originally could due to psychological tension and restraint. Things you do well will go wrong, so the key is to develop your own self-confidence. Only with self-confidence can you have the courage.
How to cultivate self-confidence
As a modern professional, just having a certain working ability is obviously weak and uncompetitive. You need to show off your killer skills at the right time - career The unique charm of self-confidence. You don't have to be beautiful or handsome, but you must be very confident! Confident people are the most attractive. And confident people can often get twice the result with half the effort and do the most perfect things with the highest efficiency.
Self-doubling analysis
Bernard Shaw has a famous saying: "A person with self-confidence can turn the small into the great and the mediocre into the magical." What is self-confidence? Self-confidence means belief. One's own strength, self-confidence is the belief that the goal one pursues is correct, and the belief that one has the strength and ability to achieve the goal one pursues. The establishment of a person's self-confidence is not innate, let alone random. -An individual's self-confidence is directly proportional to his probability of success. The stronger your self-confidence, the more able you are to not be afraid of failure or setbacks and to make unremitting progress. The greater your self-confidence, the more powerful you will be able to generate strong mental motivation and enterprising spirit, and eliminate all obstacles to implement your goals.
How to develop self-confidence
Say silently "I can do it! I can do it!!". When reciting silently, you must be decisive and recite it repeatedly, especially when you encounter difficulties. As long as you persist in reciting silently, especially if you recite silently 9 times after getting up in the morning and 9 times before going to bed at night, you will gradually build up your confidence and gain psychological strength through your own positive suggestion psychology.
Adjust your mentality and think more about happy things. Everyone has their own happy things, and happy things are things you succeed in. They are the product of your confidence and strength. Everyone recalls more of their happy things, which will enable you to correctly evaluate your own strength.
Always smile. Laughter is a sign of happiness. Laughter can give people confidence and strength; laughter can make people feel happy and uplift their spirits; laughter can make people forget their sorrows and get rid of their worries. People without confidence often have sad faces, listless faces, and dull eyes. Ambitious people have sparkling eyes and a cheerful face.
Stretch forward with your chest held high and your head raised. People's postures are compatible with people's inner experiences, and the performance of postures can promote each other with inner experiences. The more confident a person is, the more powerful he is and the more he holds his head high. Successful people, proud people, and victorious people are high-spirited. The less powerful and inferior a person is, the more listless and dejected he will be. Learning to hold your head high and chest up naturally will gradually build up your confidence and enhance your confidence.
Take the initiative to communicate and give up indifference. In the greeting with a smile, both parties will feel the warmth of human beings and the true feelings of the world. This kind of warmth and true feelings will make people full of strength and increase people's confidence.
Enjoy uplifting music.
People all have this kind of emotional experience. When they hear the majestic and exciting "March of the Volunteers", they are often inspired to be enthusiastic and high-spirited; when they hear the low and tragic music, they often feel sad and miss you. heart. Healthy eunuch music can mediate people's emotions, cultivate people's sentiments, and cultivate people's will. When people suffer setbacks, feel depressed, or lack confidence, choosing appropriate music to listen to can help people cheer up.
A large part of your self-confidence depends on your daily habits. If you lack self-confidence in yourself, you might as well try these six things to change your past habits.
l. Once you make up your mind, even if no one agrees, will you still stick to it?
(a) Yes (b) No
2. When attending a dinner party, even if you really want to go to the bathroom, will you endure it until the party is over?
(a) Yes (b) No
3. If you want to buy sexy For underwear, would you try to order by mail instead of going to the store in person? (a) Yes (b) No
4. Do you think you are an excellent lover?
(a) Yes (b) No
5. If the service attitude of the store clerk is not good, will you tell their manager?
(a) Yes (b) No
6. Don’t you often appreciate your own photos?
(a) Yes (b) No
7. Do you feel sad when others criticize you?
(a) Yes (b) No
8. Do you rarely tell others your true opinions?
(a) Yes (b) No
9. Are you skeptical about other people’s compliments?
(a) Yes (b) No
10. Do you always feel that Are you worse than others?
(a) Yes (b) No
11. Are you satisfied with your appearance?
(a) Yes ( b) No
12. Do you think your ability is better than others?
(a) Yes (b) No
l3. At the party, Do you feel uncomfortable if you are the only one wearing informal clothes? (a) Yes (b) No
14. Are you a popular person?
(a) ) Yes (b) No
15. Do you think you are attractive?
(a) Yes (b) No
16. Do you have a sense of humor? Do you feel comfortable?
(a) Yes (b) No
l7. Is your current job your expertise?
(a) Yes (b) No
18. Do you know how to match clothes?
(a) Yes (b) No
19. In times of crisis, are you calm?
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(a) Yes (b) No
20. Do you cooperate well with others?
(a) Yes (b) No
21. Do you think you are just an ordinary person?
(a) Yes (b) No
22. Do you often wish you looked like someone?
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(a) Yes (b) No
23. Do you often envy the achievements of others?
(a) Yes (b) No
24. Do you give up what you like to do in order not to make him sad?
(a) Yes (b) No
25. Do you do anything to please others? Dress up?
(a) Yes (b) No
26. Do you force yourself to do many things you don’t want to do?
(a) Yes (b) No
27. Do you let others control your life?
(a) Yes (b) No
28. Do you think Do you have more advantages than disadvantages?
(a) Yes (b) No
29. Do you often say sorry to others? Even when it is not your fault
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(a) Yes (b) No
30. If you hurt someone else’s heart unintentionally, would you feel sad?
( a) Yes (b) No
31. Do you wish you had more talents and talents?
(a) Yes (b) No
32. Do you often listen to other people’s opinions?
(a) Yes (b) No
33. At parties, do you often wait for others to say hello to you first?
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(a) Yes (b) No
34. Do you look in the mirror more than three times a day?
(a) Yes (b) No
35. Do you have a strong personality?
(a) Yes (b) No
36. Are you an excellent leader?
(a) Yes (b) No
37. Do you have a good memory?
(a) Yes (b) No
38. Do you have a good memory? Are the opposite sex attractive?
(a) Yes (b) No
39. Do you know how to manage money?
(a) Yes (b) No
40. Do you usually listen to other people’s opinions before buying clothes?
(a) Yes (b) No
Answer
1, (a) 1 point (b) 0 point 2, (a) 0 point (b) 1 point 3, (a) 0 point (b) 1 point
l point (b) 0 points 5, (a) 1 points (b) 0 points 6, (a) 0 points (b) 1 points 7, (a) 0 points 8, (a) 0 points (b) 1 points 9, (a )0 points (b) 1 point 10, (a) 0 points (b) 1 point
(a) 1 point (b) 0 points 12, (a) 1 point (b) 0 points 13 , (a) 0 points (b) 1 point 14,
points (b) 0 points 15, (a) 1 point (b) 0 points l 6, (a) 1 point (b) 0 17 points, (a
(b) 0 points 18, (a) 1 point (b) 0 points 19, (a) 1 point (b) 0 points 20, (a) 1 point (b
21, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points 22, (a) 0 points (b) 1 points 23, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points i24. Points (b) 1 Points 25, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points 26, (a) 0 points (b) 1 point 27, (a) 0 points
0 points 28, (a) 0 points (b )1 points 29, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points 30, (a) 0 points (bi
31, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points 32, (a) 0 points (b) 1 point 33, (a) 0 points (b) 0 points l34,
points (b) 1 point 35, (a) 1 point (b) 0 points 36, (a) 1 Points (b) 0 points 37, (aj
(b) 0 points 38, (a)l points (b) 0 points 39, (a)l points (b) 0 points 40, (a) )0 points j(b)i
Explanation
25-40 points: Understand your strengths and weaknesses.
However, here is a warning: if your score is close to 40 points, others may think you are arrogant or even too arrogant. You might as well be humble in front of others, so that you will be more popular. j
12-24 points: It means that you are quite confident in yourself, but you are still more or less insecure and have doubts about yourself. You may wish to remind yourself that you are not inferior to others in all aspects of your strengths and strengths, with special emphasis on your talents and achievements.
Score below 11: It means you are obviously not very confident in yourself. You are too modest and repressed, so you are often dominated by others. From now on, try not to think about your own weaknesses. Learn to value yourself first, and then others will truly value you.
Self-confidence is the belief that the goal you are pursuing is correct, and that you have the strength and ability to achieve the goal you are pursuing. The building of self-confidence among teenagers is not innate, let alone random. A teenager's self-confidence is directly proportional to his probability of success. The stronger your self-confidence, the more you will be able to make unremitting progress without fear of failure or setbacks. The greater your self-confidence, the more powerful you will be able to generate strong mental motivation and enterprising spirit, and eliminate all obstacles to achieve your goals.
To cultivate young people’s self-confidence, we must first correctly view success and failure. "Don't be arrogant when you win, don't be discouraged when you lose." Don't be discouraged even if you fail. Secondly, we must evaluate ourselves correctly and identify our strengths and weaknesses. While carrying forward your strengths, actively overcome your shortcomings and don't be intimidated by your own shortcomings. It is also important to evaluate yourself correctly and know yourself. Do not separate your positioning from your actual situation. It is not advisable to elevate yourself or belittle yourself. Only by recognizing your own shortcomings can you continue to learn and improve, constantly improve your abilities and abilities, and avoid talking big words and doing empty things. Thirdly, the goals you set must be in line with objective reality and the needs of social development. Going against the trend, even if you succeed, will be short-lived and ultimately a failure, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-confidence. Only by integrating one's own goals into the general track of development and progress of human society, and through one's unremitting efforts and pursuit, will one be able to achieve success.