talented girl
Olympic champion
Stanford Xueba
proficient in many sports
good looks
...
For a while, she seemed to be the spokesperson of "perfection". Some netizens even ridiculed: Which window did God close for her?
Facing the flood of praise, Gu Ailing was calm. She said, "I'm not as perfect as everyone thinks. Like many ordinary girls, I have many shortcomings. I just try to be myself when I grow up."
there are no truly perfect people in this world.
no one is perfect without red feet! Those who are successful also accept themselves and strive to improve themselves!
When you accept yourself happily, you will find that your mind is more open and more receptive to others.
1 Truth is more touching than perfection
Have you ever had a similar experience? Because I am afraid of making a fool of myself, I dare not express my opinions and speak in crowded places, hoping that I am a little transparent; Or because of an imperfect performance, I deeply blame myself and can't get out.
But the next psychological experiment may break your cognition. Psychologist aronson did an experiment: He asked 48 subjects to watch four videos and evaluate the characters in the videos.
The four videos are similar in plot, and they are all interviewed by the host.
In the first video, the interviewee is an excellent and successful person. During the interview, there are frequent highlights, good conversation, confidence and humor, and the whole process is very wonderful.
In the second video, the interviewee is also a very successful person, but he is a little nervous and shy. During the interview, he accidentally knocked over the coffee cup on the table.
In the third video, the interviewee is an ordinary person. There are no mistakes in the whole speech, but there are no highlights.
In the fourth video, the interviewee is also an ordinary person, but he was very nervous during the whole interview and knocked over his coffee cup.
The experimental results show that the people who are most loved are not the people in the first video who perform perfectly, but the people who are excellent in the second video but make a little mistake.
this is the famous ugly effect of psychology: it means that people with mediocre talents will not be liked, but people without faults may not be liked. The most lovable people are excellent people with small defects.
a person who looks perfect in everything will make people feel his true side. However, when they have some "small shortcomings", people feel more real, and they will feel that when they are as confused as I am, the sense of distance will naturally be closer.
Therefore, instead of deliberately pursuing 1% perfection, maintaining your true nature on the road of hard work will make you more recognized and appreciated.
2 Perfection is a false proposition, and self-acceptance is the unlocking password!
Perfection only exists in the ideal world, just like no matter how fine the physical experiment conditions are, it is impossible to avoid zero error in the results. People are the same, there is no perfect person in this world. So why not learn to accept your imperfect self?
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. We should keep the advantages, but we should not blindly resist the disadvantages, but live in harmony with them. Slowly improve it, constantly experience and become a better self. Don't let "perfection" overwhelm us!
Brad, the hero of the movie "Call Me First", is a patient with congenital Tourette's disease, who makes strange noises uncontrollably.
For this reason, Brad is often ridiculed and bullied by his classmates, and the school is unwilling to accept students like him. This made Brand feel very sad and inferior. Later, with the efforts of her mother, she finally found a school for Brad who was willing to take him in.
Brad wants to be a people's teacher when he grows up, but all schools rejected him because of his strange illness. This made Brad very devastated. But he didn't give up his dream of being a people's teacher. After several twists and turns, a primary school was finally willing to try him out for a year.
When Brad faced his first batch of students, he sincerely confessed his symptoms to the students. Before that, he had been worried that the students would discriminate against him because of this, but on the contrary, the students were very happy to get along with Brad, which gave him an unexpected surprise.
Brad said at the award ceremony later: "Adapting to my Tourette's disease taught me the most precious lesson in the world, that is, never let anything stop you from pursuing your dreams, working or playing, or falling in love."
always remember to accept yourself, accept your shortcomings and be more sure of yourself.
Lin Yutang once said, "Imperfection is the most perfect life".
Just like Venus with a broken arm, why is it loved by people? Because it embodies a kind of incomplete beauty well, it breaks the mistake of arms, but it leaves people with unlimited space for creation and imagination.
It is the imperfection that makes everything more touching and real; It is precisely because of imperfection that life becomes more precious and worth cherishing.