There is an old saying in China that "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" refers to the hatred between enemies. Similarly, there is an old saying, someone respects me one foot and I respect others one foot. This reflects the general mentality of people in interpersonal communication: that is, the mentality of balance between gains and losses. Treat others as yourself, treat others as yourself. We all have this experience. When others show a liking and accepting attitude towards themselves, they will show the same liking and accepting attitude towards them. On the other hand, if others are indifferent to themselves, they will inevitably avoid it. Therefore, when getting along with others, if you want to win the friendship of others, you must first accept and recognize others sincerely, enthusiastically and unconditionally, so that you can get the reward from others.
Second, take care of others.
Many times, the contradictions and grievances between people are neck and neck and cannot be solved. To a large extent, it is because the two sides hold their own opinions, do not give in to each other, and are even more unwilling to stand in each other's position and put themselves in each other's shoes. Therefore, when dealing with different types of people, don't be self-centered to guess others and treat others. When other people's thoughts, behaviors and languages are different and contradictory from their own, learn to stand in the other person's position to understand and understand him, so that you will find that the other person may have better reasons to do what you think is inappropriate. You can also put yourself in the other person's shoes and imagine that the other person may feel similar to you. When you are angry, he may be more angry than you. When you think he is puzzling or unreasonable, he may think you are completely crazy.
Third, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
Many of us have this common problem, and we hope others can be warm and friendly to us. When we are in trouble, others can lend a helping hand in time. We hope others will not publicize their privacy at will. However, when many people ask others in this way, they consciously or unconsciously put the fact that others are unwilling or hate what others do into their words and deeds. In this way, it will inevitably hurt others' self-esteem and feelings, thus losing their trust and friendship. A psychologist once said that we can often read our own expressions from other people's faces. Because people's words and deeds will be influenced by unconscious attitudes, ideas will be conveyed to each other through subtle channels, thus becoming unverifiable facts. If these thoughts are negative and intentional, they will inevitably have bad consequences. Therefore, when interacting with people, we should filter out negative and unfriendly attitudes and ways, and try our best to treat others with the attitudes and ways that others expect and like, so as to be welcomed by more people.