Many parents know that as a girl, you must know manners and manners. Therefore, parents should attach great importance to the cultivation of politeness in the education of girls.

However, parents need to understand that forcing girls to perform some polite behaviors is totally useless for children's politeness cultivation. Educating children to be polite is to let them learn to empathize, understand others and be grateful. Only in this way can the seeds of politeness bloom in children's hearts.

The following is a mother's educational experience on politeness:

After overhearing her daughter say "idiot", I was surprised and wondered if some of my usual speech habits were impolite. In later life, I reached an agreement with my child's father, and tried to use some civilized terms to express the description, such as "please", "thank you" and "sorry".

after a while, I obviously felt that my daughter's tone of voice had changed. It used to be that when she wanted to eat, she would say "I'm hungry, why haven't I cooked the meal yet", but now it has become "Mom, is the meal ready?"

What makes me happier is that my daughter always says "thank you" every time I help her with something.

Since then, my daughter has become more and more polite. I don't have to worry about this problem anymore.

A philosopher once said, "The beautiful details in life cannot be instilled with a sledgehammer." That is to say, like the mother and daughter in the case, we don't have to make a fuss when we learn that girls are lacking in "politeness", and we can't expect girls to get rid of all their faults in one day and learn all the polite manners. To put it bluntly, this is a simple and long process. We must pay attention to the girl's tempering in daily life, let her learn to master polite language slowly, and gradually make the girl's polite language daily from the beginning of deliberate correction.

teaching girls how to learn

Method 1: Communicate with more civilized language

Many girls' parents will educate girls to use more civilized language when interacting with others, and pay attention to talking with others politely. But at home, parents rarely use similar polite expressions, and they don't care whether their daughters use "please", "thank you" and "sorry".

this way of education is not good. The cultivation of girls' inner self-cultivation is a habit, not just "acting" in front of outsiders. When parents educate their children to form the good habit of being polite, they should make their children be polite at home and outside, not at home and outside.

As parents of children, it is even more important to remember to use polite language at home. The growth of girls is inseparable from their parents and family environment. If parents can use more civilized language to communicate at home, girls will follow suit and often talk about civilized language.

Method 2: Let politeness "take root" in girls' hearts

In fact, children's growth is similar to that of flowers and grass, and parents can only guide their development but not force them to change. When parents force their children to perform polite behaviors, it is no different from encouraging them to do so. It seems that children are polite, but they are not. Understand that politeness is more than just saying "thank you".

Therefore, if girls want to be polite, they should understand the meaning of politeness and feel the beauty of politeness, so that politeness can stay in their hearts.

This kind of politeness education method is more difficult and takes longer than directly forcing children to be polite, but it can really help children learn to be polite. Girls educated in this way can be more considerate of others, be more grateful and understand the meaning of politeness.

Teaching stories to girls

In the park, a company is doing publicity, and many children are attracted by the balloons they gave away for free. A 6-year-old girl timidly said to her mother, "Mom, I want that, too." Mother went to get a balloon back for the little girl. The little girl took the balloon and played happily with the children.

Not long after, the balloon exploded, and the little girl returned to her mother in frustration and said angrily, "Mom, I still want to play with balloons." The mother said to the child, "Go and ask your aunt for one yourself." The little girl ran quickly to find a balloon and walked happily to her mother.

While wiping the sweat for the child, the mother asked, "Did you say thank you to your aunt?"

The child turned and shouted at the propaganda direction, "Thank you, Aunt."

Mom said, "You can't hear me from so far away."

The child had to walk back to the balloon sending place with the balloon in his hand and say thank you to his aunt.

playing, the balloon burst again. This time, the little girl ran directly to the place where the balloon was sent, and she was about to get another balloon. Holding a balloon, she proudly walked up to her mother and said, "Mom, I said thank you to my aunt."

Mom smiled with relief and said, "Good boy, if you encounter similar things in the future, you must also remember to say thank you to others, ok?"

The girl replied loudly, "OK!"

In daily life, we always say "Be a gentleman, keep your word", but it's the same for girls. "Doing what you say" is the performance of a girl's integrity. A girl with integrity can keep her promise to others and to herself.

orange orange has just turned 9, but has attached great importance to honesty. When she was very young, her mother often told her stories about celebrities' honesty, which had a far-reaching impact on Orange.

It's Sunday again, and Mom invites Orange Orange to say, "How about Mom taking you to Ocean Park today?"

orange orange replied, "I'm sorry, mom, I can't go to Ocean Park today. I promised Linlin to visit her home today."

Mom said deliberately, "Didn't you beg me to take you to Ocean Park a long time ago? Today's opportunity is rare. "

Orange Orange replied, "Although I really want to go, I can't break my promise to Linlin."

mom thought for a moment and continued, "Well, you can call Linlin and tell her that she can't go to her house to play today. The opportunity to go to Ocean Park is rare. If you miss today, it may take a long time before your mother has time to take you. "

orange orange said firmly, "Mom, I really can't go to Ocean Park today. You often tell me the importance of honesty, and I can't change my promise to others at will. "

Mom was very pleased: "Well, good boy, you're right. Mom will take you to Ocean Park next week!" "

Ocean Park is very attractive to children. However, Orange Orange has never forgotten his promise and never gave up going to a friend's house because of Ocean Park. This is the performance of honesty. Of course, the reason why Orange has performed so well is inseparable from her mother's constant teaching of honesty.

Therefore, in the usual education, girls must be instilled with the concept of honesty, telling them to "keep your word and do what you say", and do what you say. If girls want to survive better in the cruel social competition, they must be honest.

Teaching girls what to learn

1. Teaching girls to be honest and do it by themselves

Girls are in the stage of growth, and the formation of their views on right and wrong and values is closely related to their parents and family environment. In daily life, parents must pay attention to whether they have complied with honesty in everything, and they must do what they promised their children or people around them, so that girls can see their emphasis on honesty. If you make some promises to girls, you must honor them and don't perfunctory them. If you can't keep your promise for some special reasons, you should explain the reason to the girl in time and try your best to make some compensation. In the long run, the weight of honesty in girls' hearts will become heavier and heavier.

Second, let honesty take root in girls' hearts

When girls were very young, the concept of honesty was very vague. At this time, parents need to guide them to establish the concept of honesty and let honesty take root in their hearts.

In our spare time, we can talk with girls about honesty and let them have a deeper understanding of honesty. We can tell them stories about celebrities' abiding by honesty and guide them to learn from these celebrities. We can also tell them some negative teaching materials to make them understand the harm of not keeping good faith.

Third, let girls learn to be honest in small things

The awareness of honesty can't be established in a moment, and it needs to be accumulated slowly in the process of growing up. Therefore, in daily life, we should pay attention to cultivating girls' sense of integrity. For example, when girls promise when to go home, what to do for their parents today, when to go to bed, and what agreements they have reached with people around them, they should be urged to keep their promises and not let them go.

When a girl actively fulfills her promise in her daily life, she will gradually establish a sense of honesty and win the trust and praise of people around her.

Fourth, praise the girl's honest behavior

Most girls will be very happy after winning the praise from their parents. Therefore, parents should affirm and praise the girl's honest behavior in time, and let the girl realize that it is very meaningful and important to keep honesty. Whether it is a positive word or a nod with a smile, girls will be greatly encouraged, so that they will pay more attention to integrity and practice their promises more actively in the future.

teaching girls stories

in 18th century England, there was a very rich gentleman. One cold night, when he was walking in the street, a little boy dressed in rags stopped him. The little boy asked, "Sir, do you need matches?" The gentleman replied politely, "thank you, I don't need it." The little boy continued to plead, "Sir, please buy a box. I haven't sold a box today." Seeing that he couldn't get away with it, the gentleman said, "All right." Then he pulled out a piece of money and gave it to the little boy. The boy took the money and said happily, "please wait a moment, sir. I'll change it for you." With that, the boy ran away quickly. The gentleman waited for a long time, but there was still no sound of the little boy. He smiled helplessly and left.

In 18th century England, there was a very rich gentleman. One cold night, when he was walking in the street, a little boy dressed in rags stopped him. The little boy asked, "Sir, do you need matches?" The gentleman replied politely, "thank you, I don't need it." The little boy continued to plead, "Sir, please buy a box. I haven't sold a box today." Seeing that he couldn't get away with it, the gentleman said, "All right." Then he pulled out a piece of money and gave it to the little boy. The boy took the money and said happily, "please wait a moment, sir. I'll change it for you." With that, the boy ran away quickly. The gentleman waited for a long time, but there was still no sound of the little boy. He smiled helplessly and left. Women are taking care of him. The little boy saw the gentleman and said, "Sir, I'm sorry to have kept you waiting yesterday." The gentleman was deeply moved by the boy's honesty. He learned that their parents died when they were very young, and now only their stepmother is left to take care of them. He resolutely decided to take on the responsibility of raising the two boys.