? Therefore, when the relationship becomes more intimate, if we don't understand our own internal motives, it is difficult to realize that what we are dissatisfied with the people closest to us is just the contradictory attitude of two different parts of personality projected into the relationship.
And all the dissatisfaction, if we observe it more carefully and frankly, we will find that our feelings for this part are quite complicated, "envy, jealousy and hate." Some of them will say, "Why can't you turn a blind eye when the house is in a mess? I will look unhappy and force myself to clean up?" I also want to be lazy, but I can't feel at ease like you. I also have my own needs, but I can't express them as recklessly as you do; I also want to be casual, but I have a lot of worries and a sense of loss of control, so I can't be so free and easy as you. "
? Therefore, we judge the part of others because we have a desire in our hearts, because the other person has lived the part that we have been longing for but dare not live. All intimate relationships are good mirrors, no matter whether the other person is a partner, a child, an important partner or a close friend ... when we see each other, we can accurately reflect that these contradictory and mutually pulling belief systems are at the bottom of our personality.
? The truth that we judge others is actually only our own judgment. The only difference is whether you realize it or not.