Xiaowen and Xiaoya were best friends in college. Xiaowen was lively, cheerful, enthusiastic and proactive, while Xiaoya was strong-willed and insightful. They talked about everything and were the lifeblood of the dormitory. There were many embarrassing things that I thought were extremely embarrassing at the time, and I vowed to be friends for the rest of my life. After graduation, they naturally went their separate ways. Xiaoya worked as a reporter and editor, and Xiaowen was admitted to a workplace. Although they couldn't see each other often, the two always maintained some contact, and it felt like the friendship between gentlemen was as light as water.
One day Xiaowen received a call from Xiaoya, "Mosquito, I want to do something! I want to resign and go to Beijing to be a screenwriter. Do you think I can do it?" Xiaoya's voice was filled with emotion. Uneasy, "What? Why did you come up with this idea all of a sudden? I know you like drama, but do you think of it as a career? Don't let your brain get hot and burn your intelligence." Xiaowen was surprised, but still used to it started teasing.
?"I'm not impulsive. I've been thinking about it for a while. Do you still remember the sentence we all liked in college? If life is all about mediocrity, there is still poetry and distance! Don't look at me I was doing interviews here and there every day. I was very tormented. I was alone 24 hours a day. I went to work and worked overtime for more than 12 hours every day. In addition to taking 10 hours to rest and eat, where would I be after solving the most basic survival problems? I used to feel that work was work, life was life, hobbies were hobbies, and they were completely separate. Now that I have graduated four years ago, I just feel that everything is stewed together like vegetable soup. Pot, but I don’t like mixed vegetable soup!" Xiaoya opened up her chat box in front of her trusted best friend and poured out all the words in her heart. "I understand you! But what you need is not my affirmation. What you need is to think about how to live a good life in Beidiao in the future! I want to give you a word, if life is all about mediocrity, poetry and distance are useless, it is better to be brave Take the first step!" Xiaowen encouraged his best friend with emotion.
Xiaoya finally resigned and went north, single-handedly entered the heart of the country, and began her days of drifting to the north. Xiaowen often paid attention to Xiaoya’s movements on WeChat. Simply speaking, it can be divided into the retreat period and During the period of isolation, I usually work on writing scripts. During the period of isolation, I am like a wild horse running around. When the economy is good, I will travel to Hainan, Italy, and Russia. When the economy is not good, I will visit museums in Beijing. In Xiaoya's words, this is called spiritual opium, and it is also a search for inspiration, but no matter what it is, what Xiaowen reads from Xiaoya's face is happiness and satisfaction, and he is both happy and envious in his heart. Like Xiaoya, he can bravely step forward. How many people can take the first step? Xiaowen couldn't help but think about himself, what should I do if life is all about mediocrity? Everyone has their own account. When making a choice, take it out and see which option is more cost-effective? Xiaowen and Xiaoya's situations and situations are different, so we can't just use Xiaoya as a successful template to imitate at will. What's more, Xiaowen is not so clear about what he wants, so he found me.
No one is anyone’s savior.
Xiaowen went to Brother Dao to talk about his troubles because of trust, but no one can be anyone’s savior. Xiaoya had already made a decision when she called Xiaowen, but she just wanted her best friend. It's just some encouragement. No matter whether Xiaowen supports it or not, it can't influence the final decision. Here comes the problem! What answer does Xiaowen want to hear from me?
When you are obsessed with success or something, that obsession will make you keep trying and working hard. Isn’t it also an attempt for Xiaowen to come to me today? I hope to hear useful information. The constant accumulation of trying moments will make you transform at a certain point. That transformation is not as simple as changing an idea, but a rebirth! In the words of the chic sister Wang Xiao, "Become a completely different person. I finally recognized the light and mission of this world." Peacock Queen Yang Liping recognized her mission as dance as art and gave up everything that many people would not give up. This is not simply measured by whether it is cost-effective.
How far can your ability support you?
Some events may seem accidental, but in fact, countless inevitable events have laid the foundation. Xiaoya seems to have suddenly decided to become a screenwriter, but who knows how many dramas she has watched and how many drama reviews she has written. After interviewing many directors, I fell in love with drama step by step, and accumulated the basic qualities to become a drama screenwriter. Only when I went to Beijing could I successfully take over the script. So what are your abilities? How far can it support you to go? If you don’t know yet and don’t have a special opportunity, then go read it! Find similar people from books and see how various people live. The best way to improve yourself is to read. The fastest way to find yourself is also to read. It is not a superficial reading, but experiential reflection, reference, extension, absorbing and becoming your own wisdom, and practicing to refine your abilities.
How awesome would it be to live with confidence?
If you want to live with a choice, you must first let yourself be chosen. If you want to live with confidence, you must first become awesome. The question is how to become awesome? Brother Dao first asked two questions. The first question: What is your survival weapon? Don't tell me about graduation certificates, degree certificates, accounting certificates, etc. I will vomit blood and show them to you! Survival weapons are skills that allow you to survive. From Xiaoya's perspective, her weapon is her writing skills, then she can choose to be a screenwriter or writer. Some people's skills are excellent cooking skills, then they can choose to open a restaurant or work as a chef in a good hotel. Some people's skills are sports experts, then they can choose to be professional athletes or coaches. In a word, if you resign today, you can quickly find a job that is no worse than the original one. Look! Although the range of these choices is small, at least it makes you needed and reflects your existence value, but this is not awesome! Second question: How to upgrade your weapons? Survival is just the minimum requirement to stay alive. Although Brother Dao doesn't like playing games, the principle is the same. If you want to break through levels and hunt for treasures, you have to practice more skills so that you can get the treasures without dying.
If you have the answer to the first question, congratulations, you can directly enter the stage of the second question. If not, then the road to immortality is still long. No matter which one you are, the solutions provided by Brother Dao can be used:
1. Set long-term goals and make breakthroughs in stages. Write down an electronic version of your vision for five or ten years, and break it down into what needs to be done at each stage. Try to be as detailed as possible. The electronic version can be modified frequently based on the actual situation, but the big progress cannot be shaken.
2. Invest time and energy in the most valuable things. The value of life has different interpretations for everyone. There is no need to compare. If you insist on thinking that you can only be successful if you live like Jack Ma or Bill Gates, you are mentally masochistic. Brother Dao, a member of the ethnic group who likes masochism and fantasy, will not stop you. First of all, we must sort the most important things in life. If family is the most important to you, spend more time and energy on accompanying your relatives and educating your children. This is also a very important social value. By analogy, other For most of my life, I have only been pushed by time and public opinion, and I don’t even know what I am working for.
3. Frequently set challenges to pass levels. Ability is always developed through practice. Weapons will get rusty if they are not used frequently. There may not necessarily be so many challenges in life, so set your own levels, such as reading 33 books in 100 days or running a marathon. Writing an article of 30,000 words in a month is a self-challenge, which can hone your ability and perseverance. Don't regard stasis as the norm in life.
If you can only live life casually, how can you still have the feelings to toss about poetry and distant places? No matter how beautiful the dream is, Brother Dao likes to cut off those lazy and lazy people with a sharp knife. Cowardly, always stay awake and alive.