Cao Cao, this person is always a big white face in Beijing opera, a person with characteristics and stories. A treacherous man in troubled times, who killed people without blinking an eye, was all-powerful, and he won the most notoriety after his death. However, this is the opinion of the people, which is not fair enough. Lao Cao's merits and demerits are still real, a traitor or a hero? Opinions vary. Today, we only talk about his family life and the cultivation of his children, which you can't imagine. He is not only a "warm man" good father, but also a master tutor, who attaches importance to enlightenment and is good at daily guidance.
Cao Cao, who is majestic, is like a big tiger, but not like this in family life. In 218 AD, Cao Cao sent Cao Zhang to crusade against the rebellion in Wuhuan, a county on behalf of the county. Before leaving, he said to Cao Zhang, "Being at home is a father and son, taking care of the monarch and his subjects, and doing things according to the law of the king. Erqi quit! " This is a serious message to Cao Zhang that Wang Fa is selfless, and anyone who makes a mistake should be borne by himself. You can't expect to be forgiven by the love of father and son.
Cao Zhang did a great job, working hard everywhere, bowing down physically and successfully completing the task of pacifying the north. When he came home to see his father Cao Cao, he attributed all his achievements to his subordinates. Cao Cao was very happy when he heard this. He reached out his hand kindly, pinched Cao Zhang's yellow beard and said, "The yellow beard is amazing!" Cao Cao's father-son affection can be seen slightly.
Cao Cao is a veritable "warm man" at home because he "holds the emperor to make princes". He has a deep affection for his children and a close and harmonious relationship, and his education for them runs through his daily life like a spring breeze. For example, the well-known "Cao Chong's elephant" is that Cao Cao received an elephant from Sun Quan and wanted to know its weight. When asking his subordinates for the way to weigh the elephant,
Cao Chong, a child of five or six years old at that time, put forward the way to weigh the elephant with a big boat without hesitation. Cao Cao gladly complied on the spot. The whole scene is happy, which once again shows the concrete performance of "warm man" Cao Cao at home. That face should not be dead white! At best, it should be a white cloud or colorful cloud.
how are Cao Cao's children growing up? Cao Pi and Cao Zhi are both famous poets. Cao Zhang is resolute and fierce, and he is a famous soldier; Although Cao Chong died at the age of 13, he was a rare child prodigy in history. Cao's son and brother are so outstanding, mainly due to Cao Cao's good family education.
Cao Pi tells in "On Canon and Self-narration" that when I was 5 years old, my father saw the world was disturbed and taught me to shoot. At the age of 6, I could open my bow. Teach me to ride again, and I can ride and shoot at the age of eight. Later, Cao Cao ordered him to explore the west with the army since he was a teenager, to practice a superb martial arts, and to be good at playing the piano and poetry. Cao Zhi, at the early age of 1, read through the Book of Songs, The Analects of Confucius and hundreds of thousands of words of ci and fu, and wrote them down in writing. This shows that Cao Cao's education of children is very tight from the childhood enlightenment education, which has laid a solid foundation for children in their childhood.
besides paying attention to guidance, Cao Cao also paid special attention to choosing good teachers for children and asked them to respect their teachers. When he chose teachers for his sons, he ordered to choose people who were "virtuous". For example, Li Yuan and Zhang Fan, known as "the treasures of the country" and "the essence of scholars", were all teachers of Cao Pi. When Cao Cao once went out to war, he asked Cao Pi to stay behind and sent Zhang Fan and Li Yuan to assist him. He strictly ordered Cao Pi to respect the opinions of Zhang and Li, and "pay tribute to Zhang and Li". Cao Cao not only supervised children diligently in their studies, but also introduced a competitive mechanism in their ways to encourage children to study hard and become useful people.
In order to motivate children to study angrily, Cao Cao once issued the Order of Children: "Although children see love when they are young, but when they grow up, they can be good, so they must use it. I must have two words. Not only is he not private, but his son doesn't want to be private. " In the present words, when my sons were young, I liked them all, but when I grow up, I will use them according to my ability and keep my word.
This is obviously for children. I will not be partial to you in the future. As long as I study hard and master knowledge and skills, I will be fair and meritocratic. Unfortunately, in the future, the relationship between Cao Pi and Cao Zhi was not well established, and the issue of succession was so deadly. This was because the temptation of power was so great that people lost their minds, and the relationship with Cao Cao should not be excessively linked.
In a word, Cao Cao's methods of educating his children are very clever, and the training methods and objectives are very clear. Becoming a useful talent is ultimately a versatile talent for governing the country and leveling the world. In Cao Cao's mind, he has a famous saying: "Children should be like Sun Zhongmou; Such as Liu Jingsheng's son, dolphin and dog ears! "
In addition, there are ardent expectations and cordial care. "The mountains are never too high, the water is never too deep, and the Duke of Zhou vomits and feeds, and the world returns to its heart." "Qingqing Zitiao, leisurely in my heart, but for your sake, I have been thoughtfully." As an adult, it's actually a little late for me to understand this, just for the next generation! Cao Cao's cleverness is to grasp the enlightenment of children and let the truth be implemented in the enlightenment.