What are the importance and principles of communication between teachers and students?
1. The necessity of communication between teachers and students
1. 1 Communication can eliminate the image of teachers in the eyes of students and narrow the sense of distance between students and teachers.
Although today's students no longer hold the creed of "one day as a teacher, one life as a father" and look up to the teacher like a big dipper, no matter how naughty the students are, they will always have some awe in their hearts. This awe is a double-edged sword, which is not only beneficial to teachers' classroom management, but also widens the distance between teachers and students and affects the emotional communication between teachers and students. As a teacher, we should take the initiative to narrow this distance.
1.2 communication can promote students to accept the teacher himself and accept the lessons taught by the teacher more easily.
If Party A wants to send something to Party B, then Party B must be willing to accept it. If Party A gives something to Party B, it must be returned in turn. What's the use? Teaching is like this. Teachers want students to learn more, but only if they are willing to learn. Strengthening the communication between teachers and students is the best way.
Perfect link design, exquisite teaching language, appropriate media use, moderate encouragement and praise, when you think you have done a class beautifully, you find someone dozing off. Why? Not every student is so rational, he will use his rational brain to appreciate your elaborate design and wonderful lectures. Some students are very emotional, and he will listen carefully because he likes a teacher, even if it sounds hard. You will also reject a teacher because you don't like his class, even if he speaks well.
Strengthen communication with students, show more humanistic care, not just impart knowledge, and let him feel: Oh, the teacher has noticed me, and the teacher cares about me. Everyone expects others' affirmation and concern, and once they get it, it will become motivation. In view of your attention and concern, and the students' psychology of "competing for favor and work" in front of the teacher, next, he will perform seriously in your class and live up to your trust and expectations.
1.3 The starting point and final destination of education is people, who are the existence of culture and are shaped by culture.
As educators, we should always bear in mind that the purpose of our work is not only to impart knowledge of a certain profession, but also to complete the task of entering a higher school. The purpose of education is to promote the socialization, individualization and civilization of the educated through the inheritance, dissemination and creation of culture. Culture is a very broad concept. Generally speaking, culture is a social phenomenon and the product of people's long-term creation. At the same time, it is a historical phenomenon and the precipitation of social history.
To be exact, culture refers to the history, geography, customs, traditional customs, lifestyle, literature and art, code of conduct, way of thinking and values of a country or a nation. The universality of culture determines that our educational purpose can not be achieved only by teaching professional knowledge in class. It requires teachers to influence students imperceptibly with correct historical view, values, profound literary accomplishment, healthy lifestyle and rational way of thinking in communication and interaction with students.
2. The principle of communication between teachers and students
In order to achieve the goal of education, the communication between teachers and students is inevitable, but it is not arbitrary. I think it is necessary to follow the following principles:
2. 1 Communication should consider your teacher status.
Don't try to get along with students, close the psychological and emotional distance, regardless of your identity, you can't manage the classroom well. Narrowing the distance is by no means without distance. We should maintain the dignity of being a teacher under the condition of equality of personality, and retain the respect that students should have for teachers. My majesty here is not the so-called majesty created by putting on airs and keeping a straight face, but the natural majesty emitted by a powerful heart with a kind face, which makes students feel free and casual in front of you.
2.2 The role of communication should be liberation and stimulation, not imprisonment and control.
In the communication with students, teachers should try to observe and understand students from multiple angles, instead of evaluating students from a single dimension. For example, those who get good grades are good students, and those who get poor grades are poor students, or they like to listen carefully in class and hate not to listen carefully. This only shows that the teacher is too controlling. People who accept his control like it, and people who don't accept his control don't like it. Philosopher Leibniz said: "Everything is different, and there are no two things exactly the same between heaven and earth."
Suhomlinski also said: "Every child is a completely special and unique world." Students should be different in teachers' minds, but there should be no distinction between good and bad. Try to think about it from another angle. The original shortcoming may be the advantage. For example, some students are glib, talkative and good at talking. They not only talk to their classmates, but even steal the teacher's attention. Well, hold a debate contest to let him give full play to his specialty. Thank you for giving him such an opportunity when he gets a great sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. Tell him: "Your eloquence is really good, but you shouldn't use it in class!" " A man's heart is full of meat, and he will understand your good intentions.
2.3 communication can not always be a cliche.
When some teachers see that students don't study hard, they will say, "Your parents use their hard-earned money to pay tuition and living expenses for you to go to school. You are not good at studying. Can you live up to them? " "Said very touched, but the problem is that students listen to many, already numb, even because of the pressure caused by these words and disgust. In fact, students are not unreasonable, but some students have not developed good study habits since childhood and are addicted to playing and can't control themselves. There is absolutely no need for the teacher to talk about some great principles over and over again, which has not played a good role, but has aroused the students' rebellious psychology. When you meet a student with poor study habits and poor self-control, you just need to urge him with actions. However, it takes ten years to grow trees and a hundred years to cultivate people. Education is a slow art, and the formation of good habits cannot be achieved overnight. You must be patient.
2.4 Communication should not become a mere formality.
There are many ways of communication between teachers and students. First of all, the communication between teachers and students is not necessarily a special conversation after class, but also includes questions and interactions in class; Then, the communication between teachers and students is not necessarily a linguistic dialogue. Every move and look of a teacher is communication with students, which will have an impact on students. Therefore, teachers don't have to stick to the form when communicating with students, but let students understand your concern and concern in various ways, so as to achieve the purpose of education. Of course, this requires educational wisdom and teachers' continuous learning and improvement.
2.5 communication must be sincere.
The communication between teachers and students must be based on heartfelt respect and concern, which is truly reflected in the consideration of students. Sincerity is the basis of effective communication. Sincere communication can promote understanding and cooperation between teachers and students.
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Skills and methods of communication between teachers and students
Suhomlinski said: "If students don't want to tell their teachers about their joys and sorrows, and don't want to be honest with each other, then it is ridiculous to talk about any education, and any education is impossible." Therefore, communication is an art and an effective way of education. As a teacher, how to guide the communication between teachers and students, and in what way? Let me talk about my humble opinion.
First, love is the foundation.
Gorky said: "whoever loves children, children love him;" Only those who love children can educate them well. "I appreciate this famous saying. In education, I not only care about students' study, but also care about their lives and be their bosom friends. Without love, there is no education. Teachers' love can drive teachers to overcome all kinds of difficulties in teaching with the greatest patience and tenacity, and tap their own potential. Teachers' love is also a great driving force for students' development. With this love, feelings can be established between teachers and students, which can stimulate students' affinity and admiration for teachers, thus transferring this emotion to the knowledge imparted by teachers.
Second, the art of oral communication between teachers and students
Language is a tool for human communication. The art of communication between teachers and students is actually the art of language communication between teachers and students. In order to adapt to the differences between teachers and students, teachers should pay attention to language skills as well as language content.
(1) Humor
Humor is an essential "lubricant" in interpersonal relationships. People like humorous dialogues and humorous words. As soon as a humorous teacher enters students, they will feel happy and communicate smoothly.
(2) Euphemism
In the communication between teachers and students, although the teacher's words are completely correct, students are hard to accept because of their emotions. At this time, the effect of being outspoken is generally not good. If you grind away some "edges and corners" in your speech so that the other person can feel that he is respected when listening, maybe he can accept the teacher's advice both intellectually and emotionally.
(3) Hint
For example, a teacher introduced a student who had just reported for class to skip class because of a mistake, and said, "Because everyone knows the reason, a classmate finally returned to his class today ..." This kind of statement will neither hurt the face of the classmates nor be misunderstood by the whole class as shielding, and irony, ambiguity, silence and other verbal arts can also be used.
Third, actively listen.
Absence of mind and half-heartedness in class are often the important reasons for the failure of communication between teachers and students. Good communication requires patience to listen to the other person and understand his feelings. Teachers' active listening attitude towards students can make students feel valued and affirm their own value. It is necessary to prevent students from rushing to express their reactions when speaking, and then not paying attention to the other party's speech and interrupting the students' speech. But in the process of teaching practice, such examples often appear: Student: Mathematics is too difficult for me. Teacher: Mathematics is not difficult to learn. Your problem is that you gave up your efforts the first time you encountered difficulties. Now try again. This is because teachers and students don't want to listen first in communication, and they are eager to boil down the problems that students need to solve to the answers that they need to provide to students immediately, which leads to the failure of teacher-student communication.
Fourthly, the application of teachers' body language.
Every one of us unconsciously communicates with body language every day. Most of the time, teachers and students are in instant contact, and their body language is unconscious. A young female teacher, with beautiful appearance and soft voice, will enhance her affinity for students; The tall young and middle-aged male teacher with a flat head easily scares students; Some white-haired old teachers may be more respected by students. Of course, the physical characteristics of teachers are mainly innate. The most fundamental thing for teachers to win the trust and love of students lies in their internal knowledge and cultivation. In the application of body language, the most commonly used is the use of eyes and facial expressions.
The hope of revitalizing the nation lies in education, and the hope of revitalizing education lies in teachers. Teachers are not only the transmitters of knowledge, but also the guides of morality, the enlighteners of thoughts, the pioneers of spiritual world, and the shapers of emotions, wills and beliefs. Teachers should not only know what to teach, but also know how to teach and adopt different teaching strategies for different students. It is necessary for every teacher to correctly handle the relationship between teachers and students and have a skillful and artistic way of communication between teachers and students.
Accept every child with love.
Children come from different families, and their innate inheritance and acquired environment are different, so their performance in school will naturally be very different. Teachers should deeply understand this and accept every child with heart, no matter he is smart, slow, neat, sloppy, clever or naughty, he is a real individual and needs to be accepted. Only when the teacher accepts it attentively can the children regard class as a kind of enjoyment and be willing to stay and study.
(B) to ease the psychological pressure of students
The most painful thing for students is misunderstanding; The happiest thing is to fully understand; Especially the new generation, who grew up in care, have opinions and dare to express themselves, but their tolerance for setbacks is obviously low; When I encounter difficulties, I feel great pressure on myself and don't know how to deal with myself. Therefore, it is extremely important to cultivate students' positive and cheerful mood, sweep away their inner haze, establish self-confidence and improve their ability to solve problems. When students try to deal with the aftermath, it is best to pay attention silently and wait until they really need help, and then lend a helping hand immediately.
(3) Sincerely praise and encourage
Most flowers and trees grow in the sun, and so do people. They like to be praised and encouraged. If teachers can sincerely appreciate children's innocence, kindness and loveliness, they will certainly find many praiseworthy behaviors. If you find a child worthy of praise, you should seize the opportunity, regardless of language, body, eyes, movements, expressions and comments. As long as it is sincere, children will be deeply touched. For example, if a teacher sincerely says to him every day, "If you concentrate on class, your grades should get better and better." Moderate expectations will produce inspiring power, which will also.
(4) Listen carefully
It is impossible to understand a child's inner world only by superficial behavior. Be the best listener and listen to students patiently. Give them moderate support when they are emotionally troubled; Students are independent individuals, too much thinking is easy to have the opposite effect for them, and when students finish speaking, don't rush to give opinions.
(E) subtle role
In fact, teachers' daily behaviors are all in the eyes of students. Example is better than words. Teachers' behavior is an example for students to learn, and they often perfunctory students, and students may also develop bad habits of shirking their responsibilities. In a subtle way, students will inherit the shortcomings and advantages of teachers. Don't think that their words and deeds will not affect them, because they are more sensitive and have higher learning ability during this period. Therefore, establishing a clear teacher image is really helpful for students' growth and study.
If the communication between teachers and students is barrier-free, if it is a pleasant thing for teachers and students to study together, if the classroom is full of laughter, if every child is respected in the classroom and has a sense of belonging, then students will start classes like spring breeze, and students will naturally regard school as a kind of fun and the right not to give up, then the classroom will be full of spring and students will be full of spring breeze.