The attachment that is hard to let go, the resentment that is unbearable. The ignorant youth, the long years. The pain of growing and tearing is in the waiting of life. Snowflakes were falling in the dream, and the mood was sad and sad, and it was also in the memory that could not be forgotten.

The following is a complete activity (for reference only)

1. Activity goals:

1. Communicate the troubles in your heart, tell your true feelings, and understand yourself , correctly deal with the troubles that arise in the process of growing up, and adopt a positive attitude towards life.

2. Examine your so-called troubles, re-evaluate yourself, and also solve problems for your friends and classmates.

3. Conduct oral expression training to improve your expression level and overcome stage fright.

2. Activity preparation:

1. Recall the one or two troubles that impressed you most, and make a good draft; or organize the language and write it down to prepare for a speech.

2. Collect touching stories of celebrities at home and abroad, both ancient and modern, who dealt with troubles correctly and overcame setbacks during their growth process. Find some ancient poems or famous quotes from Chinese and foreign celebrities related to worries, and copy them;

3. Find some popular songs that inspire people to live optimistically (the themes of the songs should be full of sunshine and hope)

Let’s talk about Youyou’s troubles

1. Create an atmosphere. Opening remarks:

Host A: The days slip away in a hurry, and the New Year The years are growing up in a hurry, and youth is coming towards us in a hurry...

Host B: So, the flower season is coming, the rainy season is coming, and the troubles in our hearts also come with it.

Host A: This trouble may come from life, maybe from study, maybe from interactions with classmates, maybe from getting along with parents...

Host A: With troubles, Melancholy and sentimentality will envelope our hearts, and life will lose its luster. But don't be afraid when troubles come. Talk to your teacher, friends, and parents, and your troubles will be resolved as soon as possible.

Host B: So from now on, tell your friends frankly about the troubles you encounter. Let us work together to clean up the troubles, eliminate them, and move towards a beautiful life with colorful dreams. future.

Moderator A: Let’s put aside all the worries in your mind and talk freely about your troubles!

2. Talk freely about worries:

Students can talk about their worries from the following aspects:

① Academic worries

②Trouble in communication

③Trouble in communicating with parents

④Trouble in life

⑤Trouble with self-image.

3. The atmosphere of the sketch performance:

①The sketch "The Troubles of a Poor Student"

The first scene: (The atmosphere in the classroom is tense, the teacher is handing out papers )

Teacher: Zhang Likai 20 points

Poor student: (talking to himself) Alas! This time I took another miscellaneous test. I scored 21 points last time. My parents are getting angry again. What should I do?

Second scene: (At home, mother is cooking)

Poor student: Mom (lowering head)

Mom: What’s the matter? (Doubtful)

Poor student: I...I...I handed out the test paper and got 20 points (hesitating)

Mom: What did you do? I get up early every day and wait until late every day to serve you. Wait for you to dress, you still have the nerve to come back and see me if you score 20 points in the exam! (sharp)

Dad: What are you yelling about? What are you yelling about? (Impatient)

Mom: Look at your precious son, he only scored 20 points (complaining)

Dad: It’s all because you don’t discipline him properly. It doesn't work in the first place. What do you want? (Angry)

Mom: What qualifications do you have to criticize me? You are outside all day long and are indifferent to your child's study. (Angry)

Dad: If I hadn’t been busy outside all day, you would have gone to drink the northwest wind! (Aggressively)

Mom: "We can't survive this life, let's get a divorce! (Crying)

Dad: Just leave, noisy all day long there is nothing too much.

Poor student: What should I do? My parents are making such a fuss over me, who can help me? (Sad and helpless)

②Short piece "Borrowing Workbooks"

Li: Hey, bring me your homework.

Cao: How can you copy it if you don’t do it yourself? What?

Li: Hey, please, please, don’t say it so harshly. I’m just trying to learn from it.

Cao: Wait a moment and I’ll think about it again. Li: If you want to save someone's life and build a seven-level pagoda, show me! Otherwise, I will have to go to the teacher's office to "drink tea" again tomorrow.

Cao: (talking to himself) What should we do? If you copy it to him, it will hurt him, but if you don't show it to him, your classmates will be unfriendly, alas! What to do? Nervous?

Zhang (said to Li) You look at her and she doesn’t want to give her to you, so stop waiting here. How could you make such a friend? (Zhang took Li and left angrily, leaving Cao who didn’t know what to do...)

③ Sketch "Call on the phone"

Scene: Xiaohui’s house, mother is knitting in the living room Sweater, the phone rang and mom answered the phone.

Xiaohui’s mother: Xiaohui, your phone number.

Xiaohui: Hello! We will go hiking tomorrow, the four of us will go together. Okay, I'll get ready, bye. (Put down the phone and go into your room)

Xiaohui’s mother: Xiaohui, who asked you to go hiking?

Xiaohui: My classmate.

Xiaohui’s mother: Xiaohui, you are a girl. Don’t associate with boys casually. Do your homework at home on Sunday.

Xiaohui: Mom, what age are you still so feudal? Boys are smart, generous, and knowledgeable. Many classmates in our class have boyfriends, so don’t make a fuss.

Xiaohui’s mother: (Angrily) At this stage, you should focus on studying, and think about having fun and making a boyfriend all day long. You don’t need to go out tomorrow.

Xiaohui: Mom, why are you like this? I have already made an appointment with someone. (Aggrievedly)

Xiao Hui’s mother: If you’re not allowed to go, you’re not allowed to go.

Listening to her mother's tough words and looking at her angry face, Xiaohui rushed into her room crying and closed the door with a "slam".

④ Sketch "Family Troubles"

Main characters: Michelle, Wei Qi, dad, aunt

Scene 1: (Home)

Weiqi: Sister, I’m back! (Sister Michelle was playing on the computer, and Wei Qi quickly joined in and started playing together.)

Wei Qi: (asked softly) Hello, is our dad at home?

Michelle: Don’t worry and play. Dad is not at home. If he is at home, can he still let us play like this?

(Weiqi stuck out her tongue happily. At this moment, she heard the sound of her father coming upstairs)

Michelle: Oops! This is terrible. Shut down now.

Dad: (angry) Michelle, Wei Qi, why are you playing on the computer again?

Michelle: Oh, Dad, we just played for a while.

Dad: Stop talking nonsense and read to me quickly! (angry)

Weiqi: Why? Why? We have been studying for six days. Why don’t we take it easy on the weekend?

Dad: Okay, you two girls are quarreling with your elders because you still want to play on the computer even though your grades are not good. Look, that guy Xiaowei got the first place in the grade. What about you? (Angry)

Weiqi: Okay dad, we just won’t study today, what can you do to us? Isn't it just a few "political" lessons? What's the big deal!

Dad: You guys...get out of my way! (Full of anger)

Weiqi: Just leave. I already knew that you don’t like us sisters. Isn’t it just because we are girls? You and grandma both like Xiaowei because he is a boy.

Weiqi pulled Michelle up and rushed out of the house angrily.

Good strategies for resolving worries

Host A: Everyone has talked about so many troubles today, but you have to solve them all to be happy, right? In fact, our classmates are all very smart. I believe that with our collective efforts, we will come up with more effective ideas to help our classmates solve these problems. Ask your classmates to introduce good methods and ideas for relieving worries.

Example: In fact, most of the troubles in life are self-inflicted. There are no troubles in the first place, or they are not troubles in the first place. After research, American psychotherapy expert Bill Little believes that if a person has the following psychology or practices, it will definitely prompt him to seek trouble and make trouble out of nothing:

① Taking other people's problems onto himself. If you take other people's problems on yourself and blame yourself, and attribute all the blame for someone's dislike of you to yourself, then it won't be long before you become troubled and sick.

②Dream impossible dreams. The most pitiful people are those who are accustomed to having unrealistic hopes. If a person sets his goals to be unattainable, he will be troubled because he cannot achieve them.

③Start at the negative side. Remember how many times you were treated unfairly or how many times someone spoke to you in an unkind way. If you focus on the bad and disadvantaged things, you will use this negative thinking method to create trouble for yourself.

④ Create barriers. Never praise others, and do not use any words of encouragement; secondly, criticize, criticize, complain, and make fuss out of molehills endlessly. This is a great way to create barriers and create trouble.

⑤ Expand the situation like a snowball. By facing a problem when it first arises, it can easily evaporate. On the contrary, if the problem continues to expand like a snowball, the person who finally snowballs will always follow a simple rule: "If you miss the opportunity to solve the problem, just put it off later." This will only make the problem worse. Worse still, it will surely leave you harboring anger and distress for months or even years.

⑥Think of yourself as a martyr. Mothers overload themselves with housework and then say to themselves: "No one really cares about me. To our family, I am just a servant." Fathers can take the same approach: "My bones are tired." "No one takes me seriously, everyone is taking advantage of me." Frequently thinking like this will definitely make you extremely annoyed, and it will also make the people around you feel annoying, making you feel worse.

⑦ "I knew this would happen" syndrome. If you expect bad things to happen, they will most likely come true.

⑧The golden rule of fools. Treat everyone else as worthless. The key to applying this law is to first despise yourself. Once you devalue yourself, you will then feel that others are equally shallow, so you will dismiss them and become alienated from others.

Then, you can try the following methods to downplay and resolve worries:

① Comparative point of view. For example, if a major car accident occurs and many people are killed or injured, it is all unfortunate. Those who are not injured are frightened, those who are slightly injured are in slight pain, those who are seriously injured are in severe pain, and those who die are miserable. Comparing from front to back is unfortunate, but it is also a great blessing; comparing from back to front, it is the greatest blessing among misfortunes. In the NBA world, if everyone insists on comparing themselves with the basketball god Jordan, it is really unrealistic. Many people can only hold him back, so we can only regard him as the highest and be the truest self. Otherwise, it will definitely be extremely troublesome.

②The perspective of time. When you encounter troubles, if you take the initiative to consider them from the perspective of time, your feelings about the troubles may be greatly reduced. Being criticized in public by a superior is very embarrassing and unbearable. Just imagine, who will take this matter seriously three days later, a week later or even a month later? Why not enjoy the benefits of this time in advance?

③Realistic point of view. It means having the courage to admit reality and face it calmly. You don’t have to regret or worry too much about any mistakes or disasters that have already happened, and you don’t have to blame yourself or others endlessly for it. Instead, you should focus your thoughts and energy on trying to make up for it. Make mistakes and minimize losses as much as possible. Otherwise, excessive regrets and endless blaming will not only be of no help, but will also expand the trouble and increase worries.

④The perspective of transposition. As the saying goes: Bystanders are confused by the authorities, and the same is true when it comes to troubles. People who are in troubles are often a little persistent, and even get into trouble. It is difficult to find a clue, and even cannot control themselves. , The persuasion of an outside observer can often provide guidance and dilute worries. If you are in trouble, you might as well be your own bystander.

⑤ In addition, you must be content with what you have. If you have too high demands on yourself and are never satisfied, it will certainly be difficult to feel happy and will add a lot of troubles.

⑥ In addition: self-relaxation method, self-suggestion method, talking method, crying or singing method, music therapy, sports adjustment method, reading method, systematic desensitization method, seeking help from psychological counselors, etc. Methods can also relieve worries.

Celebrities talk about their troubles

Host A: The feeling of trouble is like eating strange-flavored beans, with all the flavors of sour, spicy, bitter and astringent. Come. Like the wind accompanying the rain, like a shadow following each other. How can such a small field be worthy of being carried? We have endless troubles, but great celebrities, like little mortals, will also encounter growing pains. Let us step into the world of celebrities and see how they face these troubles when they are lost and desperate. Now let’s ask a few students to talk about the troubles of celebrities. Let us get some inspiration from their experiences!

①Andersen: Andersen spent his whole life fighting against fate, and he failed to integrate into that society until his death. From this perspective, he was a tragic figure, but from his perspective The spirit of bowing to fate has left a precious wealth to future generations. We must believe in truth, goodness and beauty under any circumstances, and adhere to "true love" under any circumstances. When he finally summed up his life, he said: "When I walk towards God, the bitterness and pain disappear, leaving behind a beautiful scenery..."

②Madame Curie:

③Beethoven: Beethoven is one of Germany’s greatest musicians. He was born in a civilian family in Bonn, Germany. He showed his musical talent very early and began performing on stage at the age of eight. In 1792, he went to Vienna for further study and made rapid progress in art. But his life was rough and he never established a family. He became deaf at the age of twenty-six and became completely deaf in his later years. He could only communicate with people through conversation books. For a musician, eyes and ears are his life. However, faced with deafness and blindness in both ears and his lonely life, Beethoven did not remain silent or retreat. Once, Goethe and the German composer Beethoven stood side by side. As they took a walk, passers-by kept saying hello to them. After many times, Goethe became impatient with the frequent return of courtesy and could not help but complain. Beethoven smiled and comforted him and said: "Sir, you don't need to worry, maybe they are paying tribute to me.

"Beethoven never stopped pursuing music for a moment. In the feudal restoration era when all progressive ideas were banned, he still adhered to the political belief of "freedom and equality" and fought for freedom and ideals through his speeches and works. Scream, wrote the immortal masterpiece "Ninth Symphony", opened up the path of music in the Romantic period, played a decisive role in the development of world music, and composed one myth after another in the history of human music. People are revered as the "Music Saint".

④Helen Keller: Helen Keller was a weak woman who was deaf, blind, and mute. She graduated from Harvard University's DeCliffe College. Her life was full of legend, although she had an unfortunate birth. , but with an indomitable heart, she accepted the challenges of life, faced difficulties with amazing perseverance, and finally realized her own value and created great miracles. She said, "Selflessness is happiness." Therefore, I will regard the light seen by other people's eyes as my sun, the music heard by other people's ears as my music, and the smile on the corners of other people's lips as my happiness. "What an open-minded attitude towards life! Although her fate was more tortuous than others, she did not bow to fate. She overcame difficulties and herself. Helen reproduced her rich, vivid, real and great life with a true and natural side, It warns us to cherish what we have now; to face and overcome all difficulties with optimism and strength. Whenever I encounter troubles, especially in study, I will think of Helen Keller, who is blind, deaf and mute. But she also persisted in studying and obtained a degree. But I am a person with sound limbs and my conditions are hundreds of times better than hers, but I always give up. How small is her spirit in comparison? I have faced difficulties time and time again and overcome them bravely. I also believe that “conquer one difficulty and the subsequent things will become much easier!” ”

⑤ Zhang Haidi: How many people face the journey of life full of hardships with strength and optimism. Two-thirds of Zhang Haidi’s body lost consciousness and did not surrender to the god of fate. “Even if you fall a hundred times, you will still be able to survive.” She has to get up one hundred and one times." She exchanged her own pain for the joy of others, shortened her own life to extend the lives of others, was not intimidated by difficulties, was not discouraged or discouraged when encountering setbacks and failures, and did a good job A person who is useful to society. Sang Lan is physically disabled and has a strong will, and has won the admiration and respect of countless people, as well as Tai Lihua, Zhou Zhou... Every disabled person can have outstanding performance, and one How can a healthy person, who is about to graduate from college or even graduate school, choose to die to escape in the face of setbacks?

⑥ Thackeray: "Life is like a mirror, you look at it?" If you laugh, it will smile back to you; if you cry to it, it will also cry to you. "This is a famous quote by the famous British writer Thackeray. It is reported that the giant businessman Hilton was a poor man before he became rich. His mother only gave him $5,000 to run a hotel. A few years later, Hilton became a business tycoon. When Hilton's mother asked How he overcame his troubles, Hilton replied: "Smile." It turned out that every time he encountered setbacks and unreasonable things, he would immediately go to the bathroom or a corner to take out a mirror and practice smiling.

⑦Bill Gates: Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, after he dropped out of Harvard University, he was ridiculed by others for "thinking he is smart", "he can't succeed", etc., but he withstood the pressure and relied on his own will. With confidence to win, superhuman courage, and keen insight, they ascended to the throne of the world's richest man. Whether it was Beethoven or Gates, they bravely raised their heads in the face of setbacks, challenged fate, and became the ultimate winner. /p>

You tell me what I think after speaking

Host A: When we encounter gray unexpectedly, please don’t panic. This is a difficult problem given to you by fate. Wrong understanding will lead to It makes you fall into a confused situation and lose the way forward.

Moderator B: But if you can understand it correctly and face it with the right mentality, it will become your grindstone. Come on, you will see the blue sky in front of you! Step out of the gray and fog, and you will be surrounded by bright sunshine!

Host A: Through today’s activities, have you experienced any worries? What about new experiences and understandings? Please listen to the classmate’s speech below: "Perception of Troubles"

①Perception of Troubles: It is inevitable or even inevitable to encounter troubles in life. This is a color in the colorful life. No one can avoid troubles.

No one can live in troubles forever. Behind troubles is hope. Like dark clouds above our heads, things always have two sides. We have experienced them. Only when you have troubles can you know how to cherish joy, eliminate troubles, and be optimistic about life. The mutual transformation of troubles and joy is life itself.

No matter how busy and tight the work is, no matter how complicated the housework is, no matter how complicated the interpersonal relationships are. , and no matter how many knots we have in our hearts, we should treat them calmly, because no matter what our mood is, no matter what our emotions are, objectivity is always objective, reality is still reality, and they will not follow our mood. Change with change, that is to say, "do not change according to human will." In this case, why don't we treat the world and everything with a calm attitude and a relaxed mood? With this attitude, we will naturally feel alive. If we are relaxed, we will not feel tired. Therefore, if we learn to relax, we can be open-minded and optimistic. Learning to relax can also help us break through all barriers and shackles, and our hearts will be like birds in the blue sky. Fly freely in.

②Having troubles should be a kind of beauty and a kind of gain. Just like dusk, it gives people a faint feeling of loss but a trembling heart. It makes you realize something in a moment. Although you are irritable But it is not impetuous, and it is very durable to chew. If you taste it carefully, you will feel that when you have troubles, you have a richness and maturity at the same time.

With troubles, although you live in a small room or face the vast sea, your heart is still there Hiking in the wilderness, trekking in the desert of eternal emotions and reason. The deep understanding of life brought about by the helplessness and heaviness of living alone is clearly far away from the ordinary meaning of survival.

Having troubles, Although it makes your young heart depressed, it can help your life get rid of stagnation. Having troubles and understanding them is a sublimation of your understanding of life. It will make you more confident, strong, and open-minded. In fact, troubles It is a color in the dye vat of life, a note in the music of life, and it is its existence that adjusts the color and melody of your life.

If you have troubles, you will not get carried away. You will not be lazy and silent, and you will not forget to think about life and pursue the meaning of life. Because troubles always appear in a way that bothers you, making you unable to escape or abandon it. This will stimulate your exploration and exploration of yourself. Pioneering, cherishing life and loving life.

Trouble and joy are inherently inherent, so having trouble is originally a kind of completeness of life, a kind of gift of life. It is precisely because The coexistence of troubles and joy makes life colorful and tempting. Imagine that a life without troubles may be as calm as water, but the days without movement and indepth are no different from a lamp at dusk, compared with the morning glow and the setting sun. The world is equally bleak and lifeless.

③Forget about troubles: The complexity of the world makes people troubled, the hustle and bustle of the world makes people troubled, the fatigue of work makes people troubled, the injuries outside of life make people even more troubled, and the emotional pain Loss is the most troubling thing. You are worried about everything you don’t have, that no one truly understands you, and that you have no close friends. However, troubles cannot change your mood and situation. The world is like this and you cannot escape it. Just forget your worries. Life will have more hope, more relaxation, more indifference; less sorrow and less trouble.

④ There is no need to worry about those lost dreams. There is no need to borrow some troubles to make life unhappy. No one can put today's happiness in the bank and take it out to enjoy tomorrow. Life itself is full of flowers, sunshine, wind, frost, rain and snow, inner joys and sorrows, and all kinds of external hardships that impact our body and mind. We must be able to face it calmly, and we must not get confused first.

⑤The sea of ??people is vast, coming and going in a hurry, don’t let worries control your mood. Life in this world is full of bitterness and sweetness, joys and sorrows, how can we not have troubles? The important thing is to have the confidence and courage to forget your worries and keep them out of your life. If you think of the best in everything, your soul will be filled with sunshine.

⑥Forgetting your worries is complex but simple. Just play some light music in your free time to create a free space for yourself and a good state of mind. Or look through the memories that have turned yellow but are still beautiful, and relive those days that have been lost but are still warm, so that you will have no worries. As long as we have experienced it, worked hard, and fought for it, we will have a clear conscience. Learn to forget, learn to be free and unrestrained, learn to be ordinary, and you will have a mentality that is neither humble nor arrogant. You don't have to be harsh on yourself, you don't have to look for trouble, and living freely is more unrestrained than anything else.

⑦Poetry Recitation - "The Source of Troubles and Happiness"

Why does the river of troubles never flow? Because its source never dries up

Why its source never dries up? Because its source is in everyone's heart.

Why does the river of happiness come and go? Because its source is unstable.

Why is its source unstable? Because its source is deeper in the human heart, and happiness must flow out of the constraints of the soul.

Are you worried about the river drying up? It's very simple, block the trauma in your heart.

Do you want a happy river to always flow? It's very simple, get rid of the depression in your heart.

Let us open our hearts to a better life!

Ask your attentive and attentive classmates to give you advice and share your worries.

Inspirational quotes and mottos

① When one piece of happiness is shared with others, it becomes two pieces of happiness; when one piece of trouble is shared with others, It's half the trouble.

②Trouble is like a dark cloud in the sky. If there is a clear sky in your heart, then trouble will not have the slightest impact on you.

③Although there are clouds in the sky, the sun will always shine above the dark clouds.

④ If everyone puts their worries on the market for trading, everyone would rather take their own worries back home after seeing the worries of others. ”——Western Philosophy

⑤Trouble is like a drop of water in the ocean, but it can reflect the brilliance of the sun.

⑥Trouble is like a big stone on the way forward, we must move it Only by opening it can we move forward.

⑦A smile will make you less than ten years old

Standing on the wall and having no desires, you will be strong

⑨A selfless heart and a broad mind

⑩A tranquil life

You can't change the environment, but you can change yourself;

You can't change the past, but you can change the present;

You can't control others, but you can control yourself;< /p>

You can’t predict tomorrow, but you can seize today;

You can’t control the weather, but you can change your mood;

You can’t choose your appearance, but you can Show a smile;

You can't have everything go smoothly, but you can do your best in everything;

You can't extend the length of life, but you can determine the width of life.

Conclusion of Singing Life

Host A: Troubles accompany us and witness our growth. As we grow, we must face it with a calm mind, filter out the troubles, and drive them away. The haze in my heart lets the bright sunshine fill my heart. Because the sun always comes after the storm. Please enjoy the song "Sunshine is always after the storm"

Host B: Maybe you have gotten rid of yesterday's troubles through talking, or maybe they are still hidden in your heart. In any case, today's troubles cannot be avoided, and tomorrow's troubles cannot be avoided. Troubles are still going on, and they haunt us as we grow. Please remember, students, that worries cannot prolong today, nor can they buy tomorrow. Instead of living in troubles, it is better to be happy and let everyone see a happy you! Finally, let us recite Pushkin's "If Life Deceived You" together, throw our worries away, and let us hit the road with joy!

Teacher’s summary:

Students, worries can consume a person’s energy, reduce one’s ambition, weaken one’s strength, and damage one’s health. If a lot of energy and time are spent on unnecessary worries, it is impossible to use all his abilities. Through this activity, I think you may have mastered the best way to get rid of troubles, that is, when you are troubled, replace disappointment with hope, replace depression with courage, replace pessimism with optimism, and replace irritability with tranquility. Then Even the darkest corners will be illuminated. Finally, the teacher wishes you all the best, and believes that you will travel lightly and confidently tomorrow, and hopes that you can complete the topic composition of "Growing Pains" on your own, so that your troubles will come to a perfect end.