Although Fan Meisheng in the TV series "Ode to Joy" is very beautiful, but other than that, she will never take advantage. Parents prefer boys to girls, and eldest brother has accomplished nothing in his thirties. He doesn't have two good jobs, and Fan has to give more than half of his monthly salary to his family. Dad is paralyzed in bed, he has to take care of three meals a day, and he will have seizures from time to time. The operation cost should be at least100000. These add up to a bottomless pit of the Fan family. Fan is afraid of poverty. She dreams of finding a rich man and letting her live a better life.
Therefore, if you can't buy a house in full, she doesn't need it. If she is not particularly rich, she doesn't want it. It's just that everyone is being chosen by others. Wrong door. It's not just talk. Feelings are managed by two people, not one person to get rid of poverty accurately. Everyone has a reason to pursue a better life, but only if we ask others what we can provide for others. If we have nothing, but ask others for understanding, then at this moment, the love we encounter is almost unreliable, because our starting point is unrealistic. Therefore, almost all the men around Fan never really loved her.
Second, don't go with the flow, have your own principles and bottom line.
Many women are always obsessed with developing their image in the eyes of others in a good direction, busy doing what others do, and almost never think about the practical significance of doing so themselves. Wang Manni in the TV series Nothing works in a luxury store with a monthly salary of 15000 yuan. Although not much, she has enough money to live on, but she is short of money every month, and even has no savings after more than ten years. Seeing others buying luxury goods, she also spent 3000 yuan on a pair of shoes, thinking that she could meet Prince Charming by loving herself materially, but she hardly thought that the most important thing in feelings was to be a man.
Therefore, a very rich man appeared in her life, which also made her chemical impulse, but men didn't like her at all, just wanted to be mysterious. Wang Manni may be envied by others because of luxury brands, but her life has not changed at all, on the contrary, it is getting worse. She doesn't know that her life has almost nothing to do with others. She doesn't know that what others say about herself has never had any reference value. However, because of that elusive self, Wang Manni gradually blurred the originally unclear self. There is a saying in the book "Famous sayings of Psychology": "Life is an impulse. If the impulse is not satisfied, it will be painful, but if it is reached, it will be boring. Life swings between pain and boredom. " In this world, we should know what we want, not what others have. Only by maintaining a sober and rational outlook on life can we get real feelings.