In fact, the literal meaning of this sentence, I believe everyone can see this meaning, that is to say, "if the elderly at home are biased towards whom, then this biased person will definitely become poorer and poorer in the future." If you understand it this way, it is also correct, but it also has another meaning. Today I'm going to talk about this common meaning.
This sentence is about our parents. Parents are the first teachers we grew up with. If in our growth education, parents overindulge and take care of their children, including their problems, parents don't mean to let their children find ways to solve them themselves, but stand up and help them at the first time.
This will only make children develop the habit of relying too much on their parents from an early age, and they will not know how to bear hardships and stand hard work from an early age, that is, the care of "clothes to reach for food to open their mouths" that we often say in daily life will only make children grow up without their own survival ability and will not integrate themselves into the big family of this society.
So the phrase "the old man is a dragon" means that as a qualified teacher, parents should care for their children correctly.
Who is poor in this sentence? We should understand it in combination with the meaning of the previous sentence. Parents are dragons. As we said just now, how parents care for their children depends on their future life.
In other words, if parents care too much about their children, they will lose their ability to survive and be human when they grow up. You know, no matter how much your parents care about you, they will always get old, so they can't care too much about you when they are old.
Then at this time, if there is no parental care, children will become poorer and poorer in the future. After all, children have developed the habit of relying on their parents since childhood.
This rural proverb is full of philosophy of life and has the significance of correct education. It tells us, don't be partial to a child, let the child cultivate independent ability and fighting spirit from an early age, only in this way can his life get better and better.
In a family with many children, the old people always like to say, "They are all my children, and the palms of their hands are all meat." But in fact, the palm of your hand and the back of your hand are all meat.
There is a saying in the countryside that "the emperor loves his eldest son and the people love him", which is a very common portrayal of parents' partiality in the family. I live in the countryside, and I have seen from an early age that in a family with many children, there is always a child who is spoiled by parents, and most of the spoiled children are often poor when they grow up.
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Including my father's generation, my grandfather has seven children, four sons and three daughters, and my father is the second child. I knew from an early age that my grandfather didn't like my father and brother, but he especially liked my brother-in-law and his son, my sister-in-law and her children.
In my mind, from childhood to adulthood, I can count the words "Grandpa, Grandma" with one hand. Sometimes my brother and I go to grandpa, like invisible people. Dad is the same, there is no need to spend money, generally do not think of calling me dad.
Because of this, my father has been blocking the road ahead. He used to dig coal in the mine. He never thinks that there is a job that is easier and more profitable than digging coal, and he is willing to do any dirty work. So he raised my brother and me well, and both of them entered the marriage hall and had their own careers.
And dad knows what to do, no one can rely on, everything depends on himself. Therefore, he has the spirit of special research in case of trouble, and will not stop until he reaches his goal, so he has very good attainments in welding technology. Later, my father returned to his hometown from other places and opened a welding shop in his hometown. He has been engaged since then, and there are many repeat customers in the store.
On the other hand, my brother-in-law and sister-in-law have been regarded as the apple of their eyes since childhood, and they have been spoiled. When they were not married, they were full of ambition, but when nothing could be changed, they felt tired and bitter. After they got married, they still asked their grandparents for money from time to time, and often asked their brothers for money, but they never paid it back.
Faced with this situation, grandparents are still spoiled, thinking that brothers and sisters are not doing well, and they should be subsidized if they are brothers and sisters. It's true. Brothers should help each other, but there is a limit. Why never think about why they are mixed up like this, but always feel that we should pay.
There are many such families in rural areas. These children have been spoiled by their parents "this dragon" since childhood. When they grow up, they often have little ability and low vision, but they still feel that everyone should help him.
From this point of view, the sentence "the old man is a dragon, and who is poor" is absolutely correct.
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This is especially true for some only children, who have been spoiled by their grandparents and parents since childhood and feel that they are little emperors. When I grow up, I still feel that the whole world should turn to him for help, otherwise I will be willful and anxious.
In this morbid state of mind, it is really difficult for such people to make their families rich. It's even good to take the whole family to the old people.
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There is also a saying that the children of the "dragon" of the elderly are filial to support the elderly.
An old man died in our village last year and has been living in the second son's house. The second son has a good family condition and is willing to bear hardships, but the old man fell ill before his death and almost spent all his savings, while the other sons are unfilial and unwilling to bear the expenses of providing for the aged and being hospitalized. Only the second child is willing to bear the obligation to support the elderly.
This kind of situation used to be common in rural areas, but now the education level of rural people is generally higher than in the past, and this phenomenon is also decreasing.
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The unfortunate son always makes excuses to say that the old man is partial. Some old people have no economic income and no labor force. What quirks can they have? Who is the prejudice of the elderly? He is kind to children, not the kind of unfilial son. People who say that the elderly are eccentric will be miserable when you get old, because you don't pay attention to reality, respect the elderly, and don't know how to educate the next generation: you will only haggle over every ounce when you are old, and your children will be just like you. Wake up. My mother is 90 years old, and I have been responsible for 90% of her expenses for more than 20 years. I am the youngest son of my old mother. My son, daughter and son-in-law all regard grandma as a treasure, and some grandchildren regard him as grass. They are not as good as my children in fame and career, and I am not as poor as my brothers. Of course, my old mother is partial to me, and people are watching. Don't make excuses for unfilial. If you are kind to the old man, he will be kind to you. I think a lot of filial families should do well in everything. Old people are willing to pay for small things, and villains are willing to pay for old people, so that everything at home goes smoothly.
This sentence is very reasonable, I agree. But what needs to be understood is that this proverb only refers to families with many children.
First of all, we must understand the meaning of dragons to the elderly. The metaphor here is that the parents are dragons, and dragons have nine different sons: prison bull, revenge dog, mocking wind, Braun, ragged dog, ragged dog, multi-section dog and kiss. As children grow up, their personalities and hobbies have different development fates. There are well-developed, stunted, well-developed parents who are not worried … and so on! As parents, they must be fond, well-developed and obedient children; But some children don't develop well for various reasons, and the elderly can't ignore them. After all, they are their own children! They will involuntarily "favor" those "poor" children. In many cases, they will help these poor children in the dark. And what about those good children who are capable and obedient? They are more assured of the elderly, so the love of the elderly will be more inclined to "poor" children. It seems that whoever the old man loves to take refuge in is poor. This phenomenon that most old people prefer children is too normal, which is why such an old saying has been formed.
The meaning of the sentence "the old man is a dragon, like a poor family" is very simple, because "the dragon gives birth to nine children, and the nine children are different", which means that a person can have many children, but each child is different. If the old man prefers a child from an early age, then this child is definitely the most hopeless and the worst mixed!
Tell you a true story on our side. Today's hero is called Uncle Xue, and all the Zhuangzi people here are surnamed Xue, so we won't entangle this. Uncle Xue has raised three sons and a daughter, and now he is 78 years old. His daughter died of pancreatic cancer a few years ago, and the threshold for female death was broken. So you don't think this door is reliable, because Uncle Xu used to work in our hardware factory and belongs to a state-owned enterprise. After retirement, there is still a retirement salary of more than 2,000 yuan per month.
Uncle Xue's three sons, the eldest son has a formal job as a driver in our transportation company, and his daughter-in-law works as a cashier in a cleaning company. Uncle Xue's second son was in poor health since childhood, and finally took over from Uncle Xue's class. Unexpectedly, he was laid off a few years later. Now he drives a taxi in the city, and his daughter-in-law works as a nurse in a Chinese medicine hospital. Uncle Xue's third son has studied well since childhood. Since ancient times, there has been a saying among the people that "the emperor loves his eldest son and the people love his son". Therefore, Uncle Xue's third son was finally admitted to the university and worked in a research institute in Wuhan, Hubei Province. His daughter-in-law also worked in a telecommunications company.
In those years, Uncle Xu and the old couple were in good health, and Uncle Xu's retirement salary could fully support the old couple's life, so all three sons seemed to be ok. However, since the death of Uncle Xue three years ago, Uncle Xue's wife has no pension, and his son needs to assume the obligation of supporting the elderly at once. According to the truth, both the eldest son and the second son have sons at home, and life is quite tight. Only the third son has good living and economic conditions. In addition, Uncle Xue and his wife are also the best for their third son. So the three brothers discussed it together, meaning that they could find a nanny for the mother with more economic expenses, and the eldest son and the second son were responsible for visiting home every week. It was agreed at that time, but I didn't know that my third son would never be able to contact again after he went back. Now the eldest son and the second son are having a hard time, and they come and go in a hurry every time they come back to see their old mother.
Later, Uncle Xue's wife couldn't stand it, so she sued the third. Later, after coordination by many parties, she threatened her third child by telling her work unit that she was unfilial, and the third child reluctantly agreed to pay 1000 yuan per month for maintenance. Think about it. In the past, Mr. and Mrs. Xue said in front of people that their third son was prolific and could earn more money. Now it has reached this point. On the contrary, the eldest son and the second son have always despised themselves. Every time they go home, they help themselves to wash clothes and sheets.
Rural people say that there is an old man at home, if there is a treasure, because the old man can help take care of the family. This old saying is true. The old man is both a treasure and a lamp, pointing out the direction for the family and presiding over the housework. But there is an old saying in the countryside, the old man is a dragon, and who is poor? To tell the truth, when Jiao Xiao first heard this sentence, he really didn't know what it meant, because in my heart, he always thought that the old man would never harm the child, so why did he make the child poor? Today we will talk about this problem!
There is a legend in ancient China that the dragon gave birth to nine sons, which are ranked by size as the eldest son, the second son, the third son, Chifeng, the fourth son, Bulun, the fifth son (suān ní), the sixth son, the seventh son (bì àn) and the seventh son.
In the past, there were many children in every family, so there was a saying that "the old man is a dragon".
In fact, the phrase "the old man is a dragon and his family is poor" means that there were many children in rural areas in the past, and many parents could not make a bowl of water to treat their children. They must be partial to a child, which is what we are talking about now. Then, a child who grew up in a doting environment is basically living a life of "clothing to reach out and mouth to mouth". He doesn't have to do many things by himself, but his parents help him. Parents always think of him first if there is anything good.
Children living in such an environment must have poor independence. So now there are many "neets" in the countryside. Young people don't make progress, don't go out to earn money, and don't consider how to honor their parents. On the contrary, when they get married in their twenties and thirties, they have to reach out to their parents who are digging holes in the field to find food. That must be a miserable life.
In fact, many people know that parents in China want to create the best life for their children, but they ignore the influence of excessive doting on their children's future.
There is a family in Jiaojiao Village with a daughter and a son. The daughter is fine and sensible. However, my son 18 years old. I dropped out of school and went home in junior high school. He eats and sleeps at home all day and is chubby. In the evening, he often goes to Internet cafes to play games all night. People at home don't know how to greet him or go out to work to earn money. But their parents think their son is fine and they are proud to talk to others. Sometimes even Jiao Xiao is worried about them. Can this baby marry a wife in the future?
Therefore, personally, parents should not spoil their children too much, especially now that many families only have one baby, and the baby is as distressed as he is, afraid of falling and being hungry. Actually, I don't think it's necessary to care too much. If you fall, you must get up. Hungry for two meals is nothing. This is how we came when we were young, and we have never seen anything important.
Not all old people are dragons. Anyone who can be called a dragon must be an able person with a well-off family. Therefore, if the elderly in such a family are partial to which child, they may be hurting which one.
Not entirely correct, but in real life, parents tend to do things they can't do, and there are really people who don't eat leftovers. Under normal circumstances, the elderly in rural areas are often the youngest, so there is a saying that the elderly in the world are often small.
After the reform and opening up that year, a family named Lu in our village contracted a construction team, and the Lujia Courtyard was formally established. It is said that those who were engaged in construction in those days really earned money and did not have to go to town. At that time, our village was just an overall plan, and all the houses in the village were demolished and built separately. At that time, the village supported emerging enterprises, and Lujia Courtyard was like a duck to water. In a few years, he became famous in the local town.
The two sons, the eldest son, follow their father everywhere every day. When construction workers are nervous, they have to go to work in person, and they can't be free every day. After the younger son graduated from high school, Lu's parents couldn't bear to let his younger son suffer in the construction industry, so they arranged for his younger son to enter the factory today and find someone to help him get his younger son into the state-owned enterprise tomorrow, but his younger son was either too tired or his salary was too low.
However, whether you do it or not, it's not bad to be a bookworm with money at home. With your family's local status and reputation, the second child of Lujia found a beautiful girl, then got married and had children, and lived a stable life. Later, his daughter-in-law said that going to work was bad for both of us, and something had to be done anyway.
So the young couple asked Lao Lu and his wife to invest, and they opened a canteen at their doorstep. In addition to selling children's snacks, they also earn ten dollars and twenty dollars a day because they are close to the village school. From then on, the couple watched the canteen leisurely and lived a happy and simple life. Parents don't have to worry about daily expenses.
It's not that the flowers can't bloom. The Lujia Courtyard flourished for 89 years, just because Lao Lu's management was not in place, and finally the loss disintegrated. Since then, the prosperous Lv Family Courtyard in the village has disappeared. Without the economic foreign aid of parents, the life of Lv Family's second boy is also difficult. At this time, he is almost forty years old, and he doesn't want to do the work raised by his parents. Finally, he had to go to the town government bank as a Baoan clerk, with a salary of two or three yuan a month.
Lujia's boss was quickly hired by a construction company in the city with a high salary because he experienced the exercise of rolling around in the construction industry. Now he works as a technician in the city and gets paid. The disintegration of Lujia Courtyard had no influence on him.
However, it is not only the second boy of the Lu family who is influential, but also the Lao Lu couple. After Lao Lu and his wife lost money, the younger son and daughter-in-law didn't want to live with the old man again, so their parents were driven out of the house and had to find their eldest daughter-in-law who was not very popular at first.
There are one or two such cases in the village. One of them was spoiled by his parents and didn't go to work. She drank and played mahjong at home all day, and finally her daughter-in-law ran away with someone else. This is really the product of her parents' doting.
In fact, the old man is as poor as a dragon, and he is used to killing a child as the old saying goes. Parents think that he gave the child the greatest benefit, but in fact, he unintentionally disintegrated the child's self-motivation, so that the child who was targeted by the rich parents eventually lived a poor life when the parents could not give money.
"The old man is a dragon, who is poor?" This sentence is an exaggeration! This sentence I understand is mainly used to reflect the problem of parents' education for their children.
The old man is a dragon, this sentence is actually said from the perspective of children! Adults at home are an omnipotent image in the eyes of many children, and children have a kind of love and reverence for adults; On the other hand, parents have a great influence on children's growth, and some ways of doing things by parents will affect children's growth. Saying that the old man is a dragon indirectly illustrates the status and influence of the old man!
Although this sentence is exaggerated, it also makes sense! In the past, there were many children in a rural family, and parents might treat their children differently for various reasons. If children correctly understand this preference, they will achieve something. However, indulging in this preference will limit the development of children. When they grow up, they may be overwhelmed by their lack of ability and accomplish nothing!
In fact, I am deeply touched by this sentence. There are five children in our neighbor's house, three men and two women. The fortune teller told us that his second son was born with a silver spoon in his mouth and had a bright future, so the couple especially liked his second son and even let the other two children drop out of school to study for his second son. In fact, the eldest son got good grades, and the second son was a little mixed up at school! By the time he graduated from college, the second son had become a minor celebrity in our village. He was chased by others outside because of online loans. Later, he learned that his work was not smooth and he wanted to enjoy it, so he borrowed money from the Internet to install a big money and embarked on the road of no return! On the other hand, his eldest son is very thoughtful. It is not a problem for our town to earn one or two million a year by selling peanuts.
Therefore, it is not a good thing for the elderly to care too much about their children. Parents should participate in their children's growth, but don't interfere too much. If children understand well, they can become talents. Excessive dependence will only go downhill in the future!
There are many variations of this proverb. Some people say that "parents are dragons, so who is poor?". Although the sentences have changed, they all express a statement and meaning.
Parents are dragons, indicating that parents are hardworking, thoughtful and thoughtful. In such a family, it often leads to the cowardice of future generations. Under the strict management of children, parents have some defects in character or ability. In this case, if the parents still love one of the children, such children can live well with the help of their parents for the time being, but they have formed many bad habits invisibly. In this way, after the death of the old man, children will find it difficult to face all kinds of hardships in life without the help of their parents, so they are said to be poor.
In fact, people in rural areas will find many such examples. An old man in the same village has several children, and one of them is particularly doting, especially the youngest child is more likely to be doted by his parents. He enjoyed all the blessings since he was a child and gave a lot of money or help, while other children often made more efforts to make progress without the help of the elderly, just to prove their abilities to their parents, even in the face of difficulties in life.
"The old man is a dragon, who is poor?" To understand the meaning of this old saying, let you know a beautiful girl first and then tell you a true story.
Yes, the girl in the photo is tall. She is 25 years old, studying for a master's degree at Shanxi University, and is also a national second-class track and field athlete. At an early age, medals have filled the table. But what you can't imagine is that she has one less arm than ordinary people.
In the era of the only child, every child is the treasure of the family. But Sean never knew who his parents were! Sean would have died if a 60-year-old man who was kind enough to pick up junk had not found it.
It was an afternoon in 1994. Grandma Gao saw many people looking at a paper box. Some people shook their heads, and some people regretted it. Grandma Gao came closer and saw that it was a baby girl! But no left arm! Because of this, people took one look and walked away!
Grandma Gao took her in and just took her home when it began to rain cats and dogs outside. One step later, Sean will be dead!
Grandma Gao is an old man who lives alone by collecting rags and doing odd jobs by herself. After taking in girls, life is even more difficult. However, both of them gritted their teeth and survived!
What's more difficult is that girls can't go to school because they don't have hukou. Grandma Gao knelt everywhere, and finally a remote primary school was willing to accept her. Sean is excellent in both academic performance and academic performance. When the family was in arrears and the power went out, Sean insisted on finishing his homework under the street lamp. In junior high school, Sean was in danger of not going to school because he didn't have a hukou. Fortunately, a remote middle school accepted her again.
For dozens of miles, it costs three yuan per ride. In order to reduce grandma's burden and pick up some rubbish along the way, Sean runs to and from school every day. Unexpectedly, this made her a running genius. In high school, she won all the championships in the school track and field events and was rated as a national second-class athlete.
Thanks to Sien's unremitting efforts, I was admitted to Shanxi University! In the eyes of others, Shanxi University is not a high-grade school, but for children who have been studying in remote places, this achievement is enough to make their families and themselves proud!
Grandma Gao was worried about tuition, but fortunately, with the help of good people and the charity Federation, Sean finally entered the university classroom.
Last year, when preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, Grandma Gao fell ill. When preparing for the exam, Sien took care of her grandmother who was ill in hospital and gave her a bath, but these are nothing here! She got into graduate school as she wished! I will graduate next year.
Grandma Gao's face is full of pride and happiness!
The story is over! Imagine how many only children around us have been spoiled by their parents, or played truant because of playing games, or failed to go to college, or made eating old a habit. ......
There are also families with many children. Who do parents love when they are young and who are the most unworthy when they grow up! And those who are treated coldly by their parents have become a big climate! The final ending of Su Ming Yu and his second brother Su Mingcheng in Everything is OK also explains everything.
The old man is a dragon, who is poor! Remind everyone to love children moderately! Spoil who hurts who! Everyone who is growing up needs to go through the trials of wind and rain, which is so smooth. It's just a tender branch that can't stand the wind and rain!