Opening the message, I opened the message habitually, and a message came into view. A friend sent me a message, "You are friendly, thank you for your article that helped me win the prize." At that time, I could only express "so happy" To describe it, this is because my article was mentioned in someone else's article for the first time, and it also brought an instant good mood to others. Of course, I was also very happy?, and an "altruistic thought" suddenly popped up in my mind.

If I could only choose one way of thinking, I would choose the altruistic way of thinking, because altruism can make myself physically and mentally happy and pave the way for good interpersonal relationships. In other words, I can pursue The ultimate coordinate of life, hello, me, hello everyone.

When dealing with interest relationships, we should not only think about the current situation, but also think about the future, not only think about ourselves, but also think about others. When you think about others, others will think about you. Only when you think about the future can you face the present with worry and help yourself overcome selfish human weaknesses. Being altruistic is actually self-interest.

1. Everyone is genetically selfish. Although there are many selfless people in the world, they do not mean nothing, even if we have altruistic behaviors of this kind. , but in the end the essence is all for self-interest.

When you ask for value from others, others also have the same idea as you, that is, how to ask for value from you. If you yourself cannot provide others with the value they need, then what do you expect? What value do others bring to you?

2. Everyone has a reciprocity mentality. If we want to obtain value from others, the first thing to do is to provide others with the value they want. This is what we often say "Value exchange"

What if you want to say that I have provided value to others, but others never provide value to me? There is a kind of reciprocity psychology in psychology, that is, most people are actually unwilling to owe others. As the saying goes, "The mouth of the person who eats is soft, and the hands of the person who takes the person are short."

Once bribed by others, most people will People have a kind of psychological pressure of debt. If they can repay in time, they will be relieved from the psychological pressure. For example, the origin of the word "courtesy reciprocity". If you can't repay for a while, you will always remember it in your heart.

So altruism is actually self-interest. When we provide value to others, we are also providing value to our future selves. This is the saying of "giving roses to others and leaving fragrance in your hands".

1. Always pay attention and develop an altruistic mindset

When we want to be helped by others, we should ask ourselves several times, can I provide something for him? The law of value exchange is almost everywhere. You must pay more attention and slowly develop this kind of thinking, so that the road will become smoother and smoother.

2. Be a person who takes the initiative to give

Maybe it is not enough to have these thoughts. We must also take the initiative to give in our daily life, such as outputting more in WeChat groups and giving more. Service, if you speak often and share the valuable knowledge you have gained or some rare resources with everyone, even if you are not very good, everyone will like you very much because you provide value to everyone.

3. Work hard to cultivate your own abilities

If you want to be altruistic, you still need to have the ability and ability to give blindly, and maybe do bad things with good intentions, such as treating others as When needed, if you don’t have professional knowledge to guide you, giving blind guidance will harm others. Only by constantly upgrading yourself and improving your abilities can you effectively provide value to others.

4. Start with small things around me

Some people may say that my ability is limited and I cannot provide value to others. In fact, many small things around me are altruistic behaviors. For example, when you encounter Saying hello to colleagues, teachers, and classmates will make people feel that you care about them. When others talk to you, you will be a serious and focused listener, giving others the feeling of being respected.

Keep smiling at all times, speak more polite words, such as sorry and thank you, practice your empathy, do not speak ill of others behind their backs, pay attention to everyone around you, and maintain a humble attitude. Treat others sincerely, praise others, and keep yourself in an optimistic mood at all times, which will also affect others. These small things can be regarded as altruistic thinking.

Altruism is actually such a simple thing. It is definitely not an act that requires publicity. If you have altruism, you will reduce your own desires and consider the interests of others first. Altruism can be expressed with "truth, goodness and beauty" Expression can also be called a pure and beautiful soul.