As the saying goes in rural areas, "If you are poor, you will not visit relatives, and if your hands are cold, you will not torture." This sentence expresses the sadness of people living in this world. When people are poor, they are nothing in society, and they can't even speak to others. Standing together means drinking and deliberately ignoring you. Only those who have been laughed at know this feeling.

There was a man in my village who was very poor. When he was a child, he couldn’t even wear shoes. He always picked up other people’s shoes to wear. Everyone looked down on him and his relatives did not associate with him. But this man was eager to learn. , now works as the vice president of a large listed company, and takes a special plane to go home for the Chinese New Year every year. Now his relatives have started to interact with him again. This is a very real thing. People nowadays are very realistic. If you have no money and status, then you are nothing. Nowadays, some of our relatives are not just based on money and people. If they are not rich and status, there are some relatives who are still willing to interact with each other.

The old saying goes: If you are poor in the busy city, no one will care about you; if you are rich in the mountains, you will have distant relatives. If you don’t believe it, just look at the wine at the banquet, and persuade the rich first cup by cup. There is wine, meat, and many brothers, but it is difficult to see one person. Nowadays, everyone has so-called fair-weather friends. You are really in trouble. How many of them can help you?

Three poor and three rich will live until they are old. Who knows whether they will succeed or fail in ten years! Those who like me, I cherish; those who dislike me, I abandon. Why should I live for others?

For those who work in the workplace, those with cars look down on those without cars. Even if you take someone else’s car to go to the countryside, others will look down on you. This is very realistic, because you have no money and no status in the workplace.

So, you must have backbone as a person. Even though you are poor, and you don’t steal or rob, you don’t need to care about what others think. You don’t eat or drink from others. You want to be honest. At a glance, "Master" really doesn't want to see it, what do you think?

Nowadays, rural areas are the same as cities. The reality is that if you don't have money to go back to your hometown, not many people will pay attention to you. Your cheap cigarettes are handed over to you. When you go out, some cigarettes will be caught by you if you want to show your face. (Throw them away behind your back.) If you don’t want to show your face, they will not accept your cigarettes. They will take out a good cigarette from your pocket and light it, which will make you angry to death.

When I was in my twenties, I had a relationship in Dongguan. My girlfriend was from Hunan. She asked me to compensate her and go back to her home in Hunan to play. I was working as a manager in the factory at that time. My salary was three to four thousand yuan a month, so I quit my job and took five to six thousand yuan with her back to Hunan. When meeting your future mother-in-law for the first time, you should at least express your gratitude! I gave one thousand to my father-in-law, one thousand to my mother-in-law, and two thousand in one go. (Two thousand was considered acceptable in 1978). At first, my mother-in-law and her family liked me very much. They went to the market with my girlfriend every day and had a great time shopping for groceries. I had been playing for almost a month, and I still had a few hundred dollars in my pocket. I whispered to my girlfriend that we were going back to Guangdong. I didn’t have much money in my pocket, so I shouldn’t walk back to Guangdong to work when the time came. My girlfriend said she was not afraid. The money she earned from working was mailed home and deposited with her mother-in-law.

We played like this for about ten days. I gradually felt that her mother’s attitude towards me was a little subtle, so I insisted on leaving. My girlfriend wanted to play at home for a while, so I said I Let’s go to Guangdong first. You bought the ticket for me. My girlfriend said she would go to her mother to get money to buy a ticket for me, but her mother said that a grown man couldn’t even have money to buy a ticket, so how could he find a girlfriend or marry a wife?

At that time, I really couldn’t believe that this was what her mother said, and she wouldn’t lend it to me. I didn’t expect there to be such a realistic person. Her mother taught me a profound lesson when I was young.

Later, my girlfriend gave me five yuan, and I borrowed the fare from a friend's house while walking a mountainous road in a car. It was raining heavily that day and my underwear was soaked through at my friend’s house. Without saying a word, my friend lent me 500 yuan to go to Guangdong. When I arrived in Guangdong, I immediately called my girlfriend to break up with her and borrowed money from my friend to call him. I am very grateful to my friend for letting me feel the sincerity and enthusiasm between friends. I am also very grateful to my ex-girlfriend’s mother, who made me feel her ruthlessness, indifference, and reality.

This is just the first time in my life that I have met such a realistic person. I will meet many realistic people now and in the future. But you can't be pessimistic as a person. Only when you are strong will you look less at the cold eyes and indifference of others.

"If you are poor, you won't go to see your relatives; if your hands are cold, you won't use the lamp." This saying is true.

People who are poor should not visit relatives, which means that when people are unhappy, they should not visit relatives, let alone ask relatives for help. When you are proud, you may feel that the relatives around you have a harmonious relationship, but if you are unhappy, you will find that their attitude towards you has changed. I have seen many such examples. I have a neighbor whose parents are in poor health and take medicine all year round. His relatives and friends avoid him for fear that he will borrow money. During the holidays, he will not go to his relatives' houses. Rarely eat at the main table. My neighbor had no choice at home, so he went to the city to collect scraps. He made a lot of money in the past few years, bought a house in the city, and drove a car worth hundreds of thousands. Now when I return home, I am always a guest no matter who I go to.

Don't burn the lamp when your hands are cold, it means not burning the lamp when you are freezing to death. The lamp mentioned here is the old kerosene lamp. When a person is cold, what help can a little lamp flame do? Another meaning of this sentence is that roasting a lamp is an act of persuasion. You should not lose your backbone for a little bit of warmth, thereby insulting your dignity and backbone.

"If you are poor, you won’t go to see your relatives; if your hands are cold, you won’t use the lamp.

"This simple sentence expresses the warmth and coldness of the world and the truth of the world.

I think there is a certain truth in the saying "If you are poor, you will not go to relatives, if your hands are cold, you will not light the lamp". , but it is not entirely correct.

Our country is one of the four ancient civilizations in the world and has a long history. We often hear various proverbs, famous sayings and sayings, and they are all quite similar. It is easy to understand. This is the crystallization of experience and wisdom that people have accumulated in the long history, and it is also a true portrayal of people's lives. "A person who is poor will not go to relatives, and his hands will be cold without a lamp" reflects the warmth and warmth of people in their lives. How to deal with things. So what does this sentence mean?

It means that when people are poor, they should never visit relatives or ask them for help. I will be afraid that if you are borrowing money and ignore you occasionally, the winner will sneer at you.

Seeing this saying reminds me of another limerick:

If you are poor in the downtown area and no one cares about you,

If you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives.

If you don’t believe it, look at the wine in the glass.

The rich people are toasting each other.

Both of them reflect the real life of society and the status of money in people's hearts since ancient times. It was illuminated by an oil lamp. At that time, people often said that no matter how cold your hands were, you should not go to the lamp to warm yourself, because the flame of the oil lamp was very small, and it would not warm you at all, and it would also affect the surrounding lighting. It means that people should have integrity and not lose their moral integrity and lose their integrity because of a little charity from others.

In short, there are many proverbs in our country, especially in the countryside. They are right. They are true portrayals of people's lives or a certain period of history, so they have a certain truth, but nothing is absolute, and what is true is not necessarily correct. Just like the saying "people who are poor cannot stay with relatives", although it reflects reality. There is a certain truth in the portrayal of people's lives in life, but I think it is wrong. It not only reflects a social phenomenon, but also reflects people's attitude towards money from the side. They are accustomed to using money to measure everything, including family affection. , friendship, love, etc. This is not something that should be promoted.

The above are some of my opinions on the saying "A person who is poor will not stay with relatives, and his hands will be cold without a lamp". Are you right? If you have different opinions, please leave a message in the comment area

"If you are poor, you will not go to relatives, and if your hands are cold, you will not use the lamp" is similar to the two sentences in our hometown, "Don't look forward to the clouds of dolls in the sky, you will be poor." Don't refer to your mother's family." Overall, it is a relatively reminder of the indifferent side of human nature, and it also warns the world that people should be poor and ambitious, not steamed buns, and strive for reputation.

When people are in poverty and hardship, they must To work hard, to work hard, not to rely on the sky or the place, but to rely on one's own spirit to be self-reliant. There is no hope for a drop in the bucket. In the early days of reform and opening up, material food was relatively scarce, and the spring season was slow. My cousin went to help build a house at his cousin's house. My cousin said that working there would save some food for the family.

My cousin felt very unhappy, so he stopped working when he came back. He just drove a cart into the mountains to cut firewood. After a few days in the mountains, he took the firewood and sold it on the streets to earn money to buy food. Helping others when you are poor will also make others feel that you are taking advantage of them. Of course, they are not all so cold-blooded. After all, there is true love in the world. If they are real relatives, they may join each other to keep each other warm and help each other through difficulties.

When I heard my grandma talk about the large collective, there was a famine at my aunt’s house in the canteen, and my cousins ??were starving. At that time, I heard that our production team was doing well, and we had supplies of sweet potatoes and grains. With the help of milk's protective wings, she survived the lean years. So after my cousin graduated from Xinyang Normal University and started working, no matter how windy or snowy he was, he never forgot to ride a bicycle about 45 kilometers to see my grandma on the second day of the first lunar month every year. Even though grandma had no shortage of food and clothing, she would also buy clothes and give her pocket money. Nowadays, society is materially rich, and it is no longer possible to starve to death. However, there will still be people who are in need of help. People's hearts are full of flesh, and close relatives who are like-minded and have the ability to help should still help.

I feel that the development of society still has a warm-hearted side. Cold-blooded people may exist, and there are their reasons, but after all, they are in the minority, or unless they have their own problems. Personal opinion

The correct expression of the saying "When a person is poor, he does not rely on relatives, and when his hands are cold, he does not use a lamp" is "When a person is poor, he does not rely on relatives, and when his hands are cold, he does not rely on a lamp." It was first proposed by Confucianism. This sentence makes sense and is very consistent with real life.

The main reason for not visiting relatives when you are poor is

When you are poor or downcast, don’t think about relying on relatives to help you, and you should go less often to relatives’ homes to avoid Let your relatives treat you coldly and feel disgusted with you. You must know that no matter how good your relatives are, they can only help you for a while but not for the rest of your life. Just like when you have no food to eat, your relatives can only help you once you are hungry, but cannot feed you a hundred times. , if you rely on relatives for a long time, you will not only be unreliable, but will also be disliked by others, and your family will be alienated, which will eventually lead to embarrassing and inconsistent situations.

Don’t bake the lamp when your hands are cold mainly means

No matter how cold your hands are, don’t bake the fire on the oil lamp. In the past, rural areas used oil lamps for lighting. The flame is very small. If you use the oil lamp to heat the fire with cold hands, you will not be able to keep warm. It will also affect the lighting of the oil lamp. Furthermore, in the past, rural conditions were limited. Using oil lamps to heat the fire is too wasteful and has no effect. Baking the oil lamp fire is just a way of doing things. It is not only ineffective. Warmth also loses one's backbone, and lack of moral integrity is harmful to one's dignity, so freezing to death cannot disgrace one's dignity as a human being.

This sentence is quite inspiring and has a very good educational and warning significance to the world. It is consistent with real life at all times. People must rely on their own efforts and do not expect anyone else. Live with integrity and integrity. Integrity and dignity, don't be humble and compromise. When you are down, you can only work hard on your own. Don't attract others' dislike and cold eyes or do things that are injurious and undignified.

Although this sentence sounds very painful, it is indeed in line with real life, so you should always keep it in mind.

The above personal opinions, welcome your attention or comments

It definitely makes sense. This is a proverb summarized by working people over thousands of years using their life experience and wisdom, and contains rich philosophy of life. These words are passed down from generation to generation and are widely known. On the one hand, they are catchy and easy to remember and spread. On the other hand, I advise people to have integrity and integrity in their conduct, dignity and principles that they abide by.

It is said that when people are poor, they should try not to visit relatives often and should be restrained. Some relatives will show an attitude of being indifferent, which is embarrassing; some relatives will use a preaching attitude, clearly advising but actually sarcastically showing off your wealth, which makes you helpless; what's worse, some relatives will dislike you because you are poor. , embarrassing. The world's human feelings are warm and cold, and the world's warmth and coldness appear because of your poverty. Besides, even sensible relatives can only help you for a while, but they cannot help you for a lifetime. You have to rely on yourself in life. Only by seeing through the present can we clearly discern the truth. As the saying goes, the mortal world is nothing but ups and downs, and life is nothing but impermanence. Therefore, it is said that a person must have integrity and integrity. Although the saying "A poor person cannot stay with relatives" is tacky, the truth is the same. It expresses the reality of society and the warmth and warmth of people.

It is said that no matter how cold your hands are, don’t bake the lamp that breaks through the darkness and shines the light. Because in the past, rural areas relied on oil lamps for lighting at night, which dispelled the darkness and opened people's minds. The oil lamp has a small flame and does not emit much heat, but it can illuminate the light and future and give people hope. Warming your hands with a lamp can not only keep you warm, but also blocks the light, shattering your hope in life and losing the goal you pursue. He is a huge fool, a sign of lack of courage and character. Although there is no small oil lamp in reality, this sentence is to warn everyone not to lose themselves and lose their dignity as a human being for the sake of such a small profit.

I remember when I was a child, I actually used an oil lamp to bake my hands. It was too cold at that time and my hands were so cold that I put my little hands next to the oil lamp to keep them warm. There is indeed warmth in the area close to the flame, but the entire hand is colder because your hand is exposed to the outside. That little bit of warmth cannot warm the whole hand, but the coldness of the whole hand dilutes that warmth. It is really not worth the gain. This also proves the saying "In order to get a crooked-necked tree, you lose the entire forest."

Laozi said in the "Tao Te Ching": "When Heaven moves vigorously, a gentleman strives to constantly strive for self-improvement; when the terrain is flat, a gentleman uses thick soil to carry things." Mencius said: "Therefore, Heaven will send great responsibilities to these people. You must first strain your mind, strain your muscles and bones, starve your skin, deplete your body, and mess up your actions. Therefore, if you are tempted to endure, you will benefit what you can't do. "So, everyone's success is not easy. , we must go through all kinds of hardships before we can win the harbinger of spring. There is no happiness in the world that can be obtained by praying, and there is no happiness that can be obtained by losing dignity. Only through unremitting efforts and hard pursuit can we win a little hope and hope, and finally obtain the ultimate happiness.

Work hard, my friend, don’t let down the good times, don’t let down the entrepreneurial era, your dreams will eventually come true.

A poor person doesn’t go to relatives, and a person with cold hands doesn’t use a lamp.

Regarding this issue, benevolent people have different opinions. I think the focus of this sentence is the first half, and the second half is just a linguistic foil.

People who are poor do not visit relatives. Let’s understand it from the literal meaning: Poverty is divided into financial wealth and spiritual wealth. Spiritual wealth, to put it bluntly, means that there is a relatively high sense of inferiority; relatives are divided into poor relatives or rich friends. Regardless of the situation, I I feel that the etiquette and customs that should be followed need to be magnanimous! I admit that we are poor, but it is not an infectious disease. As long as we don’t steal, rob, default, or owe, we have no shame! We don’t feel humble even if we have a hot face but a cold butt!

Today is the information age, but information may not always jump out of the screen. When people are poor, I think they should go out to relatives more. In this process, it is possible to get a magic weapon for getting rich, because I believe that there are more good people. Information on how to get rich comes faster and more effectively from friends and relatives than from the news broadcast! …

Hello, I am very happy to answer your question. I am Xiaofeng, a young man born in the 1990s who is rooted in the countryside. People who are poor do not visit relatives. I personally feel that this is not very correct. It is a bit extreme. , Relatives are relatives. The relationship between relatives is based on friendship and there is not much conflict of interest. Of course, it is not ruled out that some rich relatives will look down on others, but there is no way. Why are you poor? If you are poor, work hard. Well, right? First of all, you can't give up on yourself, otherwise no one can save you. Of course, if you are asking relatives for help, that's another matter. Others help you because of friendship, and not helping you is a duty. Look at the young commander. Zhang Zuolin said something that is quite useful when he was talking about it. Jianghu is not about fighting and killing, but about human relations. Jianghu also has to pay attention to human relations, let alone relatives. Nowadays, communication is becoming more and more developed, but relatives are becoming farther and farther apart. Don’t you think it’s just because of poverty? Is it really just because poor relatives have less contact with each other?

"If you are poor, don't rely on relatives; if you are cold, don't rely on lights." is a rural proverb.

"If you are poor, don't rely on relatives" means: relying on relatives can only satisfy you that you don't go hungry for a while, but cannot provide you with comprehensive relief, and you will also be disliked by others.

"Cold without relying on a lamp" means: It is useless to heat the lamp when it is frozen. People will also say that you are incompetent and look down on you.

Be a person with integrity and do not accept charity from others unless absolutely necessary. You should also have integrity as a human being and don't do some idle and useless things.

In a word, one must have ambition and the courage to solve difficulties.