As parents, we should guide our children to establish a correct concept of making friends, including "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" and "it is rare to have a bosom friend in life". On the one hand, guide children to seek friends and accept partners, on the other hand, cultivate children's strong will and self-control ability, and don't easily confide their inner pain and unhappiness to friends.
In ancient times, when people talked about self-cultivation, they would talk about several warnings, the most important of which was "Be careful in making friends". The so-called "those who are near Mexico are black, those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black" has been circulating for thousands of years, telling us to be cautious in making friends and to stress principles. Many children say that "the criteria for making friends are excellent grades, power and money", which is an amazing principle. The reason why children have such an idea is influenced by family, peers and bad social atmosphere. Friendship is between friends.
A kind of intimate feeling, making friends is an indispensable part of doing things. For many people, the warmest and truest friendship in life is cultivated in adolescence. Therefore, parents should set an example and take the initiative to help their children establish a correct and serious concept of making friends.
Psychological support
Guide children to establish a correct view of choosing friends; What kind of friends a child makes plays an important role in his physical and mental health and development. With the development of society, children's concept of making friends has changed a lot. Because children are immature and lack social experience and discriminating ability, there are some bad phenomena in choosing friends. Some children make friends in the hope that they can eat, drink and play with them. Others are unwilling to study and always want to copy their friends' homework; There are also friends who are loyal to each other and make friends in order not to be bullied. In this regard, parents should guide their children to establish a correct concept of choosing friends and tell them to be "like-minded" when making friends.
Parents should set an example; Parents are the first objects that children imitate, and the way parents treat their friends will exert a subtle influence on children. For example, parents and friends are mostly fair-weather friends, and they often do things that harm their interests, regardless of their difficulties. In that case, the child will become a selfish person regardless of good or bad when interacting with friends.
Teach children to master the principle of making friends; Guiding children to make good friends, beneficial friends and good friends can make children get friendship and happiness. Teach children to be considerate of friends, if there is a misunderstanding or quarrel between friends. It is necessary to "hold the boat in the belly of the Prime Minister." Learn to be patient and understanding when treating friends; "It's rare to be friends and dare to criticize face to face" and learn to accept the opinions put forward by friends.