In June this year, the People’s Daily talked about the pursuit of exquisite life by some young people today: "Small appliances are not used if they are not brand-name ones; viewing cherry blossoms is not 'brushing' if they are not Japanese; eating bread is not 'whole wheat' Don’t touch it; choose clothes and don’t wear them if they are not ‘designed items’…” it aroused heated discussion among netizens.

Young people have not long entered society and have limited income, but they have not given up pursuing refinement because of this. They have become poor for the life they yearn for and the things they like, and are collectively called "refined poor" by netizens.

The Double Eleven trumpet is about to blow, and the sixth season of "Qi Pa Shuo" also launches a debate topic about "exquisite poverty" at this time:

In this issue We invited a koi guest "Yang Chaoyue". Faced with poverty, she revealed: She once only had a salary of 800 yuan a month, but when she saw a dress she liked on the street, she was willing to spend 700 yuan to buy it decisively. This month The rest of the day was spent on plain porridge.

And when Cai Kangyong asked: Does this skirt bring positive energy? Chaoyue's sister replied:

"The life of young people sometimes feels like eating food, but you can eat it if you can swallow it, so I want to make this food as chocolatey as possible." This season Refreshing Harvard newcomer Xu Jiru shines in the opening scene.

She talked about the story of Dong Shi imitating Xi Shi. Dong Shi did not know the beauty of Xi Shi. Beauty lies in temperament and heart. Blind imitation made her uglier. But Xu Jiru believes that there is nothing wrong with this. This is Dong Shi’s first lesson on the understanding of beauty and the awakening of beauty. Returning to the topic of debate, only by truly experiencing exquisite poverty and feeling it can you make changes.

Here, I feel that between the lines of Ji Ru's words, there is also recognition of the problems of Jingqiong itself, but such problems are not taught by others, but need to be experienced personally. And the well-deserved MVP of this game, I think, is fellow Harvard law student Zhan Qingyun.

From the perspectives of Chaoyue and Jiru, we can hear the righteousness of young people. Is it wrong to pay for what I like? However, Zhan Qingyun said that we are not paying for the things we like, but for the concept of "exquisiteness": "It's because there is a voice that keeps telling us through traffic and Internet celebrities that this is called exquisiteness." .

When my friend saw this paragraph, he blurted out: "Isn't it me you are talking about?" Due to the exquisite scene carefully created by the merchants, more and more things that have been appropriated for other purposes have accumulated in the store. In a small rental house, what Zhan Qingyun said was a series of parallel sentences that never ended.

"When do we feel that we are very close to exquisiteness?" "The moment we place an order." We think that by buying these, we are very close to our role models, but the difference is that our role models Really reading, really running, these all require the accumulation of time. What businesses care about is not time, but the moment when you are instantly improved and then destroyed instantly, that fleeting feeling of pleasure.

As a person who was born in a free shipping area, I can understand Qingyun’s words very well. I choose carefully before each purchase and be cautious. I am very excited at the moment of placing the order, but after the goods arrive, Slowly becoming boring. We are the victims of this world of exquisite illusion, but we are also the builders of this wave of consumption.

Once upon a time, a female college student was ruthlessly exposed by her roommate. In her circle of friends, she looks like a dormitory with ins style and exquisite decoration, but in the eyes of her roommates, it is very sloppy, and the so-called cleanliness in front of the camera is just a small table in the corner of the dormitory, with plain cloth Cover the messy area as a background to pose for the food and yourself in the camera. This kind of exquisiteness requires her to spend at least 4,000 yuan every month.

From a psychological perspective, human nature is always inclined to accept a better and better life. This kind of refinement transcends the efforts we need to accumulate over time and directly reaches the end point of our efforts. When we taste the sweetness in advance, all that remains is hardship.

Some people say: "It's the same enjoyment, wouldn't it be better if I did it in advance?" But the fatal thing is that the process of our enjoyment cannot wait for the time of hard work, and our desires are like a ball that keeps changing. Big ball, when you haven't worked hard enough to support this expenditure, your next desire has already been aimed at you.

In "Friends", Ross met a "refined" girl. When he came to the girl's home, he discovered that refinement was just an appearance:

Pseudo-refined is a person with a certain personality. There is no return to the hallucination maze. The further you go, the deeper you fall, and poverty is just one of the costs.

Do you still remember the famous saying of the money-worshiping girl Ma Nuo in "If You Are the One"? She seemed to be an Internet sensation with one sentence, but was eventually banned by the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television due to her uncivilized behavior.

Huang Zhizhong talked about Zhan Qingyun in the show: He took a loan of 1 million and owed a lot of money abroad to study at Harvard, but he could read "Zhuangzi" quietly on the subway. This inner wealth can continue to pave the way for a better future for her.

Human nature is rough. The so-called refinement is a kind of packaging, which is the phenomenon that we deliberately cover up the roughness. Delicacy itself is not illegal, whether it is refined or rough, it is a kind of existence, and its existence is reasonable.

The difference is that external sophistication requires us to constantly consume it, while inner sophistication can give us constant output.

The former lies in deceiving oneself and being unable to accept the original life, while the latter can truly embrace this originally rough world. Even if one lives a rough life in a rough environment, he still feels fulfilled because of his inner wealth.

Double Eleven is coming, and this year’s overwhelming activities are starting in advance. “The operation is as fierce as a tiger, and the last 25 cents to build the building.

"Looking at the shopping cart on your mobile phone, what are you paying for the concept of "exquisite"?

Take off the burden? Go to a gathering place for young people? Listen to the most authentic voice

The main writer of this article: Mr. Bai Gao

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