Modern education requires the construction of a new teacher-student relationship. The prerequisite for the establishment of a new teacher-student relationship is to abandon the teacher's authority, change the absoluteness and irreplaceability of the teacher's authority in the past, and form a truly harmonious and harmonious teacher-student relationship between teachers and students, so that the teacher's "teaching" is no longer It is a teacher's profession, but has become an emotional need from the teacher's heart. Students no longer regard learning as a painful chore that has to be completed, and turn "I want to learn" into "I want to learn", forming a An inner need for autonomy and self-consciousness. In the teaching and learning activities in which teachers and students jointly participate, a positive interactive relationship is established between teachers and students. The author believes that among the three basic relationships between teachers and students - teaching relationship, interpersonal relationship and social relationship, the teaching relationship is the most essential relationship between teachers and students. Without the teaching relationship, the teacher-student relationship cannot be formed and cannot be realized. The educational mission and training objectives of the school. However, without the cooperation of good social relationships and interpersonal relationships, educational tasks cannot be completed only by teaching relationships. Social relations and interpersonal relationships have motivating and lubricating functions in the teacher-student relationship and can ensure the normal operation of the educational relationship. To build a harmonious teacher-student relationship, that is, to build a harmonious teacher-student teaching relationship, social relationship and interpersonal relationship, the three aspects are complementary and indispensable.

001. Use equality and interaction to build a harmonious teacher-student teaching relationship

00Education is essentially adult learning. According to the framework of humanistic theory, the construction of the teacher-student relationship must take into account the personal nature of teachers and students. The harmonious relationship between teachers and students is the foundation for the existence of teachers and students. Teachers and students are equal in personality and are independent individuals. They must respect each other. The essence of two-way interaction between teachers and students is to enable students to develop, that is, the coordinated development of knowledge, skills, processes, methods and emotions, attitudes, and values ??(three-dimensional goals). It requires that in classroom teaching, teachers and students exchange their own thoughts with others, share their own experiences with others' experiences, and make their own emotions and others' experiences based on mutual understanding, openness, mutual trust and support. The emotional connection of others ultimately forms a dynamic interactive field of active participation, independent thinking, and coordinated development. The realization of this goal relies on teachers using educational wisdom, adopting educational strategies, avoiding formal inefficient and ineffective interactions, and vigorously advocating and promoting effective and efficient interactions where students think seriously and spark collisions of ideas. Teachers must believe in their students and recognize that as long as they are educated properly, they will be able to accomplish something in the future. As Han Yu said: "Disciples do not have to be inferior to their teachers, and teachers do not have to be better than their disciples. There is a priority in learning the Tao, and there is a specialization in skills." That is to say, the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead, and "a young phoenix is ??more clear than the voice of an old phoenix." The student is a grower and an explorer. Students should be allowed to play an active role in this process and improve their level of understanding. Therefore, classroom teaching interaction should try to treat students equally, and give opportunities to each category and every student, so that each student can reveal his or her personality in the interaction, experience the pleasure brought by communication, communication, and dialogue, and truly be in the interaction. Develop and improve.

002. Use dialogue and communication to build a harmonious social relationship between teachers and students

00 The so-called dialogue refers to the communication and exchange method between teachers and students on an equal basis. It is an equal exchange between teachers and students, seeking knowledge and Loving exchanges of spiritual encounters, this kind of dialogue includes both verbal exchanges and in-depth exchanges of knowledge and many aspects. From the perspective of knowledge, teachers and students have a relationship of prophet and hindsight. There is no relationship of superiority and inferiority between the two. From the perspective of emotion, students and teachers are independent in personality, and both students and teachers have their own rich hearts. The world and unique ways of expressing emotions require understanding and respect from both parties. The unity of knowledge and emotion constitutes the basic connotation of the relationship between teachers and students. For teachers, it explores the meaning, educational ideas and concepts hidden behind these events and behaviors through teachers’ narration of certain teaching events, teaching life and daily life, thereby improving teachers’ educational and teaching practices and bringing narrative back to the in the living reality of education.

For students, it improves students' learning practices through their narration of certain learning events, learning life and daily life, and also brings the narrative back to the vivid educational reality. Listening, attracting, and tolerating are the "openness" of teachers and students' thoughts, experiences, and emotions to each other at the spiritual level. Through these dialogues, the educational subject also realizes life dialogue and life dialogue besides teaching dialogue, and therefore, education becomes a real communication activity. Education should be a life-long dialogue, a true expression of the inner emotions of teachers and students, and a display of the personal opinions and wisdom of both parties.

003. Use respect and care to build harmonious interpersonal relationships between teachers and students

00Dialogue and mutual interactions between teachers and students are based on mutual respect and care for each other. On the one hand, dialogue is the prerequisite for direct understanding between the two parties. Only on the basis of understanding can each other respect and care for each other. Through dialogue, the fusion of different "spheres" is generated, and new political consciousness is formed, so that respect and care between teachers and students become possible; on the other hand, dialogue is oriented by respect and care, and respect and care are the purposes of dialogue. Without dialogue, it is difficult to achieve mutual understanding, mutual understanding and acceptance; without respect and care, dialogue will lose its direction. Only when there is mutual respect between subjects, can teachers and students recognize each other, grasp each other's uniqueness, have spiritual encounters and communication with each other, and experience the same experience together; only when there is love between subjects, can teachers and students have mutual respect for each other. The "openness" and "acceptance" of each other can truly enter the other party's spiritual realm, achieve spiritual understanding, and create an equal dialogue. Likewise, teachers should bring smiles and encouragement into the classroom so that every student can enjoy the same joy. Education reformer Li Xigui has a famous saying: "Squat down and talk to the children." As a teacher, we must actively give up the sense of superiority as an authority and try our best to abandon the "podium complex" of being superior. We must get into the students and "squat down" to be equal with the students. In democratic dialogue, we must be good at understanding students, starting from the students' perspective, and understanding the students' emotional feelings. We must be good at "empathy", put ourselves in the students' shoes, understand and think about the problems, and praise them in a timely manner and give appropriate encouragement. , thereby reducing or even eliminating students’ fear and alienation.

00We believe that in this harmonious teacher-student relationship, teachers and students will experience equality, democracy and freedom, respect and trust, friendliness, understanding and tolerance, family affection and care, and at the same time be encouraged and spurred. , encouragement and influence, guidance and advice, to form a positive and rich life attitude and emotional experience.