[ Keywords]: Appreciation Education Adapts to Needs [Text]: James has a famous saying: "The most profound principle of human nature is to want others to appreciate yourself". The so-called appreciation means fully affirming children, and constantly cultivating children's self-esteem and self-confidence through psychological suggestion, so that they not only have the confidence to make progress, but also have the motivation to make progress. Therefore, common sense is essentially an incentive. Most of our teachers often criticize more than encourage when educating students, and even often use some irritating language to attract children's attention. For example, "I have told you many times, but I still can't get rid of this problem. It's so stupid.,,,,," The teacher wants to wake up the children by exposing their pain points. This kind of mood is understandable, but it seriously hurts their self-esteem and self-confidence, and the effect is just the opposite. Therefore, in today's all-round promotion of quality education, kindergarten education in the 21st century has undergone great changes. Our teachers must introduce new concepts and new methods to educate students and advocate appreciation education to meet the needs of contemporary education. So how should we educate children in appreciation to promote their development? First, into the hearts of children, the soul of appreciation education is communication. "In a threesome, there must be a teacher", properly breaking the role boundaries between teachers and children, so that teachers can become children and children can become teachers. The premise of this is that children and teachers should have good emotional communication. Children who do something wrong or have poor academic performance are often under great psychological pressure, feeling inferior, blaming themselves and being at a loss. What he needs at this time is help and comfort. And some of our teachers often take severe criticism in order to teach children a lesson. This educational method will make children lose confidence, stop working hard and even rebel. If we children can adopt a wise and tolerant attitude at this time, for example, in front of children who do bad things, ① you can't discourage children, so we should encourage children and let them feel that the teacher is convinced of his ability and level. Let him know that the road of life can't be smooth sailing, and failure is common. (3) help him analyze the reasons and overcome difficulties. The same is true for children who are in trouble. Children should not feel that they have a bad influence or lost confidence in the teacher's heart. At this time, the teacher should communicate with the children in time to calm the children's fear and let the children feel that he is still full of hope in the teacher's heart. At the same time, you can also give typical examples of yourself or celebrities making mistakes when they were young to educate them, so as to ease children's mentality and encourage them to correct their mistakes. This can not only make education get twice the result with half the effort, but also make children full of trust in teachers and become bosom friends, and at the same time make children cherish everything more and strive for progress. Because of the teacher's appreciation, it seems that a bridge has been built between teachers and students, linking the feelings of teachers and students together. Teachers are not imparting knowledge, but "flowing" knowledge to students easily. Children are not passively accepting, but actively absorbing. Second, tap the potential of children to make them develop. "The essence of success is not afraid of failure. The child fell for the thousandth time, and the teacher should firmly believe that he can stand up for the thousandth time. " Once children make progress, they get timely, pertinent and enthusiastic evaluation from teachers. Even a word of encouragement, an expectant look and a kind gesture will make them feel infinitely warm and leave a deep impression on them. Once they realize that they are valued and appreciated, they will immediately ignite the fire of hope, and their instinctive performance is positive cooperation. Every child's intelligence and innate talent are basically the same, but their final achievements will be very different. This shows that our teachers should know how to educate and appreciate, and should not make a one-size-fits-all approach to education. They should respect children's personality differences, affirm any specialty of children, help them develop, and not discourage children's enthusiasm. And some of our teachers often have such words in education: "You are so stupid,,,," Maybe your teacher's words have obliterated a great pioneering work. Therefore, as a teacher, we should learn to appreciate and guide correctly, so that children's diverse talents and talents can be fully developed, and only in this way can we tap the potential of each student. Children have made achievements in one aspect, so teachers should discover and appreciate them in time, so as to stimulate children to see their own advantages, and they will discover their excellent side from the subconscious, thus driving children's initiative in other aspects and believing that they will do very well in other aspects. Although they are young, they have learned to pursue progress. Children's minds are growing healthily and happily under the nourishment of appreciation education, which lays the foundation for them to become capitalized people in the future. I remember a child named Li Jue-yi, who was very good in all other aspects, but eating was a headache for the teacher. I know from observation and conversation with my parents that she is afraid of eating for various reasons. In view of this situation, I didn't rush to preach to her, but as soon as she just took the first bite of rice, I immediately showed my extreme recognition of her eating ability and asked her to be a small monitor for other children. This emotionally satisfied her emotional needs and narrowed the distance. Then, as soon as I ate, I told her that she was going to be a monitor, which made her feel a sense of accomplishment. Over time, she gradually cultivated her interest in eating. No pains, no gains. Now, the child can finish his meal consciously. Third, appreciation education should also create an environment to indicate the development direction of children. Let children be appreciated and learn to be moved, which is an excellent realm of education. Psychological research shows that people work or study when they are appreciated, and the effect is the best. Once children are appreciated, it will be of great benefit to their immediate study and long-term development in the future. (1) Classroom teaching is an important place for appreciation education. Most of children's cultural knowledge comes from classroom teaching, and they are also educated by teachers in the classroom most of the time at school. Therefore, high-quality classroom teaching is an important factor in cultivating excellent children. Among them, an important part of high-quality classroom teaching is to learn to appreciate young children. I am a math teacher, and one of the characteristics of math teaching is: multiple solutions to one problem. It can not only cultivate children's problem-solving ability, but also cultivate children's learning enthusiasm. Therefore, as a teacher, we should encourage children to think more and think more ways, and we should not be afraid of children's mistakes. Only in this way can children learn actively and may get unexpected gains. When children's methods are better than your teacher's, teachers should learn from children with an open mind, so as to better mobilize children's participation in classroom learning and become the main body of learning. For students with less satisfactory grades, we should find out more about his progress in class, so that his interest can be improved and his initiative can be brought into play to avoid making him a forgotten corner. (2) Appreciation education requires teachers to go deep into children and their families. Appreciation education is not just to say a few beautiful words, it should be able to light the inner spark of children. Therefore, the implementation of appreciation education requires teachers to know more about children, go to children, catch some bright spots of children at any time, and give praise and encouragement in time. At the same time, we should observe, understand and help children continuously, and carefully discover his every progress. In addition, we should get the cooperation of parents to achieve the consistency of parents' and teachers' education, and do a good job in education. However, in the process of implementing appreciation education, children should also find their own shortcomings and treat their achievements and shortcomings correctly. Four: How to treat appreciation education rationally. Children need appreciation, but appreciation should be restrained, principled and specific, otherwise "appreciation" is an addictive drug, and simple appreciation will cause educational disaster. Every child has many innate characteristics, such as appearance, strength, IQ, etc. Many parents, relatives and friends always like to praise their children for their cleverness and beauty. Undoubtedly, the growth of children can not be separated from the encouragement of parents and the praise of teachers. Praise is a kind of encouragement, which is much better than criticism, but it can't go to extremes. It is this kind of praise and appreciation that is extremely unfavorable to children, because children develop themselves according to others' evaluation of themselves. We feel that appreciation should focus on the individual labor and efforts of the recipient, and focus on the future development of the recipient, otherwise, it will lead to the wrong direction. In the education of young children, families and schools should cooperate closely and reach an agreement, and we should firmly establish the concept of "people-oriented". First of all, appreciation cannot solve all educational problems, and "believing that every child is a genius" does not mean that "every child is a genius". If we lack the necessary control over appreciation and "appreciate" all aspects of children indefinitely, there may be a big gap between children's psychological feelings and their reality. At this time, the child may be satisfied with "appreciating" the dreams offered to him, rather than facing the reality. Secondly, appreciation is an important means to motivate children. An important psychological premise of its effectiveness is that every child wants to please adults and every child trusts the authority of adults. And this has buried a crisis: if children are satisfied with appreciation blindly, and children are expected to appreciate from adults blindly, it may eventually lead to an "appreciation dependence". Originally, appreciating children was to motivate them to work hard, but later it turned into children's efforts to gain the appreciation of adults. At this time, do they still have the confidence and motivation to run? Finally, "appreciation" is a bit like a spiritual stimulant. It can really boost people's spirits and increase their strength, but if it is not used properly, it is also harmful to their health. An education expert reminds us: "If there is no standard, no clear educational direction, and appreciation blindly, it will evolve into a kind of" spiritual opium ",and it is impossible for the real world to provide children with" appreciation "of this opium forever." In a word, I feel that as a kindergarten teacher, I shoulder a heavy responsibility. For the healthy development of children, we should correctly appreciate children: (1) We should carefully observe and understand, accurately and specifically tell the performance and achievements of children, and take care of their good intentions and hard work before praising them. (2) Appreciation and praise should be timely. Parents and teachers should always pay attention to every little progress and every little bright spot of their children, and give praise and encouragement in time, so that children can have a sense of accomplishment and pride and promote their continuous progress.