In fact, this was misunderstood by later generations, because everyone ignored the next sentence. In fact, Confucius' original words were "Good for good, why good for good?" It means that you are better to those who are not good to you, so what can you do to repay those who are good to you? So everyone will understand after they understand it. Don't use this sentence to persuade people to be good in the future. Confucius means to repay kindness and revenge, and treat a man as he deals with you.
Now we often hear a saying that "the poor must have something hateful", which means that a person looks poor and lives a very unhappy life. In fact, most of them are caused by themselves, and there are hateful things behind them, which are not worthy of pity. This sentence has penetrated human nature. In fact, there is another sentence in this sentence, which is also very realistic, that is, "hateful people must have bitterness." What does this sentence mean?
We can always see some poor people in life. Some people are beaten by their parents every day and look miserable. But as soon as he left home, he became a person like his parents, bullying people weaker than him, and some people cried that their children were unfilial and didn't give money. Whether the old man is alive or dead, they don't know that the old man is young, doting on his children and uneducated. Some people accused him of being cheated, and all his wealth was cheated without knowing it.
Lu Xun commented on his character Kong Yiji and said, "Poor people must have something hateful." Kong Yiji leads a miserable life, and he can't afford to eat and has no financial resources. People always make fun of him and leave him no dignity. But look what he has done. He always steals other people's books. He also said that the scholar's business can be counted as stealing. Finally, he stole into Juren's house, was broken by someone, and finally lost his dignity. You said he was poor. It is pity, but it is also hateful. Don't be strong, and you can't blame others for that fate.
Let's talk about "hateful people will have bitterness." In reality, when someone has an accident, everyone always likes to explore the reasons behind it. For example, a murderer is hateful, but many people want to know why, because most hateful people have unknown sufferings behind them, they may be treated unfairly as children, they may not survive because of debt disputes, and so on. This is sad suffering, but it is not worthy of sympathy.
These two sentences are actually warning people that when caring for and helping a person, we should distinguish what causes this person, whether it is deliberately pretending to be poor to gain sympathy or having practical difficulties, and not be kind, because most poor people are not worthy of sympathy.
When they get to this point, do what they should do, and don't be too sympathetic to hateful people, because life can dominate you and you can dominate life, depending on whether you can figure it out, let go of the past and embrace a new life. Many hateful people like to complain and blame themselves.