Meaning: Do what you have to say first, and then say it.

"What you say must be done, what you say must be done", a gentleman should do it first and then say it, and he should not look above the top. It is putting the cart before the horse to say well without putting it into action. Such a man will never be a gentleman. Most of these people are giants in words and dwarfs in action. They are complacent about a little achievement, then talk empty talk, and finally accomplish nothing.

In the eyes of Confucius, a gentleman is a virtuous man and a learned man. They will put their ideas into practice first, and then tell others their original ideas after success. For example, the way of monarch, minister and son, the virtue of benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith, before discussing these, only when you have done it yourself can you stand up straight and tell others. The real gentleman is the person who has this behavior of doing first and then saying.

There is a game in the national charity tour of a large love foundation: the tutor asks everyone to look at her, and then asks everyone to put their hands on their chins. When everyone raises their hands to watch the teacher's demonstration, put their hands on their foreheads. This little game tells us that the change of children in a family is not due to parents' blame and preaching, but your every move has a subtle influence on children. Parents are vivid copies of the original. Gorky once said, "Even an old hen can give birth to children. How to guide children well is a homework that parents need to do all their lives."

I remember a parent complaining to me: our children play mobile phones instead of reading books as soon as they get home. I asked him what you were doing when you came home. She suddenly felt something and was shocked. I said, I'll change.

It can be seen how important it is to say "first and then".