Frustration is a compulsory course in life.
Teenagers are in a critical period of psychological and physical development, and it is also the second "weaning period" of life, which is also a "psychological troubled period" for teenagers. Psychologists say: "In all stages of life, adolescence is the most worrying." First, the problems accumulated in childhood maladjustment are more obvious and serious in adolescence; Second, teenagers are the key stage of personal transition from childhood to adulthood. In the process of pursuing independence and establishing oneself, special adaptation difficulties often appear. Third, the junior high school stage is also the formation period of outlook on life and world. During this period, teenagers' concepts of right and wrong, ways of doing things, behavior habits and values all began to show their own personalities, and whether these personalities can adapt to real life will directly affect their psychological endurance and frustration endurance.
Therefore, how to face the difficulties and setbacks in life and study and have a positive and healthy attitude has become one of the key problems that plague teenagers. In fact, the best way to deal with setbacks is to face them bravely.
In the process of striving for your ideal, a person will always encounter many bumps and setbacks, and whether you can cross these "hurdles" depends on whether you have to face them bravely. Only by bravely saying "no" to difficulties and overcoming them with a positive and optimistic attitude can a person become a real strong person. It is with this mentality that all successful people in the world finally succeed with the tenacity of "never giving in in the face of any difficulties".
What is a setback? Frustration refers to a nervous state and emotional reaction when people's will and behavior are disturbed or hindered and they can't achieve their predetermined goals. For everyone, it is inevitable to encounter setbacks. Frustration exists objectively, which has both disadvantages and advantages for people. People with strong ability to resist setbacks are a kind of motivation, which can stimulate the individual's will to work hard and work harder towards their predetermined goals until they reach their goals. In this process, they can face the real society, constantly adjust themselves, constantly overcome difficulties, experience the joy of success, accumulate successful experience, constantly enhance their self-confidence and enhance their sense of life value. For people with weak ability to resist setbacks, setbacks are destruction and will crush people. They usually show that they can't face up to reality, and they are always disappointed and confused about the future. They often take evasive actions to cope with their own environment, and even abuse themselves.
Face setbacks bravely and cultivate the ability to resist setbacks.
Therefore, if you want to completely overcome setbacks, you must cultivate your courage to face setbacks and your ability to resist setbacks. As long as you have these two magic weapons, you are "impeccable" in the face of any difficulties and setbacks. Then, how should we cultivate our courage to face setbacks and our ability to resist setbacks? Let's start with the following points.
1. Face up to setbacks. Don't be afraid of setbacks, but face them objectively. You should realize that the ideal is beautiful, but it is very difficult to realize; Suffering setbacks is a normal phenomenon in people's real life, which is inevitable, so is the social process, and so is the personal growth experience. Participate in more activities, such as organizing stories and reports, learning the correct attitude of celebrities and great men to setbacks, participating in long-distance running and voluntary labor, and gradually cultivating their courage to overcome difficulties; Usually do more difficult questions to temper your will, cultivate your spirit of daring to compete and being good at competition, so that you will not be discouraged in the face of setbacks. Then, I will work hard and climb the peak bravely.
2. Cultivate your self-confidence. Self-confidence is an important symbol of a person's mental health, the soul of a person's life and an invincible spiritual force. Self-confidence is an important psychological quality. Psychologists generally believe that self-confidence and diligence are two important factors for a person to get good grades, and they are also important psychological qualities for students to grow up. The prosperity of the country and the progress of society require people to have these two important factors; The same personal growth needs this kind of self-confidence. In the fierce social competition, this kind of self-confidence is particularly important.
3. Learn to correctly handle interpersonal relationships. Harmonious interpersonal relationship is the guarantee of a person's healthy physical and mental growth. Usually, learn more about interpersonal communication, master the rules of interpersonal relationship and communicate with classmates, so that you can master certain moral concepts, experience certain moral emotions and practice certain moral behaviors in the process of understanding, caring and helping others, and grow up healthily in harmonious interpersonal relationships.
4. Cultivate your endurance and improve the toughness of life. Edison once said, "The most obvious sign of a great man is his strong will. No matter how the environment changes, his original intention and hope will not change, but he will eventually overcome obstacles and achieve the expected goals. " The so-called tolerance refers to the ability of individuals to get rid of difficulties actively and independently and avoid psychological and behavioral abnormalities when encountering setbacks. Positive psychological endurance comes from individual psychological resilience. The so-called psychological resilience is that individuals set a goal and stick to it for a long time. In this process, they will never give up until they do an anticlimactic thing and give up halfway to achieve their goal. If you have indomitable perseverance, indomitable will, indomitable perseverance, optimistic and confident spirit, then your ability to resist setbacks is naturally strong, and your ability to adapt to setbacks is also strong. People who are physically disabled and determined like Zhang Haidi and Sang Lan all have extraordinary willpower. Therefore, sometimes it is more important to cultivate a positive and sound mentality than to exercise a healthy body.
In a word, frustration is temporary for teenagers, but it is also forever. Therefore, how to face setbacks will run through a person's growth. But difficulties and setbacks are definitely the best universities when you grow up.
A child, if he has not experienced difficulties and setbacks in his growth, will not taste the joy of success; A person, if he has not experienced suffering, will never know what happiness is. No matter who it is, as long as he has never tasted hunger and thirst, he will never feel the sweetness of food and water and never know what life is like.
Facing the setbacks in life bravely is a kind of wisdom and a kind of harvest.