Living in this world, in a society with complex relationships and high stakes, you may encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory things at any moment: social injustice, cold treatment by others, misunderstanding; jealousy, slander, and frame-up by colleagues . These dissatisfactions sometimes cause damage to one's own inherent principles and interests. Everyone has a different approach to how to deal with these things. Confucianism advocates adhering to one's own principles and would rather give in than surrender; Legalism advocates treating others in their own way. The approach that is in line with Taoist principles is to use "forbearance" to resolve conflicts, or to use "forbearance" to wait for the opportunity.

If you want to gain a foothold in society, you have to endure temporary humiliation, temper your will, and look for suitable opportunities. This has become an essential psychological quality for a successful person. Only by enduring the injustice that you have suffered and the injustice to society can you preserve your fame and fortune. An old saying goes: "The inchworm bends in order to stretch; the dragon and the snake sting in order to survive." This means that insects like the inchworm can only move forward by bending and stretching, while the reason why dragons and snakes hibernate is to able to survive. This is actually a concrete manifestation of the Taoist idea of ??"retreating to advance". Taoism teaches people not to be alarmed by changes, to be calm and self-sustained, to accumulate more and more, to achieve the goal of using stillness to stop others, using late strikes to control others, using virtuality to respond to reality, using retreat to advance, and using bending to seek extension. "Forbearance" strengthens people's resilience and flexibility in order to meet and withstand various difficulties and challenges. Forbearance is a trade-off between interests. In the final analysis, what people strive for is fame and fortune, and what they endure is the temporary loss of fame and fortune. Really smart people know how to weigh the pros and cons. They value big gains and do not compete for small gains. They fight when they fight and endure when they fight.

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As the saying goes, "People have to bow their heads when they are under the eaves." It means that when your power is not as good as others or the situation is not in your favor, I had to bow my head and give in. To bow your head and give in is to be patient. Relatively speaking, the higher level of "forbearance" means that there is no direct pressure from the outside, and a stage is consciously and actively hidden. This stage can be used to understand the situation in all aspects, eliminate hidden dangers in all aspects, and prepare for future major actions. Preparatory work. This kind of holding back and moving with the camera is an essential quality for those who achieve great things. Of course, Taoism's advocacy of "forbearance" has another purpose, which is to "not fight."

Taoists believe that massacres and failures in the world are all caused by the word "struggle". Those who strive for self-interest are often vulgar and narrow-minded, and they often fight endlessly for the sake of personal gain. In the end, both parties lose, and they waste money and lives. Even if this kind of person can be "tolerant" for a while, the final purpose of this "tolerance" (including the various "tolerance" situations mentioned above) is still to "fight." Therefore, Taoism advocates being indifferent to fame and wealth and not fighting against the world. Since we don’t value fame and fortune, we can naturally avoid fighting and not be harmed by competing for fame and fortune. For those who really look down on fame and fortune, their tolerance comes naturally from their hearts. Only this kind of "forbearance" can truly be open-minded and indifferent to the world, and this is the true Taoist master. Historically, this basic spirit of Taoist thought has formed a Taoist style that transcends the world, is indifferent to fame and fortune, and has a broad mind, and has become the main spiritual comfort for traditional intellectuals, especially hermits in the past dynasties. Relatively speaking, what I mentioned above is only a lower realm, and this kind of "forbearance" is the real great forbearance. Only by achieving this kind of tolerance can one be truly successful as a human being.