First of all, let me talk about two historical examples.
Shi Jie is a good minister to defend the country. Where is his son?
Zhou Yu, the son of Princess Wei Zhuang, was favored by Zhuang Zhuang. Zhou Yu likes military weapons, and the Zhuang people did not ban him. Zhuang Jiang hates him. Shi Jie advised Zhuang Gong to say, "I heard that I like my son. We should educate him with morality and don't let him go astray.
Pride, luxury, debauchery and pleasure are the beginning. These four evils happen because there are too many loves and gifts. If you want to visit the Crown Prince, you should solve them. If it is not solved, it will gradually lead to misfortune. This kind of love is not pride, but can be proud. Few people find people who are satisfied with their status decline without resentment, resentment and restraint.
Moreover, despicable people hinder the nobility, and young people are above everything else. Old age, alienation and intimacy, old and new, the weak bullying the strong, and lust destroying morality are six abnormal phenomena: the monarch behaves normally, his subjects obey orders, his father is kind, his son is filial, his brother loves his brother, and his brother respects his brother. If it is normal and the imitation is abnormal, it will soon cause harm.
As a monarch, he should try his best to eliminate this harm, but now he is accelerating its arrival. I am afraid it is impossible! "ZhuangGong won't listen.
Is it really bad to teach without children?
Ding Wei's son Shi Hou and Zhou Yu are friends. Ding Wei forbade him, but Shi Hou wouldn't listen. When Wei Huan ascended the throne, Shi Jie retaliated and went home.
Later, Zhou Yu killed Wei Huan and established his own monarchy.
Shi Hou asked Ding Wei how to stabilize the throne. Shijie said: "The emperor of the Zhou Dynasty can obtain legal status." Shi Hou said, "How can we go?" Shijie said: "Chen Hua's justice was favored by the emperor. Now, Chen and Wei get along well. If you see Chen Huanggong in the morning and let him make a request, it will be successful. " So Shi Hou followed Zhou Yu to the State of Chen.
Shijie sent someone to tell Chen Guo: "The place guarded by this country is very small. My old man is over seventy years old and can't do anything. These two men did kill the monarch of our country. Get rid of their opportunities. " Chen Guoren caught the two men and asked Wei to send someone to deal with them. In September, the people of Wei sent you to kill Zhou Yu in Chenzhou, and Shijie sent his housekeeper Zangyang to kill Shi Hou in Chen Zhou.
Ding Wei's son is a tiger, and Ding Wei has just killed his relatives. The story is sad to read.
Liu Zi of the Western Jin Dynasty was really totally honest and graceful. He advocates frugality, eating vegetables, wearing clothes, living without a house, earning wages and raising relatives. However, his two sons were unconvincing and were convicted of corruption and bribery. Liu Zizhen was also dismissed twice.
Others involuntarily asked him, "Why don't you give your children a good education?" Liu Taiwei replied: "My life and the world are fascinated by their ears. Even so, they will not follow suit. How to be disciplined? What can be changed? " I think there are two main forms of education, one is preaching, and the other is setting an example. Words are unconfirmed, seeing is believing, and I think the power of example is far greater than words. If such an example can't be taught well, how can it be said that it can't be taught well without children?