To understand the premise of this problem, we must know what the meaning of life is.
People need to know something, inner self, consciousness level, spiritual civilization, high dimension. The thinking in each of us and the system in our brain are uncertain. Our life is controlled by this system. How bad his thinking system is, his life will be correspondingly bad. What we want to change is not external, but should be from the inside out. Try to ask yourself, do you really want to go through your life in an original way of thinking? Even if there is a better quality thinking system, should we turn a blind eye?
In fact, each of us can change this system and add points to our real life, but we should never let ourselves be a perfect victim, but encourage ourselves to be the creator who controls our lives.
I didn't say this sentence, but the famous psychologist alfred adler said it.
A few decades ago, psychology was totally pseudoscience to most ordinary people in China. At that time, people didn't know what psychology was about, and few people had access to orthodox psychological knowledge books. Psychology has been demonized and humiliated for a long time. People will laugh at other people with psychological problems and tell them that it is a shame, instead of helping them. This ignorant behavior has intensified people's inner spirit to the extreme. To this end, a large number of psychologists in China.
But the sowing of psychology has gone through a detour. They predispose psychology to fatalism. Although people are exposed to psychology, they use psychology to make excuses for their unfortunate life. Even based on some fragmented, chicken soup-like psychological knowledge, I quickly sit in the right position, label myself, and then escape with peace of mind, complain about others, complain about the past, find problems but don't solve them, and stop living.
Psychology did not make these people have a positive change, but let them slide from one unfortunate life to another.
In the previous videos, I have always mentioned something about spiritual civilization to you, and the psychology I want to talk about now is a good way to understand the so-called spiritual civilization, give myself a chance, get the best system in the world, and improve the probability of embracing beauty in the future. This opportunity is right in front of us. Please follow me and continue to explore.
Psychology is part of the so-called spiritual civilization.
Once upon a time, there were some psychological works that changed human history in our world. I think everyone should know their existence. alfred adler, one of the great psychologists who brewed this treasure, once wrote a book called Inferiority and Transcendence.
Adler is not a psychologist who only knows theory. He used his early life to explain what inferiority complex is and his adult life to explain how to transcend inferiority complex:
A boy with physical defects can step by step become one of the most famous psychologists of his time by crossing that huge psychological barrier.
We should make a promise for ourselves at this moment, a promise that we only need to see the past and don't have to entangle with it. At this moment, you are the existence of happiness, and joy and peace will blossom a flower of blessing for you.
Psychology can only help us find the causes of our inner problems, but more importantly, it can help us find solutions to our inner problems. When we trace our inner problems with psychological knowledge and find some early trauma, we don't have to ruminate in the early trauma. Adler told people that it is not our past experience that determines our current situation, but the meaning we give it.
Perhaps each of us will have a deeper understanding of psychology after reading Adler's book.
Maybe you have experienced misfortune, but you can still choose again. Your life is not decided by others, but you choose it yourself. Adler's theory is not to make you a perfect victim, but to encourage you to become a creator who controls your own life.
If you are experiencing setbacks in life and want to make changes, you might as well open this book "Inferiority and Transcendence" and gain strength from it.
Adler put forward a point: meaning, which is not a word we usually know. Adler said: Human beings live in a world full of "meaning". We not only live in an objective environment, but more importantly, we can also experience what the environment means to our lives.
In the end, all our experiences depend on our purpose. "Wood" means "wood related to human life" and "stone" means "one of the important elements of human life is stone". This sentence must be carefully considered. This is not nonsense. What Adler means here is that if a person tries to escape meaning and just feels the environment, he will fall into misfortune-he will be isolated from the world and his behavior will be useless and meaningless to himself and others.
But Adler also said that no one can escape this meaning. We must give reality some meaning before we can experience it. What we experience is not reality itself, but our interpretation of reality. So we can think that meaning itself is a field full of fallacies, and the meaning felt by anyone is incomplete or even wrong to some extent.
If I ask you, "What is the meaning of life?" You may not know how to answer at the moment. In fact, most people don't want to bother or try to answer such questions. This problem is as old as human history. To this day, it is often mentioned. No matter what age people are in, they often blurt out: "Why are people alive?" What is the meaning of life? "Objectively speaking, people only ask such questions when they encounter setbacks. If life is smooth sailing, there is no hardship and tempering, this idea will not arise at all. However, Adler said, this question and its answer are all reflected in human behavior without exception. If we listen to him and observe his actions, we can know others' interpretation of the meaning of life, which is consistent with his position, attitude, behavior, expression, hobbies, ambitions, habits and personality characteristics. His every move will show that he relies on some idea to carry out his activities, and this idea is his explanation of life. In all his actions, his estimation and judgment of the world and himself are implied, and he will understand that "I am like this and the world is like that"; At the same time, it also implies the meaning he gave himself and his life.
As mentioned above, the interpretation of the meaning of life will more or less contain fallacies, but everyone will have their own understanding. No one knows the absolute meaning of life, so any relatively effective explanation cannot be called "absolute error". In fact, it is between these two extremes that contains the whole meaning of life. However, we can judge which is right and which is wrong within this range; What is a small mistake and what is a big mistake. From this, we can find out what are the similarities in a good explanation, and what are the falsity and hypocrisy in those unsatisfactory explanations. If we adhere to such universal standards, we can gain the scientific meaning of life and let us face the reality better. At the same time, we must bear in mind that this "truth" is relative to human beings and our purposes. Besides, there is no truth, and even if there is, it has nothing to do with us. Because we can't understand absolute truth, it has no practical significance.
Adler said that all human problems can be classified into three categories: occupational problems, social problems and gender problems. People's different answers to these three questions accurately reveal everyone's understanding of the meaning of life. For example, if a person lacks love in life, is not active in work and doesn't like making friends, in his view, interpersonal communication is painful. This leads to his narrow communication range. Judging from the scope and limitations of his life, he feels that life is full of difficulties and obstacles, and the chances of success in life are very slim for him. In his life, failure will always follow. According to his actions, we can draw a conclusion that life is to protect ourselves from harm, seal ourselves off and ensure our own safety.
Adler also assumed a completely opposite example: a person has a happy love, extensive contacts, smooth interpersonal relationships, good at unity and cooperation, and a successful career. Then we can draw the conclusion that this kind of person regards his life as "a creative process", so his life is full of all kinds of opportunities, because there are no insurmountable difficulties in his eyes. When encountering problems, his courage becomes a spear of judgment. For him, the real life is to know how to care for others, make himself a member of the social family and make contributions to the well-being of mankind.
All the above are about the thoughts of psychologist alfred adler, whose theory has a far-reaching influence in the history of human psychology. I just shared with you some thoughts and knowledge of Adler's psychological research. In fact, Adler wrote all his life's study in this book called Inferiority and Transcendence. To thoroughly study Adler's research knowledge, a video is not enough, and he has more knowledge, which is worthy of our in-depth understanding and study.