We always think about our own interests. What's more, we sacrifice others' interests for our own. Sometimes human nature is so selfish, there is a saying that the devil takes the hindmost.
When you meet a good person, you don't have to think you are lucky. If you don't happen to be a dark person, you are just hypocritical.
And old people often say that dogs that can't bark will bite more, and the darker the heart, the better. Why?
First, it is easier to win the favor of others by keeping a good side.
Whether we are good people or bad people, we prefer to be praised by others rather than pointed at the nose. We all like to hear compliments from others.
It is often said that advice at the most unpleasant time is conducive to action, but in reality, we are often deceived by lies. We know that this is wrong, but we are still addicted to flattery from others.
No matter whether this person is good or bad, we should pretend to be a good person and be willing to maintain our good image in public. Good people do not write "good people" on their faces, and bad people do not write "bad people" on their faces.
Good things always attract others. When we are considered as bad people, we will naturally be isolated and inconvenient for our lives. No matter how unsociable a person is, he still needs to be taken care of on the surface.
We always need help from others. If you are a bad person and behave like this in public, then your life is extremely inconvenient. Some things still need help. The so-called firewood-gathering flame is high. One man and a general are better than a hundred enemies, but it is still the same. You still need the cooperation of the soldiers below to win the battle.
Second, pretend to be a good person and cover up your inner shortcomings.
Sometimes, the less we have, the more we like to show off, just like when we were in school, people with good grades were used to getting high marks in exams, but for those with poor grades, a high mark is worth showing off for half a day.
The same is true in life. The darker our hearts are, the brighter we tend to smile in the crowd, because our hearts are riddled with holes, and we are no longer afraid of losing them, because we have never had them.
This psychology is also explained in this way, that is, what do you think others are showing off? At least, others will show off when they already have it. But when we look at it, we feel that the other person is showing off, because we don't have it ourselves, or because we have desires, we are jealous and then maliciously speculate on others.
Third, I want to get a sense of existence.
We all want to be a good person, even if we pretend to be a good person. Only you know your inner darkness, so that others will feel that you are a good person and are willing to approach yourself.
People are social animals, and no one wants to be lonely all the time. We are all eager to integrate into the big family of society, and we all hope to be recognized by this big family, so we have turned ourselves into what everyone likes, and likes can be disguised, not to mention anything else.
Others think that you are a good person, and naturally they will be willing to have in-depth contact with you, make friends with you, be intimate friends, be girlfriends and so on. So sometimes in order to cater to others and get along with others, we will become people who are contrary to our nature.
We know that a good man will not hurt himself, nor will he be selfish, but only consider his own interests. A good man knows how to share, give, love and help ... A person with a dark heart will be decadent, depressed, emotionally unstable and disgusted.
We like to associate with a good person ourselves, and naturally know that others are the same. Even people with dark psychology will pretend to be a good person by catering to other people's preferences.
In the process of interpersonal communication, whether making intimate friends or looking for an object, it depends on whether that person has the same interests and hobbies as himself, and more importantly, on how the other person's character is, whether he is honest and kind, which is worthy of our long-term development.
There are not many friends, just three or two confidants, and friends with bad conduct are not worth mentioning. Poor interpersonal communication is not as good as enjoying loneliness alone.