Lying in bed, flipping over and over with my phone, making perfect plans for the day and putting them off until tomorrow, playing games until the sky is dark...
Regarding the definition of self-discipline, many people call it Self-discipline is a false proposition.
Many times, we think that self-discipline means: reading books from morning to night; wanting to have a model-like figure, dieting and exercising; not being able to stand the hard work of others and just following what others say.
In fact, this is pseudo-diligence. Self-discipline is a state in which a person lives a regular life, persists in forming habits through one's own efforts, and persists unknowingly.
To be more optimistic, self-discipline is not a painful insistence in our subconscious mind. Every day we focus on whether we should learn or improve other aspects. It is a subconscious state formed with a purpose.
How can we achieve self-discipline?
Seeing this, you are actually great, because you have the purpose of improving. Keep reading, and from Carlo’s experience summary, you will also feel that there is a shortcut to self-discipline!
I feel like I am living in a mud stall, and I also think of what Wilde said: We all live in the gutter, but there are still people who look up at the stars.
The self-discipline method uses the golden rule that runs throughout our lives: What, Why, How. What is solved above, let’s take a look at why!
Why can’t we achieve a state of self-discipline?
Let’s tell a story here. James is a child of a single-parent family and has a younger sister, Lily. James finally went to college with his mother's painstaking insistence, but he did not want to make progress and spent his freshman life in a muddle. One day, her mother was diagnosed with cancer. Before the hospital bed, she told James to take good care of her sister and herself.
He realized that he was helpless, so he began to change his mind. In order to find a good job to support himself and Lily now and after graduation, he studied hard in school and worked part-time in his spare time.
Being in two living conditions, James had no free time for entertainment. If his classmates asked him to go out to watch a movie, he would use a part-time job to avoid it. His life is still tight and stressful, and he makes daily plans to organize his time and energy.
In the end, with unremitting efforts, he won a scholarship and found an enviable job after graduation to support himself and provide for Lily's education.
We can extract from James’ story:
1. Strong determination to change. The beginning of failure to achieve self-discipline is that people who are determined to be self-disciplined have not achieved a change in attitude and mentality. James is facing a desperate situation, so he must overcome it with strength.
2. Improve your goals and direction. James's goal is to support himself and his sister. The reason why his life was chaotic before was that he had no goal or direction to move forward. Like a homeless man on the street, he has no destination in his heart. After having a goal, he continues to achieve it through plans.
3. Life planning and daily planning, and completing goals in stages. James had a life plan after his mother passed away, to support himself and his sister Lily (although it may be relatively ordinary), and to make daily plans to efficiently use his time and energy to do more things.
Under Carlo’s expansion, life planning and daily planning are integrated. Only when life planning is done well and the big goals of development are clearly defined, will there be stage goals, and the next level is the weekly plan. Next is the daily plan. In future updates, we will talk about how to make life plans and daily plans!
3. Overcome excuses and reject temptation. James also resisted his inner thoughts at the invitation of his classmates, telling himself that he was a responsible person and should restrain himself.
For example, when Carlo wakes up in the morning to work out, he will always use the excuse that sweating will make him smell bad. However, after he really overcomes his inner self, he feels really comfortable after exercising.
The following are general rules other than James’ story
5. Use long-term thinking and wake yourself up with the consequences of delaying and failing to realize the plan.
If you don’t want to memorize words in the morning, you can think about how you can ruin a pot of soup because of today’s mouse droppings after persisting for 20 days. Later, your mood will get worse, so you can alert yourself.
6. Stick to it for 21 days.
Persistence is victory, and the 21-day rule has also been verified by TED! I basically persisted for 21 days. This is also the most important point: persist!
Things we insist on without strong willpower will naturally become habits. Then you just get used to it hahaha
7. Think of self-discipline as a muscle and exercise it slowly. Self-discipline is like our muscles, which can only be achieved by exercising slowly. I imagined that if I suddenly jump rope 2,000 times today, my calves will definitely be so painful the next day.
Only by taking it step by step can you slowly adapt to a new living situation and reduce rebound!
8. If you have to do something, do it quickly without thinking! When we set up excuse barriers and imagine that this thing is too difficult, we are consuming our willpower and energy. The more we want to achieve it, the more exhausted our confidence will be. How can we have the energy to do it well? So action is the last word!
9. Have a healthy body and a positive and determined mentality. Fitness is a catalyst for self-discipline. It is very important for many people to improve their spiritual level through caring for their bodies.
A positive and optimistic attitude is also balanced with a healthy body. Only a positive and energetic self will not always think about giving up!
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