Chapter 1: Thoughts after reading "A World Without Complaining"
Complaining is a common behavior in our daily work life. Through careful reading of Will Bowen's I have benefited a lot from this book "A World Without Complaints" and realized the connotation of "No Complaints". In the book, Pastor Bowen said: "The reason why we complain is the same as the reason why we do anything: we realize that complaining will bring benefits. Excellent people do not complain."
一 Read "A World Without Complaining" chapter by chapter. This is a great spiritual inspirational book. After reading this book, my soul was greatly touched. When I slowly immersed myself in the world of the book, I realized that it is actually a mirror of the soul. There is no great truth in it, it is just a very common way and very common examples to tell us an attitude towards life and help us understand ourselves better. In the mirror, we can see whether our appearance is neat and tidy, what expression is on our face, whether it is anger or joy... and this book is a mirror that reflects our hearts, allowing us to see our inner world that cannot be exposed, which is optimism. Upward or negative? We may not express these in our expressions, but we may complain more or less in our words. Of course, some people think that complaining is a kind of catharsis and a way of regulating emotions. I thought the same thing before reading this book: We commonly call complaining "whining" and think that occasionally complaining can help regulate our inner balance and help get rid of the shadow of the soul. But when I finished reading this book Later, I realized that complaining is an epidemic. Your complaining will arouse the screams of others, making complaining a kind of spiritual disease that is passed on. Not only can you not find a solution, but you may also get the pleasure of complaining. Escalating the level of complaints may eventually lead to irreparable consequences. After the protagonist's dog in the book was hit by a car, he almost became a slave to anger and complaints. It was reason that made the protagonist stop complaining and not make things worse. Reason is the inner world's response to oneself. Rational analysis and understanding of behavior, and all of this is what "non-complaining" can give us.
In the book, I saw that there were many people like me. Suddenly I found myself a person with so many complaints, and I felt a little more uneasy. But a sentence in the book suddenly made me realize: " Face your emotions honestly, be content with your own uneasiness, and don’t panic when you discover your own shortcomings. Since it has already occurred, you should face it honestly and bravely; you should find a way to end it, and then you can finally be content with your own uneasiness." . The book requires us to have the courage to analyze ourselves, identify our shortcomings, and have the courage to change ourselves. From talking less, to learning to be silent, to being comfortable not being silent, to being comfortable not speaking, in the end you can truly have a "world without complaints." When we no longer complain, all we have left is happiness. When everyone abandons complaining, the world will definitely be more harmonious.
Finally, quote Bill Gates: "Life is unequal, accept it. Remember, never complain."
Chapter 2: "No After reading "The World of Complaint"
When I got this book, I was thinking that this might be another book that talks about great truths. With doubts, I started my reading journey, and I also wore a purple bracelet on my hand, but I couldn’t believe that it would be of any use to me...
But when As I slowly immersed myself in the world of the book, I suddenly discovered that it was actually a mirror of the soul. There is no great truth in it, it just uses a very common way and very common examples to tell us an attitude towards life. Let us know ourselves better. In the mirror, we can see whether our appearance is neat and tidy, what expression is on our face, whether we are angry or sad... and what is in this book is a mirror that reflects our hearts, allowing us to see ourselves. The inner world that cannot be exposed: is it optimistic or negative? We may not express these in our expressions, but we may complain more or less in our words. Of course, some people think that complaining is a kind of catharsis; a way of regulating emotions. I thought the same thing before reading this book: We commonly call complaining "whining" and believe that complaining occasionally helps to regulate one's inner balance and help get rid of the shadow of the soul.
But after I read this book, I realized that complaining is an epidemic. Your complaints will arouse the cries of others, making complaints a kind of transmitted spiritual disease. Not only can no solution be found, It may also cause you to escalate your complaints because of the pleasure of complaining, which may eventually lead to uncontrollable results. After the protagonist's dog in the book was hit by a car, he almost became a slave to anger and complaints. It was reason that made the protagonist stop complaining and not make things worse. Reason is the rational analysis and understanding of one's own behavior in the inner world, and all of this is what "non-complaining" can give us.
The purple bracelets were exchanged back and forth on my hands, which made me very uneasy. I never thought that there were so many complaints and dissatisfaction in my heart. I seem to have no control over my emotions at all. I am very scared to face this result. What should I do? But in the book, I saw that there were many people like me who suddenly found themselves in an uneasy mood with so many complaints. However, a sentence in the book suddenly made me realize, "Be honest with your emotions. "Be content with your own insecurity", yes, don't panic when you find your own shortcomings. Since it has already occurred, you should face it honestly and bravely; you should find a way to end it; only then can you finally "be content with your own insecurity" . The book requires us to have the courage to analyze ourselves, identify our shortcomings, and have the courage to change ourselves. Since he likes to complain, then try to find a way to keep him in his heart and unable to speak out. "Catch those words before they are spoken." In this way, "Your purple bracelet has changed from a tool that allows you to find out that you are complaining. Be the filter your words pass through before they are spoken.” Once you learn to be silent, and then become content with not speaking, you can finally have a "world without complaints."
When we no longer complain, our hearts are left with only happiness; when everyone abandons complaining, then the world will definitely be more harmonious. I don’t want to think too much, start from myself, start from today, so that I can have a "world without complaining". Finally, I quote a sentence from Bill Gates: "Life is unequal, accept it. Please remember, Never complain!"
Part 3: Essay on a world without complaints
On Saturday morning, October 9th, at 11:30, I finally read this largest and most popular book in the United States. After reading the book "A World Without Complaints" by Will Bowen, one of the most respected spiritual teachers, I feel that I have gained a lot. It is a good reference book worth recommending to all of us. After reading it, we will change our destiny. At the same time, the sentences in the article are of essence, philosophy and the true meaning of life. Every sentence is worthy of collection, worthy of being used as a secret to success in our LP journey and as a magic weapon for leadership quality!
"Not complaining is happiness and a benign display of action." "If any individual or team wants to succeed, they should never complain, because complaining is not as good as changing. They must have the tolerance to accept criticism and solve problems." "The power of action of questions" I want to cherish these two sentences very much, because they are very important to my life. In real life, when facing difficulties and setbacks, it is inevitable to feel frustrated and complain. Everything in the world is actually fair to everyone, and everyone is equal. The main thing is your acceptance attitude in the face of difficulties and setbacks. In your career and in your life, you should never view the world with suspicion, because that will only make you lose your fighting spirit, lose your motivation to move forward, and become blurred. My own grand goals and vision for life!
For example, in the process of inspiring 3c, as a Linzhou student, I have been complaining from the beginning. Because Linzhou has held large-scale basic courses locally, and because it is public welfare, the tuition is low and the venue is right at home. Therefore, it is very difficult to inspire. We ourselves have been complaining, and the environment makes it difficult for us to inspire...
Various reasons are used as excuses, and various complaints are repeated... Today I finished reading "The World Without Complaining" , my will became stronger. I must pay attention to the focus of inspiration. Our inspiration is to change the people around us and help them grow. It is responsible for them and it is the obligation of our outstanding leaders. I must be inspired, I must take action to get results, I must have 3C in the real sense, I succeeded, I am happy, this is the game of the brave, the paradise of adventurers, I must firmly step down to LP! Complete all results 100%!
So leaders of LP, let us start from now on, stop looking for excuses, stop complaining, and focus on the target, so that we can be 100% committed and 100% excellent.
Work hard, teammates!
Part 4: Review of a world without complaints
Dear colleagues, hello everyone!
Recently, the chairman recommended to us the latest masterpiece "A World Without Complaint" by American spiritual guru Will Bowen. I was lucky enough to read it first. This book is indeed worthy of our serious study and understanding. I believe it will benefit you a lot, even improve your destiny, and enjoy the happiness of work and life!
A person must work and develop himself throughout his life. Everyone hopes to realize his best wishes and ideals, but it takes a lifetime of struggle to realize them. However, in real life, each of us will inevitably encounter many setbacks and failures or unsatisfactory things. Whenever this happens, some people cannot treat it correctly and become dissatisfied, causing a lot of complaints and complaints. They are often blaming the sky, the land, fate, colleagues, and leaders...
In fact, the biggest complaint is The victim is yourself. Some people think they are talented, but they are not promoted. They suspect that the environment is not good, and they always complain about their work. They do not think it is their responsibility to take the initiative to complete the work, but take complaints and complaints as a matter of course; there are also many people They are self-proclaimed and high-minded but have low ambitions. They often feel that their abilities have not been demonstrated, that their leaders do not value them, and that their units are unfair to them. As a result, they have serious ideological resistance. Their intelligence is not used to think about how to do their jobs perfectly, but Complaining all day long is a waste of good time and energy in neglect and waste. Once a person is bound by complaints and does not do his best to cope with the work, he will destroy his future in any organization. No one will get rewards or promotions for complaining endlessly. At least 9 out of 10 unemployed people complain about their former superiors or colleagues. Very few people can realize that their unemployment is the result of dereliction of duty.
Yuan Hui is a car mechanic. He complained from the beginning that he was "too dirty and tired" and hated the job, so he was lazy and cheating to deal with the master. A few years later, the two co-workers who joined him at the factory were either sent to university by the company for further studies or found other jobs due to their superb skills. Only Yuan Hui is still complaining about being the repairman he hates. Of course, the result of complaining will not be more attention, promotion, or better treatment. Not complaining is the most basic morality.
If you choose to work in a certain unit, you should stay in your position, fulfill your responsibilities, and pursue your duties. You should devote yourself to the specific work and insist on doing your best for the things you undertake. Be fully committed, proactive and responsible. In this way, you will get great training and growth. When you truly have a sense of responsibility and a comprehensive working ability, I believe you will definitely develop.
A unit, a company, a leader, they will pay attention to talents and select talents. Everyone, regardless of their position, should fully demonstrate their intelligence and talents at work. When you achieve results and make contributions through hard work, that is when you are recognized and valued, reflect your personal value, and enjoy your work.
Every effort will be rewarded, and only by having no complaints can you have no regrets. This is also my practical experience in my life’s work!
I would like to encourage all my colleagues!
Part 5: Reflections after reading "A World Without Complaints"
I read a book "A World Without Complaints" during the winter vacation. After reading it for the first time, I felt it was very mediocre. But after reading it carefully, I really understood the truth. Some people may say that if you don’t complain, how can people vent? If you don’t complain for a long time, will you get sick? In fact, not complaining is a state of life, a way of letting go of frustration and dissatisfaction to find and pursue new goals. If you truly don't complain and work hard, your career will be more successful and your life will be better.
In real life, when we are eager to find happiness and happiness in life, each of us will inevitably encounter many setbacks, failures or unsatisfactory things. Whenever this happens, some people cannot treat them correctly and become dissatisfied, causing a lot of grumbles and complaints. They often blame the world, the land, fate, colleagues, and leaders... In fact, the biggest victim of complaints is oneself. Although complaining has no obvious negative consequences, a grateful, tolerant and generous attitude will bring us another kind of life. If we do this, our life will be happier.
Not complaining requires a process. Join the "No Complaining" activity, wear a purple bracelet, let happiness replace complaining, and close the door to complaining.
The so-called complaint is to express sadness, pain or dissatisfaction. However, there are actually very few events in life that give us reason to complain. A person who complains is unhappy. He will always stay at the unhappy starting point without realizing the changes he needs in his thinking and behavior. Complaining is easy, but stopping complaining requires willpower. It is difficult for a person to "not complain". When encountering any difficulties in life, it seems to be a natural thing to complain and vomit bitterness. But don’t forget an important theory, the “law of attraction.” You must know that when a person says something negative and unhappy, he will receive negative and unhappy things. When your mouth stops expressing negative thoughts, your mind can think of other, happier thoughts. Your mind is like a thought factory, operating all the time. If there is a lack of market for negative thoughts, the factory will be reorganized and reorganized to produce happy thoughts. Zhang Defen's words left a deep impression on me. There are only three kinds of things in the world: my things, his things, and God's things. Those who complain about themselves should try to learn to accept themselves; those who complain about others should try to turn their complaints into requests; those who complain about God, please try to express your wishes in the form of prayer. In this way, your life will have an unimaginable change, and your life will become more beautiful and complete.
If you think about it carefully, there are really very few reasons to complain in life, but no one wants to complain, but they can't help but complain. Maybe after many setbacks and hardships, people need to complain more, but what is the use of complaining, and what problems can it solve? After complaining for a long time, maybe one day we will truly become the modern "Xianglin Sisters". We must learn to give up more and let go of the hurt and pain caused by past setbacks. We must be confident in the future and find more excuses for ourselves to move forward.
At work, we should give up complaining. We often complain about the poor working environment, lack of harmony among colleagues, low wages, etc. But when we give up complaining, feel grateful, and put into work with a tolerant heart, you will find that everything you expected has been " Everything will fall into place." Complaining too much will not only fail to solve the problem, but will only make you feel worse. After you learn not to complain, you will feel more cheerful and have the energy to face various problems in life.
There are many wise sayings in the book, but I have deeply remembered one sentence: If anyone and a team want to succeed, they should never complain, because complaining is not as good as changing, and they must have a tolerance to accept criticism, and Problem-solving action. Friends, try joining the No Complaint campaign! Don’t rush through this process, it’s not a race, it’s a process. From the moment you wear the purple bracelet, you are changing. You are using your will to complete a challenge and create for yourself the challenge of a life without resentment in which your dreams come true. Give up complaining and believe in yourself!
Chapter 6: Thoughts after reading "A World Without Complaints"
There are too many complaints, criticisms and gossips in this world. If you want to change all this, take a look. Complain about the world of this book!
Everyone will complain and criticize to some extent in a day, and of course, they will also gossip. However, these are all bad behaviors, and some people want to change them but cannot. The book "A World Without Complaints" tells you exactly how to correct them. First, let you wear a purple bracelet. As soon as you notice that you have some complaints, criticisms, or gossip about others, put the bracelet on the other hand until you do not move the bracelet for 21 days.
In a world of complaints, there is no special happiness, resentment is everywhere, and everyone has a sullen face. Is such a life still interesting? Why don't we all be more open-minded and make this world a world without complaints? In a world without complaints, everyone is happy, everyone is sunny, cheerful, and optimistic, so why worry about trivial things? Is what you're complaining about worth it? Is what you're complaining about really that important?
When you encounter misfortune, please do not complain; when others encounter misfortune, please do not stand by indifferently; when you encounter someone who makes a mistake, please do not criticize harshly; let us live in a world where we do not complain , in a warm world.
Remember, restrain yourself when complaining, so that you can make your life better!
Chapter 7: Thoughts after reading a world without complaints
I have long heard about the magic of "purple bracelets" and finally have the opportunity to experience it. But as the opening line of "A World Without Complaints" says, the "purple bracelet" is just a symbol, a medium, and a means. The most fundamental thing is to change one's own heart. Perhaps it is difficult and painful to truly achieve "no complaining". In fact, this is just a process of finding inner peace.
The book "The World Without Complaining" mentions many details in life that we often "complain" about. We always "complain" about how bad others are, and "complain" about how unfavorable the external environment is. What is said in the book reminds me of the recently popular TV series "Defense of Marriage". When the director of the show, Zhao Baogang, was asked, "What is the secret to victory in the Defense of Marriage and a win-win situation?", he replied: " Don’t try to ask others, all you have to do is change yourself.” I think Director Zhao’s words are similar to the spiritual realm advocated by “No Complaining”. As the saying goes, mentality determines state. Only by correcting our own mentality can we discover the beauty of others.
Recalling when I was in college, I would always hear about another quarrel in which dormitory. When asked the reason, it was just who was not good at hygiene or who went to bed too late and affected others. It's always the trivial things that start a war. The four of us in the dormitory do not have any opinions on each other, but we have never had any quarrels, just because we are good at patience, understanding, and communication. The way people get along with each other is always like this: be merciful and merciful. If you have time to clean, how about helping others clean? If you really affect others, why can't you empathize with others and change your daily routine? In fact, many things always seem so simple, but I don't know why humans always complicate them. Doesn’t “not complaining” mean being more patient, understanding, and communicating with others, and being more introspective, demanding, and changing yourself?
Thinking about the current work, day after day, sometimes we work very hard, but the results are very small, so we always look for reasons in others, such and such does not cooperate, the guidance is incorrect, the opponent is too Powerful... Wait, there are always thousands of reasons, but none of them are about myself. Even if they are, it is because of bad luck or something. Now think about it, in fact, the only one we can "complain" about is ourselves. Only by "complaining about ourselves" can it be transformed into productivity and motivation for progress. This kind of "complaint" is meaningful to others and ourselves. Complaining about others and the outside world is stupid and useless. This negative mentality will make you never make progress and achieve success.
Many times, we feel unhappy because we have too many demands but cannot achieve them; many times, we feel disappointed because we always create the objective world according to our own imagination, but cannot achieve it. Discovered that the facts turned out not to be what they thought. It is really easy to want to be happy, just cherish the present; it is really easy to want to be satisfied, just accept the reality with a normal heart.
Read "Don't Complain About the World" and use the "Purple Bracelet" to remind yourself at all times: Never try to ask others, all you have to do is change yourself!
Chapter 8: Thoughts after reading "A World Without Complaints"
When you wake up in the morning and haven't had time to enjoy a ray of sunshine in the morning, you have already found that you have enjoyed watching a movie last night. You overslept due to a dripping football match, and you hurriedly packed your bags and boarded a taxi. What kind of mentality should you have in the car at this moment? Are you complaining that you shouldn't have stayed up late last night, or urging the driver to speed up? In fact, you don’t have to complain about yourself at this moment, because the facts are unchangeable. No matter how much you complain or regret, you can’t change the fact that you are late for work. So why not leave everything to the driver. And you only need a peaceful and grateful heart to enjoy the wonderful time at this moment.
The book "The World Without Complaints" originally described a "Purple Bracelet" game. This is a "no complain" movement initiated by the famous American spiritual teacher Will Bowen. Each participant wears a special purple bracelet. As soon as he notices that he is complaining, he will change the bracelet to On the other hand, and so on, until the bracelet can be worn continuously on the same hand for 21 days.
We like to complain because we feel that the current events have deprived us of our happiness.
From simply complaining about the weather, complaining about traffic jams, complaining about colleagues and friends around us failing to do things as we expected, the obvious fact is that our complaints are unlikely to bring about a change in things, but instead amplify the unsatisfactory facts. , and then punish yourself.
From another perspective, complaining is essentially a manifestation of our lack of happiness. When we encounter complaints, if we change our mindset, change our way of thinking, face it calmly, solve the root cause of the problem, and try to enhance our sense of happiness, will those complaints still follow? ? Maybe some people think that happiness is sitting in a rocking chair and lazily enjoying the sunshine on a winter afternoon; while for other people, happiness is when they buy a house, have a car, marry a wife, have children, and then Basking in the sun on a winter afternoon. However, we all know that the sun is still the same sun. Therefore, happiness is not determined by external material factors or humanistic factors, but depends on yourself. To be a non-complaining person, you must first learn how to make yourself happy.
Since ancient times, our ancestors have all revealed the concept of active life in their writings. For example, Su Dongpo recorded a classic dialogue between Su Zi and a guest in his eternal masterpiece "Chibi Fu". : The guest said: "My son and I are fishing and woodcutting on the river, and we are friends with fish and shrimps and elk. We ride in a small boat with a leaf, and hold up a bottle to belong to each other. We send mayflies to the sky and the earth, a drop in the vast sea. I am sorry for my life. For a moment, I admired the infiniteness of the Yangtze River. I carried the flying fairy to swim, and I held the bright moon until the end. I didn't know it was unexpected, but it was left in the sad wind." The guest's words revealed that he was just a small person in the world. The character's complaints express the feeling that life is short. But Su Zi answered the guest like this: "Does the guest also know that water and the moon are like this? Those who have passed away are like this, but they have not yet passed away; those who are full and weak are like that, but the dead are not waxing and waning. Look at the changes in Gai and Jiang. , then the heaven and earth cannot last for a moment. If we look at it from the perspective of being unchanging, then things and I are endless, so why should we envy each other? Don’t take it. Only the cool breeze on the river and the bright moon in the mountains can be heard by the ears, and can be seen by the eyes. They are inexhaustible, and they are the endless treasures of the Creator. "So appropriate." It means that if you look at the seemingly eternal things in the world with a changing perspective, they cannot actually exist for a moment, but if you look at them with an unchanging perspective, in fact they are the same as us. They are all endless. All things in the world have their own final belongings. They are not what we should own. Even if we only have a little bit, we cannot possess them. The breeze on the river, the bright moon in the mountains, these beautiful mountains and rivers, in fact, They are all gifts given to us by the Creator. Two people facing the same river and the bright moon have two completely different worlds. This sharp contrast reflects exactly what kind of mentality we should have when facing life.
There is a word in our company’s corporate culture and code of conduct called “atmosphere”. Atmosphere is an attitude towards life, a state of mind that we should have when facing unsatisfactory things in work, life, and study. Sometimes during the work process, when a leader assigns tasks to his subordinates, he often repeats them twice, but still cannot make the subordinates understand what he means. At this time, the leader often complains that his subordinates did not listen to what he said. , in turn, subordinates will complain that their leaders are not competent enough. If you can calm down and patiently explain it for the third and fourth time, then your subordinates may understand that it is not only the subordinates who should review at this time, but also the leader who should take responsibility. Being generous means that when something goes wrong, you should look for the cause within yourself instead of focusing on others. Douglas Lelton mentioned in the book that when you complain about others, you actually subconsciously imply this: I am not responsible, and I am right. Members who emphasize their own correctness and excuse themselves are also unpopular in the team, so whether they are leaders or ordinary members of the team, they should not complain and should review whether they have fulfilled their role in the team.
For the role of a real estate consultant, we encounter different types of customers and different things happen every day. Maybe during the reception process, we will find that this customer will constantly find fault with the product. Even after visiting the construction site and model houses back and forth, they complained more about our shortcomings. Some customers even had great disputes about the legal terms of some contracts when signing the contract, using extremely vicious attitudes and abusive language. , we have received many customers like this. As sales staff and service staff, what we show to our customers is always a positive and confident side. This is not only a reflection of personal abilities, but also a benchmark for corporate culture and company image. In the face of customer complaints, we listen more, guide them and explain patiently, face each customer with a peaceful attitude, think from the other person's perspective, find out the key to the problem, and contribute to the company. Create more value.
However, not complaining does not mean blindly condoning development, which will form another negative mentality. There are three kinds of things in the world: one's own affairs, other people's affairs, and God's thing. Our troubles come from forgetting our own affairs, meddling in other people's affairs, and worrying that God cannot take care of things. Therefore, what is explained above is not to complain about other people's affairs and God's affairs, but you should do your best to change your own affairs. This is the so-called "a gentleman sees an opportunity and an expert knows his fate"!
Use an attitude of not being happy with things and not being sad with yourself, feeling refreshed by drinking from the fountain of greed, and having an optimistic attitude that is still joyful when facing obstacles. Face all the troubles in life and believe in everything. Difficulties will be easily solved.