But at the fork in the road of life, there are always people who misunderstand their reputation, so that one goes to vulgarity. Liu Xianting in Qing Dynasty said in Yang Guang's Miscellanies that "a truly learned person will not be in a hurry to seek fame." What kind of lofty mentality is this? This has been the case since ancient times. Usually, true fame falls on poverty, while false fame rushes to wealth. Standing in front of the rich and the poor, you are willing to have a noble and poor backbone; Or are you willing to grovel and walk into a vulgar and dignified rich man? This involves a question of values. What you need to think clearly is: how to treat reputation correctly.
Many times, our reputation is not evaluated by ourselves, but often comes from others. What we can do is to match words with deeds, do every detail well and show our unique personality. Liu Bei has a saying: "Don't do it for small, don't do it for small." Pushkin also said: "cherish clothes and start from a new time;" Cherish your reputation and start from an early age. "In fact, good word of mouth is accumulated from small things.
Speaking of which, I remembered a short story. In ancient times, there was a man named Gao Jinghua. He is a loyal, honest and frank person. One day, he asked his son to sell a horse with eye disease. My son took the horse to the market and sold it quickly. He was very happy and went home excitedly with the money. Seeing that his son sold the horse so quickly, Gao Jinghua asked, "Did you tell others that the horse has eye diseases?" The son replied in a low voice, "No". Gao Jinghua is very angry. After scolding his son, he took his son back to the market to find a horse buyer. Explain the real situation to the buyer of the horse and state that if you refuse to buy the horse now, you can return the money to him. The man was very moved and then renegotiated the price. Gao Jinghua returned the overcharged money to him. People in the market witnessed all this and turned their eyes to Gao Jinghua with approval.
Gao Jinghua's son cheated others, although he could get temporary benefits, but he almost lost his family's reputation as a man. Gao Jinghua, on the other hand, pays attention to his reputation, preferring to earn less money and maintain his reputation. These are two completely different ideas. This story tells us that gold can be found back if it is lost. However, once the reputation is lost, it is difficult to recover it. It can be seen that credibility is more important than money. We must keep a good reputation and don't do anything to damage it for money.
Fame is always closely related to us. When Dayu was ordered to go home three times to save the people, people remembered him and gave him an excellent reputation. When Shao Bo sat under the Gan Tang tree and listened to the people's voices to understand their sufferings, people remembered him and brought him a good reputation. When Emperor Taizong laughed heartily, people remembered his words: "Water can carry a boat, but it can also overturn it."
Perhaps, a temporary falsehood will be good for your name, but only temporarily. One day, the essence of things will surface, and then there will be only helpless regrets and regrets. Fame has never been directly proportional to money or happiness. Good word-of-mouth is a kind of continuous accumulation and a little refraction. When the quantitative change accumulates to a certain extent, the qualitative change will certainly keep up in time.
When you have the ability to help others, why not do more things that are convenient and helpful to others? Of course, everyone makes mistakes sometimes, but as long as we can treat them correctly and guide them with a peaceful mind, we will certainly be able to minimize the major events and minimize the minor ones. Therefore, when others misunderstand us, we might as well explain it in time, explain it clearly to each other in time, and safeguard our personality with appropriate methods, so that our reputation will naturally be cherished.